self-love, Self Esteem

Be YourSELF!

Be Yourself by Maggie Holbik.com

“To thine own self be true”says Polonius in Hamlet. Very wise words indeed!

Yesterday as I was preparing for my guest appearance over on Elevated Radio today, talking about “owning our own voice and being who we are“, I came up with this acronym and thought it was pretty darn good. I know I sure will be keeping this handy to remind myself to just be ‘Me’. ๐Ÿ™‚

Be YourSELF YourSELF = Your Own Unique Real SELF

As of late, the topic of being real, raw, and authentic is a hot one in my world. I am personally working at getting better at this. In fact, I am challenging myself!

Yesterday a client and I were discussing through FB my blog post from yesterday where I was talking about judging and criticizing myself in my picture of myself. She mentioned she did it too! I said that I think we all do and then I sent her this:

Here was her response to me:

I answered her with IKR? (I know right) :-). But when I really thought about this, I thought I am onto something here. If I/we can challenge ourselves to put ourselves out there in a raw and real way, it will just get easier and then I can see the scales flipping! The more comfortable we get, the more we accept ourselves, the more we LOVE ourselves, and the more we are truly, truly, FREE.

FREE to be us! FREE to be comfortable with who we are. FREE to share our gifts with the world.

Now how awesome would that be? Let’s do it, shall we? ๐Ÿ™‚

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Board Certified Nutritionist who has a passion to help people to share their authentic selves with the world. She wants to see everyone sharing their gifts, being free to be THEM, shining their lights and living with passion!

Contact Maggie to join her email list or with any questions you might have.

Elevated Radio, love, self-love

Pure Raw and Real Love

Help me to remember that everyone I encounter is a child of God who will respond to pure LOVE”.

Alan cohen from his book “a breath of life”

Sometimes I turn to books for inspiration for my daily writing and to boost my own soul at the same time. Today I was drawn to this book from Alan Cohen. I had the pleasure of meeting Alan at a seminar he was speaking at and I was attending last November in Honolulu, Hawaii. I thoroughly enJOYed meeting him and listening to him speak. He exuberates the very definition of LOVE.

Here is a picture of the two of us. ๐Ÿ™‚ Of course when I looked at this picture today, I was criticizing myself that I needed a hair cut in this picture, I was looking at my double chin or was it a triple chin lol etc. etc. There was a lot I could find ‘wrong’ with this picture…….

Alan Cohen and Maggie Holbik
At the Soulapalooza conference in Honolulu, Hawaii, November, 2018

And then I stopped myself and said “Wait, Maggie this is not loving yourself, which is the whole point of this blog post. Love ourselves and one another and we will respond to this pure LOVE!

Wow! Eureka!….

To help with this, I am working at being even more ME. I am actually challenging myself to do this through more self acceptance, realness, rawness, and even video! LOL! If you have ever worked at doing videos of yourself, you know what I mean. ๐Ÿ™‚

Tomorrow I will be a guest over on Elevated Radio and will be talking about this very thing. It is going to be about owning our own voices and being who we are, which sounds delightful doesn’t it? ๐Ÿ™‚

Here is a link for the show if you would like to listen in or catch the replay.
https://elevatedradiofm.com/shows/owning-your-voice-being-you/

If you would like to listen to my prior 10 minute guest spot over at Elevated radio, here is the link for that.
https://elevatedradiofm.com/shows-archive/maggie-holbik-3-28-19/?fbclid=IwAR3xVlMntSoKVYsm6-wOrMAnCSN8qdS5gk-odL-qPoQHxR8Wyy5lx0TUHT8

I must confess that I just reread this blog post, as I do often, while composing posts, and I had to stop because I got teary eyed. I got teary eyed with the realization that most of us, including myself, have a deep seated fear of just being ‘who we are’. I know some of you reading this, who are my coaching clients for example, might not realize this about me or you might, but either way, I too suffer from this! And this is why I am challenging myself to be more me everyday and to share that with the world. Will you join me? ๐Ÿ™‚

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Board Certified Nutritionist who more importantly is a human being having a spiritual experience as she makes her own way through life, hoping she impacts others positively while co-creating on this beautiful journey of many souls.

compassion, kindess, self-love

3 Ways to Be More Compassionate & How It Can Free YOU!

As of late, I seem to be lead to the words compassion and compassionate. I myself, am working diligently at being more compassionate and less judgmental which quite honestly is a work in progress. The cool thing though, is I am realizing that the more compassionate I am, the less I suffer. Wow. Think about that one for a moment…..

