Here I am at 53 years old and I have had many life’s experiences and I look forward to many more. Life has a way of softening you as you go along. Or maybe hardening for some but for me I feel softer. I sure am not the woman I was 10, 20 or even 30 years ago and I’m glad. 🙂
If I could write a note to my younger self, and I can, lol this is what I would say:
I remember when you were a younger version of yourself and although you lacked confidence throughout many times of your life, there were times when you thought you knew it all. It is interesting for me to see this as I now know how little you knew. 🙂
Some tips I could offer the younger version of you would be:
- Be Kind. The world needs more kindness and compassion. Especially be kind to those who have been around in life longer than you have. They have had more time to experiences life’s up and downs. They have had more hurts, heartaches and loss and it wears on a person. These people need extra kindness and less animosity and judgment. Be kind.
- Be Gentle. “A gentle word, a kind look, a good-natured smile can work wonders and accomplish miracles”. William Hazlitt Being gentle is a virtue worth living by. Gentleness is a form of love expressed that softens, that opens, and that shows compassion. Practice gentleness on a daily basis.
- Let It Go. Let go of all of those ideals that do not serve you. Especially the need to be right and to know it all. Instead be open. Be inquisitive and be willing to listen, to really listen.
- Don’t Personalize Things! If you really want a fast track to peace, don’t personalize anything. You have no idea what another person is going through, a stranger or kin. Just love them within your heart and mind. So many heartaches have come from people assuming things were said for a certain reason or intended to hurt you. Just let that stuff go. It matters not. Know in your heart that you are okay and that are made of love and will return to love. You have been the one hurt and you have hurt others. Let it all go and turn to Love. And remember when people hurt you, they need extra love. Anyone who is in that much pain that they would hurt others needs more love. You know you’ve been there. 🙂 Stop the madness now.
- Forgive. Forgive often and forgive quickly. The sooner you forgive others and yourself the sooner you give the gift. The gift of for*give*ness. Give it often. “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you” Lewis B. Smedes … Free yourself sooner than later. 🙂
- Be YOU. Don’t wait your entire lifetime to be YOU. Your job is to be you. You were born perfectly YOU for a reason. 🙂 YOU are the gift to the world. Let that gift be opened and shared with the world. Lead by example. Show the way for others and encourage them to be themselves and to wear their uniqueness like the jewel that it is.
Well dearest little one, I could say more but I think this is suffice for this blog post today. Go now and be that best version of YOU that you are learning to share with the world so freely. I hope others are inspired to be themselves and that they go throughout their day today in JOY and Love. Blessings to all…
Yep. You read that title right!
I am writing this blog post more for me so I can remember something that moved me deeply yesterday, but hey if you are here and want to read along, feel free.
So here it is. Yesterday I was driving by a funeral home and saw the cars outside. It made me wonder because of the time of day if they were having a luncheon about that time. I started thinking about how I love little tea sandwiches. I always have. I can pass on the desserts but the little sandwiches I have a hard time saying No to :-).
My spouse also knows this and we have often talked about how there will be little sandwiches at my funeral. 🙂 I started to think about this and in one brief moment in time while pondering these little sandwiches, I had an epiphany!
Life will go on and it will happen quickly! I saw the people say goodbye to me, say some nice words, eat little sandwiches, sip on coffee and tea and enJOY some desserts and then hop in their cars and go back to work, to their homes, to their life. It will go on as it always does.
I may not be conveying what I feel here but that’s okay because I get it and I did mention this blog post was more for me to remember the moment from yesterday’s drive by the funeral home. 🙂
What do I take from this?
. life is short so make the moments matter and the moments count
. forgive quickly and often
. never begrudge a Monday, it is always one less that you will have
. look at everything and every experience as though it were both the first and last time you will feel that, experience that, or see that
. have gratitude for the simple things like a bed to sleep in, the smell of coffee, the sound of rain, the blue sky, the breath of your loved ones who are still walking beside you on earth because it reminds you that they are still here with you, the smile from a random stranger, the hot cup of tea, the good book, your warm socks, etc. etc. etc.
. chase and CHOOSE JOY like nobody’s business
. find pleasure and JOY everyday and as much as you can!
. eat the chocolate! (and the little sammies off course) 🙂
. appreciate each and everyday for the gift that it is, they are numbered and we all know it… it’s realizing it that matters most
. throw FEAR out the window and tell it you never want to see it again! Live fearlessly and in JOY!
. be as much YOU as you can! Authentic, Real, Raw in all your imperfection which is perfect!
. be FREE…………….
Maggie Holbik.com is lover of life who believes that death can teach us a lot about life and that the circle of life is precious and sacred and is denied to many… she is passionate about helping people to find the JOY in their life and to see the beauty all around that is waiting for eyes to witness it and hearts to appreciate it.
