Here is another quote from the book of quotes that my daughter gave me for Valentine’s Day. I adore these quotes from the book that she made for me by hand. Each day, when I open one, it is a gift and I treasure it.
Today’s made me think about the word ‘mistake’. I have come to believe that there are no mistakes in life, or at least I try not to look at them that way anymore. I see all experiences as stepping stones or as what I call “the contrast”. The contrast simply means an experience that I have had that shows me what I really, really, want verses “the contrast”, which is what I don’t want or no longer want to bring into my life and my life’s experiences.
A simple example could be a relationship that one has had. If you left a marriage or relationship of any kind, instead of seeing it as bad or wasted time, why not see it as the gift of showing you what you DO want in a relationship. Because of your past experience, you are much clearer on what is important for you to create in your life now.
The other day I wrote a blog post, also inspired by my daughter’s quote book, from that blog post I will quote myself here in reference to me saying No to an opportunity to be interviewed on a TV show about my overcoming adversity in health and life. I will put the link later in this blog post to read the full post but for now here is me quoting me: 🙂
‘”I see all of my past experiences as stepping stones that have gotten me to where I am today. The hardships and challenges have made me who I am so I see them as GIFTS! I did not feel I could properly convey myself to share the hardship piece because I don’t feel that way. I see everything as if it was perfect! It was the contrast I needed to show me what I do want. 🙂 I don’t want to talk about painful stuff. It does not serve me. I am too focused on where I am now and en-JOY-ing the next phase. I hope this makes sense cause I feel I am having a hard time conveying it for some reason…. but that’s okay, no perfection here. 🙂”
The cool thing about that prior blog post was that I got great responses from people and I could tell that it really helped them to shift the way they saw their past. For example here is one private message that I received:
“Love the blog post and Sivanna’s book. Wow ! Lots of love in that. So I’m thinking or it hit me as I read , I need to change how I think of my marriage and my ex. I think of it as lost time. Wasted years. Years of sadness and lack that I beat myself up for tolerating.”
I was very happy to see this message from this is a client of mine that I know well, It was an awesome moment for me to see her willing to let go of holding onto thinking of her past in a painful way. This does not serve us. It only robs us of the JOY we can have right now. I often say that the past already caused us pain, why let it cause you more pain today all over again? That’s like a double whammy!
I hope you too can start to think of so called mistakes as stepping stones to creating the life that you DO want and that will bring you more JOY, Love, Happiness and Magical relationships of all kinds! When we let go of that which no longer serves us, we can be FREE! 🙂
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach, Speaker, Nutritionist and Workshop Facilitator who is learning that she loves to blog too! 🙂 JOY, JOY, JOY!
Happy Valentine’s day to my beloved Life! I am so grateful for the gift of Life. I painted this picture this morning showing how I ‘feel’. I feel like my heart is going to burst with happiness.
Every morning when I wake up I am thankful for yet another day on earth where I get a chance to use my heart and to project love out to the entire planet. I know that it starts with myself and I have gotten better at loving myself too. I do my best to do what I can too to help others to love themselves. I know that when we all are full of our own love, it can’t help but spill out onto the rest of the world. 🙂
What else am I grateful for today oh lovely life of mine? I am grateful for the gift of Life itself itself where I can be childlike and paint pictures like this and I get to express myself as a creator. I know I can create pictures and use colors and my imagination. It is so thrilling! And guess what? I can create my day and my world too! Wow! Thank you Life for allowing me to express myself as the divine orchestrator and creator that I am! I am that I am!
Is life always easy? No. Is life always fair? No. But…. I know that what I seek seeks me so I seek Love, Kindness, Compassion, JOY, Laughter, Expression, Art, Writing, Singing and more…. In fact, I seek more, more, more!!!! But best of all, I love, love, love, that I can help others find all of these things in their life too! Thank you Life for allowing me to use my gift of expression to share inspiration and love through this heart of mine that beats for yet another day.
