be you, self-love

Perfectly Imperfect

It will never be perfect, but perfect is overrated. Perfect is boring.”

Tina Fey

Perfect is indeed boring and what a relief! We need only be ourselves in our perfectly imperfect ways. I like it!

Just wake up everyday being all us just the way we are.

Woo hoo. Sounds good to me 🙂 What about you? Are you in and all in?

♥ Let’s do this imperfect thing. 🙂 ♥

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Self-care, self-love

Self-Care & Making Moments That Matter

Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time: for that’s the stuff life is made of.

benjamin franklin

2020 a brand new decade! A brand new play ground for YOU!

I hope 2020 encourages you to get crystal clear on what makes you happy and what you enJOY doing and to do more of that!

Each day includes 24 hours and so much of that is used for sleeping and working and hopefully loving what you do. But what about the rest of the time? Are you filling those moments with the things that really matter to you?

The moments in between the structure are truly golden moments and we must seize the golden opportunities! The beauty in these moments that please us might even be the simple ones to plan like just stopping to enJOY a cup of tea, or taking a 5 to 10 minute delicious nap, or reading to a child, reading a book, trying a new recipe… the list is endless but the point is that we MAKE these precious moments a priority in our lives….. that we recognize that we matter and the moments that matter to us most matter! 🙂

We hear the word self-care used a lot and for good reason. It is a real priority and should be always. The happier and more fulfilled we feel in life, the more we enJOY it the journey, and the more everyone around us benefits. Self-love is an energy that spreads to others and makes them feel better too! It is a beautiful thing. So the more you can do the things that bring you the greatest pleasure or that give you peace of mind, the more you have a cosmic affect on the whole. What you do for yourself you also do for others. With this in mind it might encourage you even more to honor and love yourself. In fact why not love yourself all up? 🙂

So here is an idea: Take a piece of paper out right now or grab your phone and start making a list of the more’s, or the enhancements that you are going to add into your life to increase your JOY factor.

For example:

. reading more good books

. listening to more music that makes you happy

. trying new recipes

. more walks

. more laughter

. more quite time

. more organization

. more simplicity

….. etc. etc. As always the list is endless. Get creative, honor yourself and most of all have fun with this!

Happy New Year my friends!

compassion, kindess, self-love

What If We Just Stopped The Madness?

A woman wears the ocean as a dress.

To dream of the person you would like to be is to waste the person you are.

Anonymous

I am so trying to be more compassionate with myself. What about you? Are you able to enJOY the version of you right now? Or do you struggle with longing for a former version of yourself or a future version of you?

What if we just stopped this madness and got ok with us right now? I was chatting with my hair dresser the other day and was mentioning that I had gained weight and she had mentioned she had lost some. I shared with her how I was deciding to be okay with the fact that I had gained weight because I know that at the end of my life I will absolutely think that I wish I hadn’t wasted so much of my life worrying or beating myself up. I am sure I would wish I had used those precious moments of life to be happy rather than having negative feelings about myself. She agreed. 🙂

And we all go through these things. We gain, we lose, we change habits, we fall off of our tracks, we get back on, etc. etc. This applies to anything in our life. Healthy habits, positive thinking, working out, being kind to ourselves or not….. the cycle just continues…. We all go up and down in these cycles but really we are always just doing the best we can at the time we are doing it.

What if we just STOPPED? Stopped the madness of judging ourselves and others and turned to JOY and acceptance? What is we turned to Compassion and Kindness for self and others?

WOW, I think it would make a huge difference. Don’t you? 🙂

I wish whoever is reading this, personal peace, self-love, kindness and most of all lots of LOVE!

Self-Discovery, self-love

Lose Your Cares & Transform Your Life!

How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something but to be someone.

coco chanel

Wow. I love this quote! In a nutshell, we just need to be us … being us. I love it!

I discovered this a few years back. Who was I? A life coach? What type? A business coach? A speaker? A writer? A healer? And the list went on. NO I realized and shouted to myself “I am ME being ME“… ME inspiring others through coaching, writing, healing, words, speaking, blogging, etc….. It was a beautiful moment when it clicked. 🙂 I got that it wasn’t about ‘what’ I was being, but about ‘who’ I was being.

