Awakening, love life, self-love

Comparing Ourselves to Others

Question:

My two closest friends are really beautiful, always have boys around them and are charismatic. Meanwhile I’m the exact opposite. I can’t help feeling envious and bad about myself. How can I change this?

I answered this question over on another platform and thought it was worth sharing here as well. So here was my answer:

First know that you are not alone. We all have feelings of insecurity and unworthiness at times in our lives. In fact, as a Life Coach, this is the thing I see most with people. They truly do not love themselves enough, and do not feel personally empowered to be who they really are.

I would encourage you to become your own best friend! What would a best friend say to themselves? What would best friends say to each other? Would they encourage each other? Would they support each other? YES they would!

I wish I had learned to love myself earlier in my life. I do now. 100% but I went through a lot to get here. You do not have to! Things can happen “in an Instant” just like sending an email or a text message and it shows up instantly. I wrote a blog post about this and you or someone may find it helpful. Here is the link: The Art of Instant Forgiveness

Whether it’s self-love, self-acceptance or self forgiveness it truly can happen instantly if we ‘change our minds’ about it. So here is the greatest secret to shifting your feelings. Focus on the things that you do love about yourself and get excited about those. We all have some things that we do love.. maybe our laugh, our kindness to animals, etc. There is always something to be grateful for. When we get grateful we shift our energetic frequency from envy to JOY and JOY is where we want to be.

I wish you nothing but Happiness and JOY and I hope you get excited about being YOU and en-JOYing the beautiful gift that you are to the world. Blessings!

MaggieHolbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who en-JOYs instilling JOY in others. Life can be beautiful if we decide so.

 

 

Awakening, Life Coaching

Choose Living Fearlessly and in LOVE!

“Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live”. Dorothy Thompson

What if you decided that 2019 is going to be the year to Love yourself more?  By letting go of fear, we open the path to Love and Living and yes with Capitals! They are that important! 🙂

Fear is what holds us back and constricts us. Love expands and fear contracts. The fastest and easiest way to move through fear is to shine the light of love and this starts with us!!!

We can start to love ourselves more by being our own Lover.  This includes, but is not limited to, saying kind things to ourselves, being  gentle with ourselves, allowing time for rest, feeding our bodies with nutritious food, forgiving ourselves, consoling ourselves, and one that I would like to add in that I feel is important, is by empowering ourselves.  And we empower ourselves by doing all of those things just mentioned and more.

When we feel personally empowered we feel stronger and more capable of loving ourselves. True personal power comes from within. This means that WE have the capability to ramp up this personal power and that in itself is truly empowering!

I hope each and everyone of you reading this whether today, or in the future, claims and grasps your birthright, your entitlement which includes personal empowerment and self-love to ramp up your divine beauty so that 2019 and beyond can be the life that is better than your wildest and craziest dreams! Hold your own hand.winged heart Be your own Lover and a Lover of Life! It’s yours for the taking.

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who believes in living fearlessly and in love, and creates many opportunities to forgive herself, to grow, and to be human. She struggles along just as we all do, knowing that each and every day is a new opportunity to reconnect to ‘who we truly are’… LOVE.

Awakening, Gratitude

The Best Gift Ever

Well it has taken me nearly a year to write this blog post but here I am. Last year I was given the best Christmas gift ever from my daughter Sivanna Rose. She spent countless hours in her room every night working on a project that turned out to be one of the nicest gifts I  have ever received.

She made me this box that had four sides and each with a saying that would melt any mother’s heart. One for example is “Mom, I know you’ve loved me as  long as i lived, but I’ve loved you my whole life. I love you”….. melt….

I will share them here for you to en-JOY as well.  I love the idea of the box too. Years ago I made myself a manifesting box and it truly has had magical results. You take your desires and put them in the box as though it were a magic box of creation and then you let it sit to do its magic… the results are astounding!

We can do this in our own mind of course and it is also effective, but by using a physical box it really makes things more tangible and believable. I no longer question any of this as I have seen the magic of it work every day in my life and continue to do so. I too hope you find the magic and belief to manifest your greatest wishes into reality as well. 🙂

The other thing I love, love, love about this box of beautiful sayings that Sivanna wrote, is that I know that she will not mind me sharing them here for all the world to see. Sivanna is confident in herself and in how she feels about others, and more importantly is not afraid to show her Love. To me, that is another great gift.

I will keep this box always and cherish it for the rest of my life, as I will both cherish and treasure my beautiful daughter Sivanna Rose.

“Love at first sight because I’ve been loving my mother since I opened my eyes”.

“Mom, I know you’ve loved me as long as I’ve lived but I’ve loved you my whole life. I love you.”

Amazing, Loving, Strong, Happy, Selfless, Graceful.

“Out of all that life has to offer, a loving mother is the greatest of them all.”

 

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who understands that there truly is magic in life and in the gift of life. She cherishes each beautiful example of this and delights when she sees others tap into the magic of creation and in the beauty of life unfolding its gifts like a flower blooming for all the world to en-JOY!

