Self-care, self-love

Self-Care & Making Moments That Matter

Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time: for that’s the stuff life is made of.

benjamin franklin

2020 a brand new decade! A brand new play ground for YOU!

I hope 2020 encourages you to get crystal clear on what makes you happy and what you enJOY doing and to do more of that!

Each day includes 24 hours and so much of that is used for sleeping and working and hopefully loving what you do. But what about the rest of the time? Are you filling those moments with the things that really matter to you?

The moments in between the structure are truly golden moments and we must seize the golden opportunities! The beauty in these moments that please us might even be the simple ones to plan like just stopping to enJOY a cup of tea, or taking a 5 to 10 minute delicious nap, or reading to a child, reading a book, trying a new recipe… the list is endless but the point is that we MAKE these precious moments a priority in our lives….. that we recognize that we matter and the moments that matter to us most matter! ๐Ÿ™‚

We hear the word self-care used a lot and for good reason. It is a real priority and should be always. The happier and more fulfilled we feel in life, the more we enJOY it the journey, and the more everyone around us benefits. Self-love is an energy that spreads to others and makes them feel better too! It is a beautiful thing. So the more you can do the things that bring you the greatest pleasure or that give you peace of mind, the more you have a cosmic affect on the whole. What you do for yourself you also do for others. With this in mind it might encourage you even more to honor and love yourself. In fact why not love yourself all up? ๐Ÿ™‚

So here is an idea: Take a piece of paper out right now or grab your phone and start making a list of the more’s, or the enhancements that you are going to add into your life to increase your JOY factor.

For example:

. reading more good books

. listening to more music that makes you happy

. trying new recipes

. more walks

. more laughter

. more quite time

. more organization

. more simplicity

….. etc. etc. As always the list is endless. Get creative, honor yourself and most of all have fun with this!

Happy New Year my friends!

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compassion, kindness, self-love

What If We Just Stopped The Madness?

A woman wears the ocean as a dress.

To dream of the person you would like to be is to waste the person you are.

Anonymous

I am so trying to be more compassionate with myself. What about you? Are you able to enJOY the version of you right now? Or do you struggle with longing for a former version of yourself or a future version of you?

What if we just stopped this madness and got ok with us right now? I was chatting with my hair dresser the other day and was mentioning that I had gained weight and she had mentioned she had lost some. I shared with her how I was deciding to be okay with the fact that I had gained weight because I know that at the end of my life I will absolutely think that I wish I hadn’t wasted so much of my life worrying or beating myself up. I am sure I would wish I had used those precious moments of life to be happy rather than having negative feelings about myself. She agreed. ๐Ÿ™‚

And we all go through these things. We gain, we lose, we change habits, we fall off of our tracks, we get back on, etc. etc. This applies to anything in our life. Healthy habits, positive thinking, working out, being kind to ourselves or not….. the cycle just continues…. We all go up and down in these cycles but really we are always just doing the best we can at the time we are doing it.

What if we just STOPPED? Stopped the madness of judging ourselves and others and turned to JOY and acceptance? What is we turned to Compassion and Kindness for self and others?

WOW, I think it would make a huge difference. Don’t you? ๐Ÿ™‚

I wish whoever is reading this, personal peace, self-love, kindness and most of all lots of LOVE!

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Emotional Health, Encouragement, Mental Health, Self-care

Sharing Some Vulnerability Around Mental & Emotional Health

Laugh Cry Smile Keys Representing Different Emotions

It is Saturday morning and I am writing this blog post to express my feelings and then I am going to go for a much needed rest. I have become very behind on my sleep and it’s starting to show in my mental and emotional health. It’s funny actually because I have been behind on my sleep because I am so excited about life but now it has taken a toll on me and is now the content of this blog post.

I was thinking how we easily share with others that we have a cold or the flu or an ache or pain, but when it comes to our emotional and mental health, we sometimes don’t share this with others and it comes out in ways that are now always positive.

Yesterday, I snapped at a store clerk and this is not like me. I surprised myself actually. I also missed an appointment I had scheduled yesterday and I had even confirmed it. I am today realizing that I am tired physically but emotionally too and I am being vulnerable enough to share this with you. Brene Brown would be proud. ๐Ÿ™‚

โ€œVulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.โ€ โ€œIf we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.โ€

brene brown

There are many of us walking the planet doing the best we can. We have ups and we have downs. We experience laughter and we experience tears. Life is like this. And it’s okay.

For some reason I just wanted to share this today in case someone else is having a tough time mentally or emotionally. Know that you are not alone, and that it is okay to share with those you love that you are having an extra hard time right now. In fact reach out to someone if you need to.

For me, luckily I had some family support me yesterday and this morning my daughter left me this note to cheer me up.

“You are awesome Mom and I love you sooooooooo much. Just keep being You.

Anyhow I am heading for my delightful rest now so I can begin to return to my JOYful self… I miss her. ๐Ÿ™‚

For anyone reading this I send you much LOVE, support and most of all I wish you a JOYous day and if self-care is something you too need to schedule, I hope you do it. It is important to not only our physical health but especially our mental and emotional.

Thank you for being here for me by reading this.

Blessings to all….

compassion, kindness, self-love

Compassion For Self

A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life.

christopher k. germer

Yesterday, while thrift store shopping, I was lucky enough to pick up a copy of Brene Brown’s book “The Gifts of Imperfection” Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are.

Although I haven’t read it yet, I have been skimming some of the pages and it is definitely resonating with me. I am reminded once again that we are not in this alone. We all suffer from the same things, self-doubt, insecurities, fear, lack of self-confidence and more. We are NOT alone! You, me and the stranger across the road, we’ve all been here or are here right now.

I write about self-love and compassion often and it seems for good reason. We can be so hard on ourselves. As I write this, I am glancing over at my cat Bella, curled up in a chair and I realize that when I look at Bella so cute like that, I instantly feel this emotion that I would call compassion. Why? I am not sure. I don’t need to be compassionate to her or for her but for some reason that emotion comes to mind. It makes me think that we all have compassion in us but being compassionate to ourselves often seems so challenging.

In my quest of getting a better understanding of compassion I found these synonyms:

pity, sympathy, feeling, fellow feeling, empathy, understanding, care, concern, solicitude, solicitousness, sensitivity, tender-heartedness, soft-heartedness, warm-heartedness, warmth, love, brotherly love, tenderness, gentleness, mercy, mercifulness, leniency, lenience, tolerance,  consideration, kindness, humanity, humaneness, kind-heartedness, charity, benevolence

The two that jumped out at me the most, were soft-heartedness and warm-heartedness. Yes this is what I feel when I look at Bella all cuddled up over on that chair. My heart is warm and melting and I just want to go over there and kiss her or cuddle her.

What if we could look in the mirror and feel that way about ourselves? Would it have an impact? I think it would. And I think if we felt that way towards ourselves we would open up our capacity to feel these tender feelings toward others and then the whole world benefits just like the starfish story, one starfish at a time. ๐Ÿ™‚

I hope you take the time to practice compassion and self-love for yourself today and always. I am going to start right away. Just writing this post has helped me to see the gift in compassion and to feel it’s power to shift and to heal. Will you join me? I would love to hear also what synonyms for compassion resonated with you or jumped out at you? ๐Ÿ™‚

Wishing you a day full of JOY and Compassion……

With Love,

Maggie

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach & Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach who loves to write as a way of expressing her feelings. She thanks you for taking the time today to stop by and spend a moment with her in her heart and soul.