Maybe take some time today to reflect on ‘who’ you are and encourage yourself to let you be the full and biggest and best version of you being YOU!

In love an light…..

Maggie

Emotional Health, Encouragement, Mental Health, Self-care

Sharing Some Vulnerability Around Mental & Emotional Health

Laugh Cry Smile Keys Representing Different Emotions

It is Saturday morning and I am writing this blog post to express my feelings and then I am going to go for a much needed rest. I have become very behind on my sleep and it’s starting to show in my mental and emotional health. It’s funny actually because I have been behind on my sleep because I am so excited about life but now it has taken a toll on me and is now the content of this blog post.

I was thinking how we easily share with others that we have a cold or the flu or an ache or pain, but when it comes to our emotional and mental health, we sometimes don’t share this with others and it comes out in ways that are now always positive.

Yesterday, I snapped at a store clerk and this is not like me. I surprised myself actually. I also missed an appointment I had scheduled yesterday and I had even confirmed it. I am today realizing that I am tired physically but emotionally too and I am being vulnerable enough to share this with you. Brene Brown would be proud. 🙂

“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” “If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.”

brene brown

There are many of us walking the planet doing the best we can. We have ups and we have downs. We experience laughter and we experience tears. Life is like this. And it’s okay.

For some reason I just wanted to share this today in case someone else is having a tough time mentally or emotionally. Know that you are not alone, and that it is okay to share with those you love that you are having an extra hard time right now. In fact reach out to someone if you need to.

For me, luckily I had some family support me yesterday and this morning my daughter left me this note to cheer me up.

“You are awesome Mom and I love you sooooooooo much. Just keep being You.

Anyhow I am heading for my delightful rest now so I can begin to return to my JOYful self… I miss her. 🙂

For anyone reading this I send you much LOVE, support and most of all I wish you a JOYous day and if self-care is something you too need to schedule, I hope you do it. It is important to not only our physical health but especially our mental and emotional.

Thank you for being here for me by reading this.

Blessings to all….

kindness

More On Kindness

I love this kindness quote. It is so good to be reminded that we all struggle and therefore we do not struggle alone. This quote reminds me to not only offer kindness to myself and others but to also offer compassion and understanding.

Bring on the Kindness… bring on the LOVE!

Have an AMAZING day everyone.

Acceptance, self-love

The Damn Mirror!

We are not disturbed by things, but by the view which we take of them”.

epictetus

When you look in the mirror, what do you say to yourself? Do you say “Hey Hi Me!” or do you, like most of us, criticize what you see? I don’t know why I struggle with this so much. I am all about love and loving oneself and yet I always get caught off guard when I look in a mirror.

Is it a brain thing? Does our brain have a critical eye that looks for changes and variances or maybe it expects to see a certain thing and then does get caught off guard. Just like I do when I remember I am 53 years old. How can that be??? I’m still a little kid! I seriously feel that way in my soul. I admit I am very childlike in my excitement for life and I tend to see the world through childlike eyes …. which I think is awesome btw 🙂

Whatever the reason I just want to get to the place where I look in the mirror and say “Hi Beautiful, how’s it going today? EnJOYing life? Great!”

How about you? Would love to hear your thoughts….

compassion, kindness, self-love

Compassion For Self

A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life.

christopher k. germer

Yesterday, while thrift store shopping, I was lucky enough to pick up a copy of Brene Brown’s book “The Gifts of Imperfection” Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are.

Although I haven’t read it yet, I have been skimming some of the pages and it is definitely resonating with me. I am reminded once again that we are not in this alone. We all suffer from the same things, self-doubt, insecurities, fear, lack of self-confidence and more. We are NOT alone! You, me and the stranger across the road, we’ve all been here or are here right now.

I write about self-love and compassion often and it seems for good reason. We can be so hard on ourselves. As I write this, I am glancing over at my cat Bella, curled up in a chair and I realize that when I look at Bella so cute like that, I instantly feel this emotion that I would call compassion. Why? I am not sure. I don’t need to be compassionate to her or for her but for some reason that emotion comes to mind. It makes me think that we all have compassion in us but being compassionate to ourselves often seems so challenging.