The More Compassionate We Are, The Less WE Suffer

The more compassionate we are, the less WE suffer. I don’t know about you, but I’m in. ๐Ÿ™‚

Just imagine a scenario where and when you might be judging someone without compassion. Maybe it’s judging the acts of a parent from your childhood, or a situation you witnessed at the park, or someone who declares that they are a supporter of a certain cause, or way of being, and you witness the opposite, or the grumpy store clerk that you want to judge and give the evil eye to. You know this list. It’s endless.

When I was a teenager, I had an ‘experience’ which I will now call a spiritual experience. It was made known to me that I was here on earth to learn to “Love and Not Judge”. I mostly forgot about this for much of my life, but lately I am getting gentle nudges to remember this and to act upon it. These reminders come through movies like the one I watched the other day called “The Shack”, which I really en-JOY-ed and recommend. It’s now on Netflix.

Reminders also come from watching the pains of those I love and my own pains as we go through life and we interact with those around us. I am reminded to let go of being the ‘judger‘. I know not why people do what they do and really it does not matter. The only thing I know for sure is that LOVE does heal all wounds, and true healing love is unconditional. Maybe not always in this lifetime for everyone, but it is possible and that gives me HOPE. There is always HOPE.

The Less We Judge Others, The More Peaceful WE Are!

What I also know for sure, is that the less I judge, the more peaceful I am and the more peaceful those I encounter are. Who likes to be judged? It’s an awful feeling. It’s like when you have someone come into your home and tell you what you should get rid of, or that you don’t need something, or you do need something, or you shouldn’t wear a certain piece of clothing because of xyz, or you should lose weight, or you should gain weight, or you should quit smoking, or you should stop this behavior or that behavior, or you should be this way or that way, or you should have said this or you shouldn’t have said that. It truly feels like an invasion of self and soul and it makes one very vulnerable.

Start With Self & Then Expand

We all know that having compassion for oneself is the ultimate compassion mountain to climb. I can be very hard on myself, just like the clients I coach who tell me how hard they are on themselves, so I know it’s not just me. I think we all struggle with this one because we are so afraid of self betrayal and truly struggle with loving ourselves and knowing that we are worthy. The secret here, is that if there is no judgement, worth does not even come into question!!!!! Wowsa! Amazing! Eureka! Something to think on and ponder on very deeply……

I am bearing witness to the many ways I judge and I am working on getting better at it. I am sorry to all those who I have passed judgement on and yet I am compassionate for myself for doing so. The exciting thing about all of this, is that awareness moves us forward. I am excited to work on having more compassion and I understand that all journeys involve steps, but they all start with the first….

I hope you found some comfort in this writing and I would love to hear your comments on how you have found more compassion in your life. That is another thing that I have learned, we don’t have to do it all alone…. being together on the journey provides comfort as well.

Blessings to all of you reading this. Blessings sent to others are of the highest and most compassionate frequency available to us. It’s like LOVE at its utmost, so many, many BLESSINGS sent to you, right now, right in this moment as YOU read this words.

With Much Love,

Maggie

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach, Board Certified Nutritionist and human being who is trying to remember to have more compassion and to forgive self and others quickly and easily so she can make space for more LOVE in her life and in the lives of those around her.


โ€œThe only way out of the labyrinth of suffering is to forgive.โ€

john green

Authenticity, Awakening, Insight, Joy, Self-Discovery, self-love

Authenticity

While looking up the Webster’s definition of authenticity, I picked this one as my favorite. Number 3 of course. ๐Ÿ™‚

3 : true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character
is sincere and authentic with no pretensions

We hear this word a lot out there today. It’s all about being authentic and I couldn’t agree more! It’s where it’s at! It’s the place to be!

I thought today I would write a little about what it means to me, when I think of us being authentic. Authentic people have the strength and the courage to be true to themselves and to be who they are. They embrace their uniqueness and know that it is in fact their gift!

Authentic people are honest, vulnerable, intimate, unique, bold, daring, passionate and real. They are brave enough to share a piece of themselves with the world. They are strong enough to bare their soul and to let it shine!

You see authentic people in the world with labels like artists, creators, musicians, authors, poets, rebels, free spirits, the givers, the lovers, the cooks, the bakers, and the candlestick makers. Everywhere you look you see them. ๐Ÿ™‚

There is a tender and vulnerable side to authenticity too. It involves approaching life with sincerity, honesty, openness, and vulnerability.

And then there is the daring side of authenticity that involves boldness, greatness, and glory!

