hope, strength, Stress Management

Breaking Down To Break Through

Quote by Maggie Holbik: “Sometimes in life we fall down or even hit rock bottom because we are meant to find something there”. #trust

Life has its ups and downs and it is interesting indeed. In fact the ebb and flow of life is what makes in interesting. :=)

Hitting Rock Bottom

However, there are times where we fall or hit our bottom. Whether it is through the loss of loved ones, addictions, illness, job loss, breakups, trauma, or just anything that we feel derails us and brings us to our knees.

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In life we all experience these to one degree or another, or our loved ones and friends and colleagues do, because this is life.

These derailing times can be hard, very hard.

However, as a person who loves to offer HOPE and inspiration, I reflected on the quote I made above, and I could indeed find many examples and stories of people that I know who have shared their stories of how their rock bottom led them to a new chapter in their life and often times that new chapter was a beautiful one.

I remember reading somewhere or hearing someone say “When you throw your hands up in the air and give up, that is the best thing to happen”. Why? Because it means we stop the fight and we ‘break down to break through”. This is where the magic happens because we no longer are in resistance.

The Sweetness of All Of It

Through my years of my own experiences and hardships, my coaching of others and my own relationships, I have taken from these tough experiences, the ‘sweetness’. What do I mean by the sweetness?

I mean things like:

. When we have had an illness and we recover or it gets better, we no longer take our health for granted.

. When we lose someone we love, we are reminded to cherish those who are still here on earth next to us.

. When we give up our fight with our addiction(s) and find freedom.

. When we have learned boundaries that were necessary and can now feel safe and even experience JOY from this.

. When we decide that we have more power over our circumstances than we once thought, it brings freedom and peace of mind.

. When a relationship ends and we start the real relationship with ourselves and understand self-love.

. When we move or move on and find new things to cherish and new things to experience.

These are just a few examples of ‘the sweetness’ and I am sure you can come up with some of your own too. 🙂

I hope that this post has offered you something, whether it is insight, strength, HOPE, or anything at all that helps. That would make MY heart happy.

And as always, if you are struggling and need help, please reach out. It takes strength and courage to reach out and I know that you have that. I believe in you.

With Much Love,

Maggie

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Are The Holidays a Challenge For You?

“All human life has its seasons and cycles, and no one’s personal chaos can be permanent. Winter, after all, gives way to spring and summer, though sometimes when branches stay dark and the earth cracks with ice, one thinks they will never come, that spring, and that summer, but they do, and always.: — Truman Capote.

Is this a hard time of year for you? Maybe you’ve lost a loved one or multiple loved ones or maybe you are alone, or you have had health issues, or this year has been very challenging for you. Whatever the case may be, remember that the sun always sets and better yet, it always rises again. There is always the HOPE of a new day, a new season and a new reason to keep the faith that things will get better.

Here are some ideas to help you shift your sadness, loneliness or pain.

When you are thinking of your loved ones that you have lost, why not try focusing on the beautiful and happy memories and ALLOW yourself to smile about them? They would want that. They would be saying, “Please, please, enjoy yourself, it’s my greatest wish for you!” Sometimes we think we are supposed to feel bad about them not being there and although it’s okay to miss them and grieve, it’s okay to have JOY from the memories that make our heart smile, and to en-JOY where we are now and who is in our lives now.

I too have suffered loss. By the age of 29, I had lost both parents and a soulmate in a 3 year time frame. Do I miss them? Yes, but I am also over-JOYED at the people in my life today, and even more empowered to make sure I make the most of the time that I have left. I have no time to waste and am grateful to be alive.

One of the best ways to rise out of our pain, is to give what you are looking for. If you are lonely maybe reach out to someone else and send a kind word, or make a phone call, or send a lovely message on social media to tell them that they are thought of at this time. What we give out, we truly get back tenfold! Give Love and you will get Love back. Give Kindness and you will get Kindness back. Give a helping hand and you will get a full heart. Be the love you seek and it shall seek you!.

I want to personally wish everyone reading this a Happy Holiday, or just a Happy Day today, whenever you are reading this. I wish for you more JOY, more LOVE and more LIFE!

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who has tears running down her face right now for YOU and for everyone with a heavy heart…. She wishes for all …. Happy and JOYOUS hearts today and always and in all ways!

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On Laughther, Life, and The Human Spirit’s Ability to Prevail

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Today I went for lunch with a long time friend of mine, Marj, and although we don’t see each other often, it is always an instant and heartfelt connection when we do.

Today, was a delightful lunch and we laughed very hard throughout the lunch.  In fact, we laughed several times until the point of tears. We talked about funny memories that we had from a place we both worked at in the past, we talked about sickness, life, and even death.

After I left my lunch, I realized how good it was seeing my good friend and it was extra good because we laughed so hard. It was one of those lunches where you were really glad that you had the experience. When I got into my car, I thought to myself, that I was going to let my friend know how much I enjoyed it when it hit me…..

Wow, here was my friend who has just lost her husband a few short months ago and who also JUST found out that she has breast cancer and here we were laughing and laughing and I was leaving there feeling uplifted? How could this be? In was then that I realized how amazing my friend is and how resilient the human spirit is.

To my friend, you are amazing and you inspire me with your strength, kindness, compassion, joy for life, wisdom, and your amazing resilience to triumph and blaze through some of the most difficult challenges of life. I am sure we could all agree that in life, it’s not a matter of ‘if we will go through hardships’, but when and you my friend have risen to the occasion. I know that you have felt deep pain and loss, and that you are probably scared,  but to see you able to laugh and carry on is a gift to me and the world.

Keep being you. I love you my friend!