Gratitude, Joy

True Joy!

joy cardThis year, my spouse Don and I, and our daughter Sivanna, got together with Don’s kids, grandkids and their spouses, great grandkids, and Joyce, the beautiful mother, grandmother, and great grandmother of all of these beautiful people, for an early Christmas celebration.

I feel very grateful to be a part of this extended family and thought I would take a minute to write about my JOY. This card from Don’s two sons and their families sums it up quite well. “Christmas is about believing in miracles and being a blessing, reviving our spirits and celebrating our JOY… Christmas is about remembering all the wonderful things in life, like the people who mean so much to us, people like you.”

 

I thought this was a beautiful card with a beautiful message and it will be treasured. I must mention that they also got us a great present that made me jump for JOY!

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A kajak for our new place on the lake. I was so excited about this. 🙂 I can see so much JOY to be had by all as we use this and enjoy the beauty of nature and our beautiful surroundings.

I encourage  all of us to read the words from this greeting card and to believe in Miracles, to be a Blessing and revive our spirits now and always. How do we do this? We do this by celebrating our JOY and by counting our blessings and that includes the people in our lives that Love us and that we Love back. Thank you to our beautiful family for the blessing of being together and celebrating our JOY together this holiday season.

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach who is grateful for the many blessings in life like Love, Family and Kayaks! 🙂

Awakening, Gratitude, Joy

What You Seeks Seeks YOU!

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I was having a text messaging conversation with a coaching client this morning and the topic of being grateful came up. I thought voila, here is my blog post for today.

Many of us struggle with making the shift from ‘waiting for the axe to fall’, which tricks us into not being in a state of grace and gratitude, to fulling embracing the gift of having and being in gratitude and grace.

Gratitude is a state of being, an energetic force that has enormous potential. I thought I would share what my client said to me and what I shared back because I am sure that we can all relate to this, either now or at some point in our lives.

Client: “Yah it’s deeply tied into disappointment for me and not getting what I want. Don’t think about it, acknowledge it, or dream about it and then you’ll never get hurt”.

Me: “Ya, that’s one of the classic self-sabotages of all time, the old waiting for the axe to fall 😊

Our conversation went on and I shared about ways, like this, that we give our power away to outside sources and this is definitely one of them. I reminded my client that what we seek, seeks us and what we love, loves us. Gratitude is just like that. Being grateful puts that attracting/seeking/aligning energy out there so that we can attract more of what we desire. When we love our life it can truly loves us back and bring us more of that which we love! 😊 This is so exciting and the awesome thing is there is always, always, something to be grateful for. Gratitude is a like a muscle, the more we use it, the easier it gets and the bigger it gets. Bring on the GRATITUDE muscle!!

I am sitting here in Hawaii, typing this, the sun is shining on my face, the wind is gently blowing and toying with my hair, and as I look up I see Diamond Head. Diamond Head Crater is an absolutely beautiful site on the island of Oahu. It sits majestically above the shores of Waikiki, overlooking the Pacific Ocean, and is a destination for many who visit the island and those who live there as well.

Now you might say that sure it’s easy for you Maggie you are in Hawaii and I am wherever you are today at work, I’m sick, I got a flat tire today, or what have you. Yes, I am in a beautiful spot right now making gratitude flow extra easy today, however, I am also finding gratitude in the simple things like the pillow I found to put under my laptop, the lemon I found at the ABC store around the corner, for my warm lemon water, the fact that there are ABC stores on every corner lol, that I am inspired to write this morning, and on and on it goes. There are so many things we can find to be grateful for and when we do, it shifts our frequency to a state of appreciation and love. With appreciation and love comes kindness to oneself and the world, so if nothing else do it for the team. 😊

“Love is the way I walk in gratitude”. A Course in Miracles

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Certified Nutritionist who enjoys helping people to shift from Fear to Love and to help people to find their Grace through Gratitude. She reminds you to never forget that what you seek, seeks YOU! Blessings!

Grieving, Joy, Life Coaching

The Greatest Gift

own happiness

I saw this quote today and just loved, loved, loved it! It reminded me of a FB post I did yesterday about my daughter in reference to a trip that I on right now. I am in Hawaii for the first time on a bucket list trip. I have always wanted to come here and have finally done so!

Here was the post and picture:
sivanna balloon

balloon girl

I truly believe the greatest gift we can give one another is our own happiness and along with that, allowing others to have their happiness too!

I think this applies to death too. So often people are so sad for long after a loved one’s passing. I always imagine their loved one saying something like this, from the other side “Stop!!! What are you doing? Be happy. I’m gone but you’re still there….. don’t waste another second in sadness and pain. You still have time left 🙂 I only want for you to be happy!!!!”. Although never easy losing loved ones, I am sure we would all agree they would just want us to be happy.

I leave you with the thought of having an intention to make your happiness a priority so that you can give this gift to those you love and that love you and the world at large!