In my quest of getting a better understanding of compassion I found these synonyms:

pity, sympathy, feeling, fellow feeling, empathy, understanding, care, concern, solicitude, solicitousness, sensitivity, tender-heartedness, soft-heartedness, warm-heartedness, warmth, love, brotherly love, tenderness, gentleness, mercy, mercifulness, leniency, lenience, tolerance,  consideration, kindness, humanity, humaneness, kind-heartedness, charity, benevolence

The two that jumped out at me the most, were soft-heartedness and warm-heartedness. Yes this is what I feel when I look at Bella all cuddled up over on that chair. My heart is warm and melting and I just want to go over there and kiss her or cuddle her.

What if we could look in the mirror and feel that way about ourselves? Would it have an impact? I think it would. And I think if we felt that way towards ourselves we would open up our capacity to feel these tender feelings toward others and then the whole world benefits just like the starfish story, one starfish at a time. 🙂

I hope you take the time to practice compassion and self-love for yourself today and always. I am going to start right away. Just writing this post has helped me to see the gift in compassion and to feel it’s power to shift and to heal. Will you join me? I would love to hear also what synonyms for compassion resonated with you or jumped out at you? 🙂

Wishing you a day full of JOY and Compassion……

With Love,

Maggie

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach & Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach who loves to write as a way of expressing her feelings. She thanks you for taking the time today to stop by and spend a moment with her in her heart and soul.

Empowered, Relationships, Self Esteem, self-love

I Barely Recognized this Person!

An Amazing Story of Transformation from Suffering to FREEDOM!

Last night in the grocery store I was witness to something pretty amazing!

I ran into a woman who used to work for me and she was a different person. I have run into her a couple of times in the last couple of years and each time she has transformed more and more into this new beautiful person. But last night she was off the charts AMAZING!

In the past she was sick, in pain, down, irritable and you could tell she was just not happy. She didn’t enjoy her work or her life.

I will call this woman ‘Mary’. What changed for Mary? Mary became empowered. She left her husband and ventured out on her own. She now has her own home and she is happy. Her energy was light and airy and her eyes twinkled and sparkled and she looked like a completely different person to me.

Mary is excited about life now, no longer in physical pain, and she appeared radiantly happy. It just brought me so much JOY to see this. She even declared how happy she is and you could see it!

Sometimes in life we have to leave things like situations, jobs, relationships when they are no longer serving us for our highest good. What is the price we pay if we do not and we are suffering? We stay in suffering.

For me, any relationship that I have in my life, should empower me, not disempower me. Whether it is my friend, my partner, or a business relationship, I believe it should be mutually empowering, uplifting and beneficial for all, otherwise I am out.

Mary was such a clear messenger on how powerful and positive a change like this could make. She honored herself enough to leave this relationship that was not serving her and was not a loving and supportive situation, to keep it simple. I will not go into details. The point is that Mary took her life back and is now thriving and not merely surviving.

I just had to share this story because to me it is a sign of HOPE and what can be. Our lives can change when we choose to look closely at those things that are not serving us and are in fact disempowering ourselves, even if they are simple things like habits, conversations, self-talk, fears, etc.

By taking a look at what makes you ‘feel good’ in your life and what ‘sucks your life force and energy’, you can get clear on what you want more of in your life and what has to go.

I hope you found this post helpful even if it is just to open up more to ‘feeling’ your way through life and to use your feelings as your GPS to more Happiness.

Have an amazing day and I send nothing but Blessings to all who are reading this. 🙂

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach who loves to empower and encourage people to take charge of their happiness and to design lives that they love. When you love your life, you radiate out into the world that love and it makes a huge difference for all of mankind. 🙂

kindness, love, loving kindness, paul luftenegger.

Love. Live. Love

Often I am commenting on posts that I really, really, like and I like put “Love, Love, Love!” in the comments to show how much I like it. 🙂

The interesting thing is that almost all the time, I misspell one of the Loves and it goes something like this. “Love, Live, Love”. And I say to myself something like “oh I made a mistake” but my heart always says “No, it’s perfect!” Love, Live, Love!!!

