I was doing some text support with one of my clients and it got me to thinking that I would start a series of blog posts that share some of the conversations I have with clients, in the hope that it may help others. So here we go on the first one which has to do with moving forward after things like financial challenges, addictions and just beating ourselves up.
My client stated ” I am so angry I’m in this place. I know I’ve put myself here but I’m angry about it. I feel dumb and stupid and so incompetent.” She was referring to maxed out lines of credit and racked up credit cards, which is a place many of us have been, myself included.
She also messaged this:
Client: “I want to connect to joy and possibility I no longer want this sadness and fear it’s so heavy”.
My advice to her was to see the experience of the prior money management or mismanagement as the blessing it is. These experiences are truly gifts to show us what we do want, and how we want things to be. This is what we refer to as ‘the contrast’. When we clearly know, feel and see what we do not want in our life, we can clearly know, feel and see what we do want in our lives. There lies the blessing.
I also encouraged her to look at the positive ways she has handled money in her life as in her investments and that she owns a home as well. The secret here is to get excited about the positive. When we ‘feel’ good about a situation we can then shift the frequency from fear and failure to joy and possibility which is what she clearly desired.
All creation starts with a thought, but the most important part of creating and manifesting the lives we do want, comes from the feeling of having it already. This is the secret that master manifestors know and understand. We ‘feel’ our way to those things we want.
This is the same as breaking an addiction. It is much more effective to get excited about being free from the substance or behaviour, then beating yourself up over it. When you are in a state of fear and punishment you will just attract more fear and punishment and probably make your addiction or said behavior worse. I have found it is much more effective to focus on the way you will feel being free of the very thing that is weighing your down rather than focusing on the problem. You feel your way to the next state/frequency all the way to the door marked “Freedom”!
So back to my client. Can you see that the best thing for her to do would be to stop harboring those negative feelings about herself? And to actually get grateful for her experience so that she can use it as a catalyst for designing the very life she wants which includes empowered money management.
This technique can be applied to any situation or desire you are working on in your life.
I hope you enjoyed this post and if you have any question you would like to ask Life Coach Maggie, please send it to me so I can write back here and maybe together we will help others too. 🙂
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Board Certified Nutritionist who loves helping people to and through to personal empowerment. She believes that when people are personally empowered they can then share more of themselves as the beautiful gifts that they are. The world needs them right now, and that includes YOU oh Beautiful Soul that you are! 🙂
I love the email I got this morning from The Universe. For years I have subscribed to Mike Dooley’s Tut.com and his notes from the universe. I love it. Each day you receive one and they are bang on! Here is the link if you are interested in subscribing. They are free. Sign up for Notes from The Universe
Lucky for me in November I will be in Hawaii hanging out with Mike and his crew for 3 fantastic days. I am really looking forward to this and Hawaii has been on my bucket list for awhile. Check. 🙂
Anyhow here was today’s message:
“Maggie, whatever you think someone else is thinking, they’re probably not.
But they are receiving signals about what you think they’re thinking, Maggie… and these signals could change what they’re thinking.”
When I read this I thought WOW. Just WOW! This is so true. I am often coaching my clients and MYSELF about this lol. Be very careful what you are thinking and believing because you will soon manifest it! This includes thoughts about others and what you think they are thinking or not thinking. The human imagination is the most powerful interface we have with everything including creation and including what we project onto others. This is something to keep ‘in mind’ 😉
One of the easiest ways to work with these frequencies of creation is to keep your thoughts soley and I mean soley and souly on what you DO want and expect, and never, ever, ever, on what you do not want to bring into your reality including projecting what you think others might be thinking about you. 🙂
Watch for leaks in your self-talk. Take a listen and see if you hear yourself using words like “I think”, “Just”, “I’ll try” “Maybe”, or “I’m sorry” way too often. Although all words have places in our vocabulary and in our daily conversations, sometimes people develop a habit of over using self sabotaging words or statements.
This is especially important to be careful of when dealing with universal laws. When we are wish washy or we are not being clear or direct with our messages, we get results that are wishy-washy and unclear.
For example, if you start most sentences with “I think” as in “I think I am happy”, or “I think I like my job”, or “I think I might like to go on a vacation”, you are being very uncertain and that is what you put out there! One of the keys to manifesting and creating is to be clear and concise. Even if you are unsure of how something might happen, you need to be clear with your intent!
How about this instead? “I love my job!” verses “I think I like my job”. You may not entirely believe this but by declaring it, you will start to love it and be happier and have less stress and more satisfaction etc. This works for anything. What you say and declare you bring about. It’s that simple. Words are more powerful than people realize.
Recently I attended a writing workshop about the power of ‘one’ word. It WAS powerful to see this. One word can make a huge difference. Think of this an ’empty’ room or a ‘spacious’ room? Let that sink in. Huge difference. Now imagine statements and strings of words put together. They can have huge impact.
So in conclusion, I encourage you to choose your words wisely and choose words that are empowering to your self esteem and to your mission or goal. Own your words. My favorite new saying lately is “Not only have I found my voice, but I am owning it”. 🙂 I think this is very applicable in this scenario of creating, manifesting and bringing more clarity into our lives.
MaggieHolbik.com is a Certified Life Coach & Certified Nutritionist who loves to help empower people to fully own and embrace who they are and find their purpose here on earth. You might also enjoy her blog for wellness of Body, Mind and Spirit https://maggiesvitamins.wordpress.com/