When I look at my neighbor, what do I see?
I see a person looking back at me.
Is the person I see compassionate and kind?
Are these the thoughts that go through my mind?
Do I see anger, loneliness and despair?
Does his life seem empty and full of fear?
Do I see Love, Beauty, and JOY?
Do I feel compassion and I don’t know why?
The thoughts that I have are who I must be…
Because the person I see, is a mirror of me.
Here is another quote from the book of quotes that my daughter gave me for Valentine’s Day. I adore these quotes from the book that she made for me by hand. Each day, when I open one, it is a gift and I treasure it.
Today’s made me think about the word ‘mistake’. I have come to believe that there are no mistakes in life, or at least I try not to look at them that way anymore. I see all experiences as stepping stones or as what I call “the contrast”. The contrast simply means an experience that I have had that shows me what I really, really, want verses “the contrast”, which is what I don’t want or no longer want to bring into my life and my life’s experiences.
A simple example could be a relationship that one has had. If you left a marriage or relationship of any kind, instead of seeing it as bad or wasted time, why not see it as the gift of showing you what you DO want in a relationship. Because of your past experience, you are much clearer on what is important for you to create in your life now.
The other day I wrote a blog post, also inspired by my daughter’s quote book, from that blog post I will quote myself here in reference to me saying No to an opportunity to be interviewed on a TV show about my overcoming adversity in health and life. I will put the link later in this blog post to read the full post but for now here is me quoting me: 🙂
‘”I see all of my past experiences as stepping stones that have gotten me to where I am today. The hardships and challenges have made me who I am so I see them as GIFTS! I did not feel I could properly convey myself to share the hardship piece because I don’t feel that way. I see everything as if it was perfect! It was the contrast I needed to show me what I do want. 🙂 I don’t want to talk about painful stuff. It does not serve me. I am too focused on where I am now and en-JOY-ing the next phase. I hope this makes sense cause I feel I am having a hard time conveying it for some reason…. but that’s okay, no perfection here. 🙂”
Here is the link to that prior blog post if you would like to read the entire piece. Maggie’s Prior Blog Post
The cool thing about that prior blog post was that I got great responses from people and I could tell that it really helped them to shift the way they saw their past. For example here is one private message that I received:
“Love the blog post and Sivanna’s book. Wow ! Lots of love in that. So I’m thinking or it hit me as I read , I need to change how I think of my marriage and my ex. I think of it as lost time. Wasted years. Years of sadness and lack that I beat myself up for tolerating.”
I was very happy to see this message from this is a client of mine that I know well, It was an awesome moment for me to see her willing to let go of holding onto thinking of her past in a painful way. This does not serve us. It only robs us of the JOY we can have right now. I often say that the past already caused us pain, why let it cause you more pain today all over again? That’s like a double whammy!
I hope you too can start to think of so called mistakes as stepping stones to creating the life that you DO want and that will bring you more JOY, Love, Happiness and Magical relationships of all kinds! When we let go of that which no longer serves us, we can be FREE! 🙂
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach, Speaker, Nutritionist and Workshop Facilitator who is learning that she loves to blog too! 🙂 JOY, JOY, JOY!
Happy Valentine’s day to my beloved Life! I am so grateful for the gift of Life. I painted this picture this morning showing how I ‘feel’. I feel like my heart is going to burst with happiness.
Every morning when I wake up I am thankful for yet another day on earth where I get a chance to use my heart and to project love out to the entire planet. I know that it starts with myself and I have gotten better at loving myself too. I do my best to do what I can too to help others to love themselves. I know that when we all are full of our own love, it can’t help but spill out onto the rest of the world. 🙂
What else am I grateful for today oh lovely life of mine? I am grateful for the gift of Life itself itself where I can be childlike and paint pictures like this and I get to express myself as a creator. I know I can create pictures and use colors and my imagination. It is so thrilling! And guess what? I can create my day and my world too! Wow! Thank you Life for allowing me to express myself as the divine orchestrator and creator that I am! I am that I am!
Is life always easy? No. Is life always fair? No. But…. I know that what I seek seeks me so I seek Love, Kindness, Compassion, JOY, Laughter, Expression, Art, Writing, Singing and more…. In fact, I seek more, more, more!!!! But best of all, I love, love, love, that I can help others find all of these things in their life too! Thank you Life for allowing me to use my gift of expression to share inspiration and love through this heart of mine that beats for yet another day.
Happy Valentine’s Day to LIFE! You are the most precious gift and I am grateful to you with all my heart………….