I got to thinking about this and it is so true! If we don’t have love in our lives, especially for ourselves, we cannot truly live! We are comprised of love. Every cell in our body is and came from love and will return to love. Today in my morning meditation I saw every cell in my body as littles tiny hearts. ❤ ❤ ❤ It was a great visual.

If we want to fast tract our lives to a JOYous journey here on earth or to a blissful state, then we need to fast track our love of self.

This morning when I opened FB I saw a this beautiful post from my friend Paul Luftenger. Paul is a Multi Award Winning Published Singer Songwriter In 120+ Countries

“Paul Writes, Sings, and Composes Conscious Music To Inspire Global Love & Kindness From Within – Powerful Conscious Music Always Supporting The Heart & Soul To Feel and Know Its Beauty and Divine Holy Worth From The Inside Out!”

Paul is one of my favorite people and in his FB post this morning he wrote this. I can’t help but share it here because it is on point:

From Paul’s FB Post:

“What I wish all human beings on earth knew today.

To be kind and gentle and loving to oneself.

To stop pointing fingers at others by embracing the light of love and kindness from within oneself.

I have learned that the real pain of the world comes from one place…the space within oneself projected out on others without regard or responsibility of one’s own energy or vibration. It is the biggest lie ever told.

Healthy people have healthy hearts and healthy souls; they don’t harm others – but rather embrace the self healing process from within oneself.

I have learned in my 42 years of being human that the one person that has to be loved and forgiven is the hardest person to fully embrace and love, and that is oneself.

I use to be so hard on him.

I use to tell him he couldn’t sing or dance or be free.

I use to scold him for being scared.

I use to belittle him for all the stupid choices he had made.

I use to tell him he was weak.

I use to feel he wasn’t smart enough…. or that he was too stupid or too pathetic or too gay or too ugly…..until one day I embraced him for all the things he was…it came to be known after I prayed to God for help on the day my father hung himself….I was shown by God to love the spark of God that he was…. for he was shown that he was a piece of God….. and I began to love the child he once was… the gift to the world he had forgotten he was and day by day his light began to be brighter….and brighter….and brighter.

That precious child within me healed all of my wounds with God’s pure loving grace through letting go and taking the knife away from his own throat.

Each time I cried to God in my darkness, I begged God to show me the way…and God did.

Each day God picked me up out of the mud and pain and shame of my life and showed me I could shine my light. Some people hated me for it… some told me I wasn’t good enough and tried to destroy me….some people discarded me for it… but each day God showed my that my soul was meant to shine and that those who were cruel to me, like me, had forgotten that they could shine from their heart and soul too.

I loved that precious little boy in me whole again with God’s pure love, and the stains of the self hatred started to disappear and vanish from within me…. I began to self illuminate my life from my heart and soul working together reminding others of the light within them.

That little boy is now a man…and one I am so proud to be. When I look at myself in the mirror now, I see all the love that my heart and soul was able to spread.

I have learned that love really is the superpower in the world and it begins with obeying God and trusting and having faith in his way…

Love your enemy, and obey God, by loving yourself again…. by being honest and responsible for the energy you create by being the heart and soul that is within you.

You are not what the world told you you are. You are free of all of that once you claim it.

This is what I know for sure.

Love.

Love…

Love… and be kind to the little boy or the little girl within you.”

Paul Luftenegger

Well that was a beautiful way to start my day. Reading Paul’s post and then I commented with my famous typo “Love, Live, Love”, which seemed perfect, of course, and led me to this blog post. Everything is divinely perfect when we open to the flow of universal LOVE.

Have an amazing day everyone. I send you nothing but LOVE and I hope you LIVE LOVE today.

❤ ❤ ❤

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach, Pysch-K Facilitator & Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach who trained directly under Mike Dooley. Mike Dooley is a New York Times Bestselling author, speaker, and entrepreneur in the philosophical New Thought movement. His teachings contain the premise that our “thoughts become things,” an expression he made popular in Rhonda Byrne’s book and video documentary on the Law of Attraction, The Secret.