Whatever words you attach to it, I wish for you the JOY of being and living through your authentic self. We are all here to discover our gifts and authentically share them with each other. May you live the beautiful and authentic life of your dreams and desires!

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach, Board Certified Nutritionist and lover of life! She has claimed her authenticity and loves using words to inspire, uplift and empower others in the world.

compassion, Forgiving, Life Coaching, Life's Challenges, love

Rise Above to Love

Tonight I had a digital conversation with a coaching client and it brought up a very important topic, one that I think is important for all of us when we need to heal and move forward in life.

I will call my client Rose. We were discussing some pain around Rose and her feelings towards her departed mother. When Rose described to me the way her mother was in her actions, the behaviour that Rose found hurtful and negative, I asked Rose if she herself had ever behaved this way or could be seen this way. She responded with a “Yes”.

I then asked Rose to imagine her own child or children saying this about her 20 years from now. I then told her that she might feel like saying something like this in response “but you don’t understand why I felt like this, please don’t judge me, I need love actually”…

Rose was moved by this and started to shift the way she saw her mother. I also suggested she have compassion for her mother and to energetically hold her mother in her arms and tell her that she did not understand why she did or said the things she did that caused Rose pain, but that she would try to have compassion and understanding for her mother.

I suggested that Rose turn her loathing into love so that she, Rose, could release her own pain.

I also suggested to Rose that she see her Mom as a baby, a young girl, a woman her own age feeling the very inadequacies and pain that Rose herself now feels, and to see her mom as a vulnerable person rather than the mean person Rose saw from her own personalization of her mother that caused HER pain.

I also suggested to Rose that it is way easier to opt for anger and resentment than to Rise Above to Love, but Love will be what sets her free. Anger, blame and resentment are easy opt-ins for most people. I suggested to Rose that she had both the capacity and the space to rise above to love and that if her mother had felt love, understanding and felt supported in life, she would not have acted in the manner she had. People full of love do not hurt others. Hurt people hurt others.

Rose asked me if by shifting the way she saw her Mom did this mean she was she agreeing with what her mother did to her or how horribly she had treated her. I told her No and that she was meeting the situation with understanding at a higher level, and that she was having compassion for her mother. I asked Rose directly, if she really thought her mother would have behaved like that if she had felt good about herself, if she had felt loved and personally empowered. Rose answered “I guess not. I never thought about it like that”.

We concluded our conversation with Rose’s homework of holding her mother in her arms,in her mind, so that Rose could expand her own heart and include her Mom and herself, because what we give out we get back. I also reminded Rose that love can heal even after death and that if Rose wanted to heal and be free from pain, this would be of great benefit to her.

What about you? Who do you need to need to Rise Above to Love for? Maybe it’s a person or a situation. When you can expand your heart to shift the way you see the person or situation, and have compassion you will gain compassion and love for yourself too. Everyone wins here. ๐Ÿ™‚

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who believes wholeheartedly in the power of Love and is working at finding more compassion in her own life for herself and others. Compassion is one of the beautiful threads in the tapestry of unconditional love that weaves the way to peace.

self-love, Self-Talk

Don’t Beat Yourself Up!

This morning I found myself mentally beating myself up. You all know what I am talking about right? The old being disappointed in ourselves for something we did or did not do, said, did not say, etc.

Here’s what I did when I caught myself. I said to myself “Maggie this is what makes you human and that’s beautiful”. Once I remembered that I was human and beautiful, I instantly had compassion for myself and then I stopped the madness. It kind of stopped me in my tracks and reminded me that beating myself up does not serve me! ๐Ÿ™‚

Okay that’s it for this blog post. Short and Sweet. Hope it helps you stop the madness if you tend to berate yourself or beat yourself up. Carry on fellow humans. ๐Ÿ™‚

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who is very much human and plugging along at the game of life, just like everyone. She wishes you more JOY and more Self-Love and please, please, remember to be your own best friend! ๐Ÿ™‚

Awakening, love life, self-love

Comparing Ourselves to Others

Question:

My two closest friends are really beautiful, always have boys around them and are charismatic. Meanwhile I’m the exact opposite. I can’t help feeling envious and bad about myself. How can I change this?

I answered this question over on another platform and thought it was worth sharing here as well. So here was my answer:

First know that you are not alone. We all have feelings of insecurity and unworthiness at times in our lives. In fact, as a Life Coach, this is the thing I see most with people. They truly do not love themselves enough, and do not feel personally empowered to be who they really are.

