Awakening, love life, self-love

Comparing Ourselves to Others

Question:

My two closest friends are really beautiful, always have boys around them and are charismatic. Meanwhile I’m the exact opposite. I can’t help feeling envious and bad about myself. How can I change this?

I answered this question over on another platform and thought it was worth sharing here as well. So here was my answer:

First know that you are not alone. We all have feelings of insecurity and unworthiness at times in our lives. In fact, as a Life Coach, this is the thing I see most with people. They truly do not love themselves enough, and do not feel personally empowered to be who they really are.

I would encourage you to become your own best friend! What would a best friend say to themselves? What would best friends say to each other? Would they encourage each other? Would they support each other? YES they would!

I wish I had learned to love myself earlier in my life. I do now. 100% but I went through a lot to get here. You do not have to! Things can happen “in an Instant” just like sending an email or a text message and it shows up instantly. I wrote a blog post about this and you or someone may find it helpful. Here is the link: The Art of Instant Forgiveness

Whether it’s self-love, self-acceptance or self forgiveness it truly can happen instantly if we ‘change our minds’ about it. So here is the greatest secret to shifting your feelings. Focus on the things that you do love about yourself and get excited about those. We all have some things that we do love.. maybe our laugh, our kindness to animals, etc. There is always something to be grateful for. When we get grateful we shift our energetic frequency from envy to JOY and JOY is where we want to be.

I wish you nothing but Happiness and JOY and I hope you get excited about being YOU and en-JOYing the beautiful gift that you are to the world. Blessings!

MaggieHolbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who en-JOYs instilling JOY in others. Life can be beautiful if we decide so.

 

 

Awakening, Life Coaching

Choose Living Fearlessly and in LOVE!

“Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live”. Dorothy Thompson

What if you decided that 2019 is going to be the year to Love yourself more?  By letting go of fear, we open the path to Love and Living and yes with Capitals! They are that important! 🙂

Fear is what holds us back and constricts us. Love expands and fear contracts. The fastest and easiest way to move through fear is to shine the light of love and this starts with us!!!

We can start to love ourselves more by being our own Lover.  This includes, but is not limited to, saying kind things to ourselves, being  gentle with ourselves, allowing time for rest, feeding our bodies with nutritious food, forgiving ourselves, consoling ourselves, and one that I would like to add in that I feel is important, is by empowering ourselves.  And we empower ourselves by doing all of those things just mentioned and more.

When we feel personally empowered we feel stronger and more capable of loving ourselves. True personal power comes from within. This means that WE have the capability to ramp up this personal power and that in itself is truly empowering!

I hope each and everyone of you reading this whether today, or in the future, claims and grasps your birthright, your entitlement which includes personal empowerment and self-love to ramp up your divine beauty so that 2019 and beyond can be the life that is better than your wildest and craziest dreams! Hold your own hand.winged heart Be your own Lover and a Lover of Life! It’s yours for the taking.

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who believes in living fearlessly and in love, and creates many opportunities to forgive herself, to grow, and to be human. She struggles along just as we all do, knowing that each and every day is a new opportunity to reconnect to ‘who we truly are’… LOVE.

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BE-YOU-Tiful

Have you ever marvelled at the human spirit? I know I have. Life is filled with both glory and pain. We all go through things in our lives and through life’s experiences that can be tremendously challenging, painful and even heart breaking. 

Lately I have been reflecting on the human spirit and our will to go on. I have come to believe that our true beauty is in our humanness. What if we saw our so called shortcomings, our so called flaws and even our addictions, as the very things that make us beautiful and real? What if we realized that the very things we judge as ‘bad’  or ‘ugly’ are the things that in fact, make us beautiful? These are the things  that make us human and alive.  These are the raw truths that make us empathetic and compassionate toward others. What if we had more compassion for ourselves and actually saw the beauty in these ‘gifts’? 

The next time you jump on yourself and are ready to be critical of yourself for something you did, said, or did not do, etc., why not stop yourself and remind yourself that this is what makes  you beautiful?  Try turning your disdain of self into appreciation of self. With compassion for self, we can have compassion for others. 

A saying I use often is “Love is all there is.” If this is indeed true, we must all get better at loving ourselves.  It has been said that it starts at home 🙂 I have personally put a note on my fridge to remind myself that these human traits are what makes me beautiful, alongside all of my beautiful soul sisters and brothers travelling with me here on earth.

This concept may seem a little weird, but I can say it really has helped me to see things differently within myself and with my judgement of myself. It makes me have much more compassion towards me, and I truly am starting to feel like I am my own best friend and that’s a really awesome feeling, I must say.

I hope you decide to hold yourself within the palm of your own hand and to see the beauty that is YOU. 

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who is learning compassion for self and others. She truly believes that the answer to much of our personal pain in life could be alleviated with more self-love, and part of her mission here on earth is to empower others to love themselves more and to see the beauty in all aspects of self.