Happy Valentine’s Day to LIFE! You are the most precious gift and I am grateful to you with all my heart………….
Oh and thanks to my daughter, Sivanna Roses for encouraging me to pick up a paint brush. I do love it!!!! Why have I waited so long? 🙂
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach who is passionate about Life, Love and helping others to remember who they really are and to express and appreciate themselves by opening their heart to their divine greatness.
Do you ever have visions or get inspired just before you wake up or get out of bed? I do often and this morning was no different. This little drawing was the first thing I did after making my lemon water this morning.
There are two things I am learning and getting at a much deeper level. One is that everything is art because we are all creators, so everything is art to me now… the food I make, the drawing/chart/whatever you want to call it picture in this blog post, the words I am writing, and on and on. It’s all art becaues I am creating it!
The second thing I am really understanding is that I KNOW without a shadow of a doubt, that everything IS energy, but now I am getting deeply how everything is about energy exchange! As my picture shows, there is energy being exchanged in all directions all the time:
Between the sun and the earth
Between the sun and food and growing food
Between the sun and people
Between the sun and our pets
Between us and our pets
Between people and people
Between business owners and their clients
Between words the reader of the words
Between sound and the listener of the sound
and on and on an on.
The key here is what kind of energy are you exchanging in any situation? Is it warming and soothing like the sun can be? Is it uplifting to your soul? Does it bring a smile to your face? Are your serving others with the energy you put out?
Why not ponder on this for a moment or as you go through your day? Observe the energy exchanges that you have and see if they are serving you for your highest good or if they could use some enhancements.
I will close with a saying that I think ties in well here and will leave you with this thought that I hit home on time and time again. “What you seek, seeks YOU!” So, think of that when you are out there exchanging energy. Want more love? Give more love! Want more kindness in your life? Give more kindness! Want more compassion in your life? Be more compassionate….. and on and on and on…
Have an amazing day everyone and I am sending you so much juicy positive energy that I KNOW you can feel it right now! Lap it up K? 🙂
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Artist… yep she’s an Artist 🙂 who loves to uplift and inspire others for no other reason other than it makes them feel good and in turn she feels good. 🙂 WOW! What she seeks, she gets 😉
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I was just listening to a FB live with Anita Moorjani, author of “Dying to Be ME” and she stated that if you are still here, as in alive on earth, it means that there are still gifts waiting for you.
I thought this was beautiful and true! This is so inspiring to hear. I am learning everyday that we need to be open to the gifts. We need to be open to our own gifts and to allow them to flow through us so that we can share our gifts with the world.
There are also gifts for us and we need to be able to receive them. There are gifts of beauty, kindness, Love, sensation, wonder, art, creation, JOY and more! Gifts, gifts everywhere!
Go ahead, open your gifts and receive your gifts. 🙂
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There is a new and beautiful book out called “Magic and Miracles” and I am absolutely blessed to know two of the contributing authors. Paul Lufteneggar and Elspeth Kerr. Paul is my most favorite musical artist and he is an Award Winning Singer/Songwriter/Composer who is Inspiring Global Love & Kindness around the world through his music and his LOVE that radiates out far and wide! His music and his LOVE have truly opened my heart to a divine depth that is hard to put into words.
And as for Elspeth, you will get to know more about her in this blog post 🙂
One day while delighting in reading this beautiful book, I turned to Elspeth’s story and was so moved by it, that I reached out to her on FB to share my love of her contribution in the book. I mentioned to her how the poem that she had ended her chapter with, had moved me to tears. Elspeth reached out to me after that and offered to do a meditation with me one day. She mentioned that she had created a meditation around the book. My soul quickly responded with an absolute “I’d love to!”. 🙂
Elspeth is in Cypress and I am in Canada so we would connect through FB video.
Well the magical day came when the stars aligned and technology connected us and the meditation happened, and Oh what a beautiful experience it was!