I would encourage you to become your own best friend! What would a best friend say to themselves? What would best friends say to each other? Would they encourage each other? Would they support each other? YES they would!

I wish I had learned to love myself earlier in my life. I do now. 100% but I went through a lot to get here. You do not have to! Things can happen โ€œin an Instantโ€ just like sending an email or a text message and it shows up instantly. I wrote a blog post about this and you or someone may find it helpful. Here is the link:ย The Art of Instant Forgiveness

Whether itโ€™s self-love, self-acceptance or self forgiveness it truly can happen instantly if we โ€˜change our mindsโ€™ about it. So here is the greatest secret to shifting your feelings. Focus on the things that you do love about yourself and get excited about those. We all have some things that we do love.. maybe our laugh, our kindness to animals, etc. There is always something to be grateful for. When we get grateful we shift our energetic frequency from envy to JOY and JOY is where we want to be.

I wish you nothing but Happiness and JOY and I hope you get excited about being YOU and en-JOYing the beautiful gift that you are to the world. Blessings!

MaggieHolbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who en-JOYs instilling JOY in others. Life can be beautiful if we decide so.

 

 

Awakening, Life Coaching

Choose Living Fearlessly and in LOVE!

“Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live”. Dorothy Thompson

What if you decided that 2019 is going to be the year to Love yourself more?ย  By letting go of fear, we open the path to Love and Living and yes with Capitals! They are that important! ๐Ÿ™‚

Fear is what holds us back and constricts us. Love expands and fear contracts. The fastest and easiest way to move through fear is to shine the light of love and this starts with us!!!

We can start to love ourselves more by being our own Lover.ย  This includes, but is not limited to, saying kind things to ourselves, beingย  gentle with ourselves, allowing time for rest, feeding our bodies with nutritious food, forgiving ourselves, consoling ourselves, and one that I would like to add in that I feel is important, is by empowering ourselves.ย  And we empower ourselves by doing all of those things just mentioned and more.

When we feel personally empowered we feel stronger and more capable of loving ourselves. True personal power comes from within. This means that WE have the capability to ramp up this personal power and that in itself is truly empowering!

I hope each and everyone of you reading this whether today, or in the future, claims and grasps your birthright, your entitlement which includes personal empowerment and self-love to ramp up your divine beauty so that 2019 and beyond can be the life that is better than your wildest and craziest dreams! Hold your own hand.winged heart Be your own Lover and a Lover of Life! It’s yours for the taking.

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who believes in living fearlessly and in love, and creates many opportunities to forgive herself, to grow, and to be human. She struggles along just as we all do, knowing that each and every day is a new opportunity to reconnect to ‘who we truly are’… LOVE.

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BE-YOU-Tiful

Have you ever marvelled at the human spirit? I know I have. Life is filled with both glory and pain. We all go through things in our lives and through life’s experiences that can be tremendously challenging, painful and even heart breaking.ย 

Lately I have been reflecting on the human spirit and our will to go on. I have come to believe that our true beauty is in our humanness. What if we saw our so called shortcomings, our so called flaws and even our addictions, as the very things that make us beautiful and real? What if we realized that the very things we judge as ‘bad’ย  or ‘ugly’ are the things that in fact, make us beautiful? These are the thingsย  that make us human and alive.ย  These are the raw truths that make us empathetic and compassionate toward others. What if we had more compassion for ourselves and actually saw the beauty in these ‘gifts’?ย 

The next time you jump on yourself and are ready to be critical of yourself for something you did, said, or did not do, etc., why not stop yourself and remind yourself that this is what makesย  you beautiful?  Try turning your disdain of self into appreciation of self. With compassion for self, we can have compassion for others.ย 

A saying I use often is “Love is all there is.” If this is indeed true, we must all get better at loving ourselves.ย  It has been said that it starts at home ๐Ÿ™‚ I have personally put a note on my fridge to remind myself that these human traits are what makes me beautiful, alongside all of my beautiful soul sisters and brothers travelling with me here on earth.

This concept may seem a little weird, but I can say it really has helped me to see things differently within myself and with my judgement of myself. It makes me have much more compassion towards me, and I truly am starting to feel like I am my own best friend and that’s a really awesome feeling, I must say.

I hope you decide to hold yourself within the palm of your own hand and to see the beauty that is YOU.ย 

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who is learning compassion for self and others. She truly believes that the answer to much of our personal pain in life could be alleviated with more self-love, and part of her mission here on earth is to empower others to love themselves more and to see the beauty in all aspects of self.ย