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life & Light Coach who loves to inspire people to live with passion and purpose and to find the JOY that is there for them here on planet earth.

Joy, Peace

Peace Hack 101

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I love this pillow my friend gave me. It says “The secret to having it all is believing you already do”. Now I love that but I change it up a bit to “The secret to having it all is KNOWING you already do”.

I think knowing sounds much more universally confident and sends a clear message that you are at peace with life and in turn life will bring you more peace. I am sure we have all heard the saying along the way “act as if”. This is not to be underestimated in its power. Acting as if and declaring that you ‘know’ and ‘trust’ that things are well, signals more of this in your life. It sounds simple and it is but it works!

I encourage you to try this and see what happens. One of the prayers I use is: “Thank you God/Universe/You Fill in the Blank, for already solving this problem for me and then I let it go! And it works. Try it. It’s a great one.

I close today wishing you all more Peace and Love and all the good stuff that life has to offer.

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Certified Nutritionist who gets great JOY out of instilling JOY into other people’s day, life and world. Rock on!
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Numerology, Uncategorized

This 12 Year Old Has it Right as a Life Path #2

love is all there is 2

Once again my favorite artist, my 12 year old daughter Sivanna, nails it through her art! “Love Is All There Is”. It is a saying her Dad and I use often and brings me great Joy to see her take this on as her own philosophy. And she truly is a kind and loving person who is very sensitive to the energies around her.

I am reminded of her Life Path Number in Numerology which is a Life Path #2. Life path 2’s are what I call “The Love Number”. They are all about Love and balance and cooperation. Life path number 2 is a vibration of duality and division, the number of truth and learning. They seek harmony and peace and are very considerate and thoughtful of other people and their feelings. People with a Life Path 2 are natural peacemakers and are great at mediation because they can see and hold the space for both sides of a viewpoint.

They are very loyal, and when they say that they love you, count on it!

I truly believe that at the end of our lives what will matter most will be who we loved and who loved us and that “Love is all There Is”. Way to go Sivanna. You already understand a great secret to life.

Maggie Holbik.com is Sivanna’s proud Momma and lover of the science of numbers. She has been using Numerology in her Life Coaching practice for many years. She finds it fascinating and extremely accurate. Maggie offers reports that she sends to people all over the world via email. There are 3 to choose from. 1) Life Path 2) Your Yearly Forecast and 3)Relationship Report

If you would like to learn more about Numerology or find out your own Life Path # here is the link Maggies Numerology Site

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Uncategorized

First Time Seeing Snow!

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It seems as though winter is upon us early this year and lots of people are grumbling about that, but not my great niece Lindsay. This is the first time Lindsay has seen the snow and look at the JOY!

Lindsay’s Mom, Nathalia, married my nephew John Paul and they moved to the United States from Costa Rica so there are so many new and wonder-filled experiences happening like this one.
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It brings tears to my eyes to see the Joy in these pictures and the Joy in this new family. I am so proud of my nephew and of his new wife. I had the pleasure of meeting Nathalia recently in person, after getting to know her through the gift of Facebook and it was confirmed how amazing this woman is. She is kind, strong, courageous and will soon be a mother again as she and John Paul are expecting. How joyous to watch the gift of family expanding in so many wonderful ways.

I feel blessed that I get to watch this love unfold and to see the joy in my nephew’s world. Here is his exact words about the joy of Lindsay in the snow:
“To be young again… She’s making me remember :-)”….. Ah and the circle of life continues….

And a family wouldn’t be complete without a pet right? Here is little Donny the Dog experiencing winter for the first time and the caption with this picture was “What is Winter?” How cute is that right?
donny dog

I wish for all to see the gift of life itself in each and every day.

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Board Certified Nutritionist who is a lover of life and family. She is fondly known to many as “Aunty Maggie”.

Uncategorized

Universal Love

sivanna heart pic

This past weekend, my favorite artist, 🙂 my daughter Sivanna who is 12, decided to do some art that entailed using all hearts. I loved the idea! We quickly started to co-create this piece together just as the universe co-creates with us and with our desires and intentions.

In this beautiful piece you can see that all things are connected… the flowers, clouds, sun, butterfly and even a pet! 🙂 And these are all connected through a universal heart and they all are composed of their own hearts.

This beautiful hand-made picture has a profound depth to it. The more we realize that we are all connected, that we are all one, and that what we do affects the whole, the more we will consciously raise the frequency of the planet.

I truly believe that at the end of our lives we will come to understand that at the end of the day Love is all there is, and that the things we spent so much time worrying and fussing over never even mattered in the first place. Wouldn’t it be nice to get to that place now? It’s possible and it’s beautiful. I am personally grateful for this beautiful reminder and encourage all reading this to reflect on the idea of this connectedness and to share this blog post with others…. you will never know the impact it can have.

Maggie Holbik.ocm is a Certified Life Coach and Board Certified Nutritionist who finds Joy in Life and Love in Laughter and all the sweet spots in between!