As you can see the cover of the book is a beautiful mandala. Elspeth had me start by focusing on the center of this mandala. She explained that all of the energies and love of all of the contributing authors were infused in the words and between the pages of this beautiful book. She then led me through a beautiful mediation that lasted around 30 to 40 minutes. I really don’t remember the whole process but what I do know is what happened for me as a result of this gift.
I do believe I had a deep healing and profound shift or push in my awakening. If I could use one word, it would be ‘Unstoppable’. I feel unstoppable in my awakening, transforming, and in my love for myself. I feel that I have renewed clarity and trust in my mission in life. I feel clear and ready to deliver messages to the world that involve LOVE, TRUST, and HEALING, fueled by HOPE and INSPIRATION. I feel like I have been waiting my entire life for this and the time is NOW!
I thought I would share with you Elspeth’s intro in the book so you can know her better too. Here it is:
About the Author My name is Elspeth Kerr, I was born in Scotland and moved to Cyprus to follow my bliss. I am married and a mum of one daughter whom I love deeply. I am a soul reader of the heart and I teach Reiki and self-empowerment. I use my knowledge to help souls shine with joy from the inside out. I help the soul smile and beam its divine radiant light through direct connection that the soul has to source. I remind my clients to own their smile, which starts their internal ‘Love Engine.’ I look to nature for my answers spending my days supporting Gaia. I liberate the heart and soul through the original nature of Spirit. My healing space is a safe place to release. I offer the world my services via Skype and in-person-sessions to find the magic and miracle within.
I highly recommend all of the work of both of these two beautiful people doing this soulful work on the planet and I also highly recommend the book! I myself, just today, ordered the hard copy to have along with my digital. I so have to be able to stare at that beautiful mandala on a daily basis. 🙂 Here is a link to learn more about the book Link to Book “Magic and Miracles”
I will close this post for today, with a heart that is full of LOVE and sending radient rays of divine blessings, magical forces, and LOVE to each of you reading this at the very moment you are reading it. Words do carry frequencies and you can count on every word and every being involved or mentioned in this post infusing YOU with absolute Blessed LOVE and LIGHT. And so it is!
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Board Certified Nutritionist who is excited to assist those on the planet to awaken to their divine gifts, to LOVE and to more JOY in the world! It is all here for ALL of us. We need only to awaken to accepting the gifts. Will you open yours? 🙂
Around this time of year I start to think about new solutions for the New Year. Not re-solutions but more so adding in more enhancements to my Life List. I ran across this post in my Facebook memories today an I loved it all over again! It is about my daughter who was 11 at the time.
I love Sivanna’s attitude and I share the same. I have learned that the secret to having what you want is knowing you already do! And when you really ‘feel’ that way you attract in more of that which you desire.
So I don’t think of a new year as something I have to go into thinking I have to change something or give something up. Instead I think what can I add in more of? What can I add in more of to make me smile more, love more, feel better more, have more JOY, more passion, more health, more peace of mind, more… more… more…. not give up, give up… 🙂
When we start the New Year from a place of being happy now, we can attract more happiness. What we seek ALWAYS seeks us.
I am wishing all of you a wonder-filled and JOYous New Year of your choosing. 🙂
Maggie Holbik is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who loves life and amazingly enough it loves her back! 🙂 Look out 2019!!! Woot Woot!
Tonight I had a digital conversation with a coaching client and it brought up a very important topic, one that I think is important for all of us when we need to heal and move forward in life.
I will call my client Rose. We were discussing some pain around Rose and her feelings towards her departed mother. When Rose described to me the way her mother was in her actions, the behaviour that Rose found hurtful and negative, I asked Rose if she herself had ever behaved this way or could be seen this way. She responded with a “Yes”.
I then asked Rose to imagine her own child or children saying this about her 20 years from now. I then told her that she might feel like saying something like this in response “but you don’t understand why I felt like this, please don’t judge me, I need love actually”…
Rose was moved by this and started to shift the way she saw her mother. I also suggested she have compassion for her mother and to energetically hold her mother in her arms and tell her that she did not understand why she did or said the things she did that caused Rose pain, but that she would try to have compassion and understanding for her mother.