Oh and thanks to my daughter, Sivanna Roses for encouraging me to pick up a paint brush. I do love it!!!! Why have I waited so long? 🙂
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach who is passionate about Life, Love and helping others to remember who they really are and to express and appreciate themselves by opening their heart to their divine greatness.
We are bombarded with ads everywhere promoting a more youthful appearance, how to reduce fine lines and wrinkles, and how to stop aging. It’s sad really that we feel this way.
My daughter is 12 and she often expresses with complete JOY how cute she thinks old people are. In fact, she often calls them adorable! I feel the same and I love that the youth of the world think so too!
I often people watch in places like airports and on airplanes and I am just in awe at the beauty and grace all around me in the form of aging bodies that contain souls and minds full of wisdom and life. I marvel just as much at them as I do at the brand new babies, maybe more so!
The word that often comes to mind, when I encounter this beauty, is ‘gentleness’ and I think the world needs more gentleness now …. don’t you?
What if we spent the precious time that we do have in our days focusing on shining eyes and beautiful souls, rather than trying to stop the grace that presents itself in the process of aging and in all of its glory?
Do I get caught off guard at times when I look at my own reflection in the mirror? Yes, but now I try to smile back at myself and look into my own eyes, knowing that all is perfect, and every stage in life has its beauty. We often say there are ages and stages when it comes to raising kids, but there are also ages and stages to aging. The more we can accept all of these stages, with grace, the gentler the process and the more we can see the beauty.
I encourage everyone to look for the beauty, to love the ages and stages, and to remember that at the end of our lives it’s not about the wrinkles, but about who we loved, who loved us, and the moments that mattered along the way…….
“Life is a series of thousands of tiny miracles, notice them.”
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach who is opening her heart to more beauty and gentleness in her life. She sends love to everyone reading these words and she believes in the beauty of life itself.
I was messaging with a coaching client this morning and we were discussing her pursuing her own coaching practice.
She wrote this:
“Yes and if I don’t actually start and get it going I never will. I’ll always be wanting to or waiting to.”
Although there is some truth in this, I also suggested to her that the time will be right when it happens. This is something I believe also has some validity to it.
For example, how do you know when it’s the right time to leave a relationship or a job? When you do leave. That’s the right time 🙂 By applying this principle in my own life, I have found that it takes the pressure and stress off, and one is actually able to make decisions from a place of personal empowerment rather than from a place of fear and struggle.
This what I typed back to my client:
“You will start when you are ready. How do you know it’s time? When you start. Try not to work or begin on stress but on inspiration.”
I found my own words in this response profound! Anything we become inspired to do, will be what we do without resistance and fear. Inspiration is the fuel that leads the way and throws open the doors to where we want to go or where we want to transition to.
My saying for 2019 is “I am unstoppable.” I think it ties in nicely with working from a place of inspiration and JOY. Where and what do you want to transition to or from in your life that will allow in more JOY and inspiration? What tickles your soul when you think of doing more of it?
I hope you find strength in making transitions and decisions in your life from a place of inspiration. and that you too make 2019 your year of being ‘Unstoppable’. 🙂
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who feels her creativity is leading the way in her life and inspiring her to continue to use her words and her creative expression to put forth more Love into the world and to help people to remember their greatness.
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I was just listening to a FB live with Anita Moorjani, author of “Dying to Be ME” and she stated that if you are still here, as in alive on earth, it means that there are still gifts waiting for you.
I thought this was beautiful and true! This is so inspiring to hear. I am learning everyday that we need to be open to the gifts. We need to be open to our own gifts and to allow them to flow through us so that we can share our gifts with the world.
There are also gifts for us and we need to be able to receive them. There are gifts of beauty, kindness, Love, sensation, wonder, art, creation, JOY and more! Gifts, gifts everywhere!
Go ahead, open your gifts and receive your gifts. 🙂
I was reading an article someone sent to me about the latest wellness trends and what would be popular in 2019. Of course celery juice was #1 on the list. You can learn more about celery juice at my blog post from last year here: Celery Juice 101 Blog Post
But today I want to talk about another trend that I think is awesome! The trend is that people are going to realize that a healthier lifestyle means more than what they eat, how intense their workouts are, etc.
More and more people are coming to realize that the little things we do on a daily basis have a huge impact on our health and peace of mind. These are usually parts of our lives that we take for granted, like spending time with those we love, taking down time, taking a break from technology, reading a book, cooking a meal,playing a board game together, going for a walk, and basically getting back to living and en-JOYing life!
I really love this trend and am inspired to add in more of this life en-JOYment for myself and I hope you too find that 2019 brings you more of the things that make you smile and that connect your with those you love!
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who is excited about 2019 and beyond. There is so much JOY to be had from the simple things in life, that they do in fact become the big things!