I suggested that Rose turn her loathing into love so that she, Rose, could release her own pain.
I also suggested to Rose that she see her Mom as a baby, a young girl, a woman her own age feeling the very inadequacies and pain that Rose herself now feels, and to see her mom as a vulnerable person rather than the mean person Rose saw from her own personalization of her mother that caused HER pain.
I also suggested to Rose that it is way easier to opt for anger and resentment than to Rise Above to Love, but Love will be what sets her free. Anger, blame and resentment are easy opt-ins for most people. I suggested to Rose that she had both the capacity and the space to rise above to love and that if her mother had felt love, understanding and felt supported in life, she would not have acted in the manner she had. People full of love do not hurt others. Hurt people hurt others.
Rose asked me if by shifting the way she saw her Mom did this mean she was she agreeing with what her mother did to her or how horribly she had treated her. I told her No and that she was meeting the situation with understanding at a higher level, and that she was having compassion for her mother. I asked Rose directly, if she really thought her mother would have behaved like that if she had felt good about herself, if she had felt loved and personally empowered. Rose answered “I guess not. I never thought about it like that”.
We concluded our conversation with Rose’s homework of holding her mother in her arms,in her mind, so that Rose could expand her own heart and include her Mom and herself, because what we give out we get back. I also reminded Rose that love can heal even after death and that if Rose wanted to heal and be free from pain, this would be of great benefit to her.
What about you? Who do you need to need to Rise Above to Love for? Maybe it’s a person or a situation. When you can expand your heart to shift the way you see the person or situation, and have compassion you will gain compassion and love for yourself too. Everyone wins here. 🙂
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who believes wholeheartedly in the power of Love and is working at finding more compassion in her own life for herself and others. Compassion is one of the beautiful threads in the tapestry of unconditional love that weaves the way to peace.
“All human life has its seasons and cycles, and no one’s personal chaos can be permanent. Winter, after all, gives way to spring and summer, though sometimes when branches stay dark and the earth cracks with ice, one thinks they will never come, that spring, and that summer, but they do, and always.: — Truman Capote.
Is this a hard time of year for you? Maybe you’ve lost a loved one or multiple loved ones or maybe you are alone, or you have had health issues, or this year has been very challenging for you. Whatever the case may be, remember that the sun always sets and better yet, it always rises again. There is always the HOPE of a new day, a new season and a new reason to keep the faith that things will get better.
Here are some ideas to help you shift your sadness, loneliness or pain.
When you are thinking of your loved ones that you have lost, why not try focusing on the beautiful and happy memories and ALLOW yourself to smile about them? They would want that. They would be saying, “Please, please, enjoy yourself, it’s my greatest wish for you!” Sometimes we think we are supposed to feel bad about them not being there and although it’s okay to miss them and grieve, it’s okay to have JOY from the memories that make our heart smile, and to en-JOY where we are now and who is in our lives now.
I too have suffered loss. By the age of 29, I had lost both parents and a soulmate in a 3 year time frame. Do I miss them? Yes, but I am also over-JOYED at the people in my life today, and even more empowered to make sure I make the most of the time that I have left. I have no time to waste and am grateful to be alive.
One of the best ways to rise out of our pain, is to give what you are looking for. If you are lonely maybe reach out to someone else and send a kind word, or make a phone call, or send a lovely message on social media to tell them that they are thought of at this time. What we give out, we truly get back tenfold! Give Love and you will get Love back. Give Kindness and you will get Kindness back. Give a helping hand and you will get a full heart. Be the love you seek and it shall seek you!.
I want to personally wish everyone reading this a Happy Holiday, or just a Happy Day today, whenever you are reading this. I wish for you more JOY, more LOVE and more LIFE!
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who has tears running down her face right now for YOU and for everyone with a heavy heart…. She wishes for all …. Happy and JOYOUS hearts today and always and in all ways!