compassion, kindness, self-love

Compassion For Self

A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life.

christopher k. germer

Yesterday, while thrift store shopping, I was lucky enough to pick up a copy of Brene Brown’s book “The Gifts of Imperfection” Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are.

Although I haven’t read it yet, I have been skimming some of the pages and it is definitely resonating with me. I am reminded once again that we are not in this alone. We all suffer from the same things, self-doubt, insecurities, fear, lack of self-confidence and more. We are NOT alone! You, me and the stranger across the road, we’ve all been here or are here right now.

I write about self-love and compassion often and it seems for good reason. We can be so hard on ourselves. As I write this, I am glancing over at my cat Bella, curled up in a chair and I realize that when I look at Bella so cute like that, I instantly feel this emotion that I would call compassion. Why? I am not sure. I don’t need to be compassionate to her or for her but for some reason that emotion comes to mind. It makes me think that we all have compassion in us but being compassionate to ourselves often seems so challenging.

In my quest of getting a better understanding of compassion I found these synonyms:

pity, sympathy, feeling, fellow feeling, empathy, understanding, care, concern, solicitude, solicitousness, sensitivity, tender-heartedness, soft-heartedness, warm-heartedness, warmth, love, brotherly love, tenderness, gentleness, mercy, mercifulness, leniency, lenience, tolerance,  consideration, kindness, humanity, humaneness, kind-heartedness, charity, benevolence

The two that jumped out at me the most, were soft-heartedness and warm-heartedness. Yes this is what I feel when I look at Bella all cuddled up over on that chair. My heart is warm and melting and I just want to go over there and kiss her or cuddle her.

What if we could look in the mirror and feel that way about ourselves? Would it have an impact? I think it would. And I think if we felt that way towards ourselves we would open up our capacity to feel these tender feelings toward others and then the whole world benefits just like the starfish story, one starfish at a time. 🙂

I hope you take the time to practice compassion and self-love for yourself today and always. I am going to start right away. Just writing this post has helped me to see the gift in compassion and to feel it’s power to shift and to heal. Will you join me? I would love to hear also what synonyms for compassion resonated with you or jumped out at you? 🙂

Wishing you a day full of JOY and Compassion……

With Love,

Maggie

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach & Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach who loves to write as a way of expressing her feelings. She thanks you for taking the time today to stop by and spend a moment with her in her heart and soul.

compassion, Gentleness, kindness

Hard Times….

It has been awhile since I have made a blog post. I just haven’t been inspired but now I realize that it’s all ok and that blogging involves sharing through the highs and lows of life.

There seems to be so much sadness around lately and so many people going through extremely trying times… all the cycles of life and of life and death.

Yesterday we lost a very precious woman who was close to my heart, Pam Bowling, Pam was a mentor to me in business, a business partner and a friend. She was an amazing lady and I will honor her memory always. Pam was very much an entrepreneur like myself. Pam held me in the light always and encouraged me and my entire team onto success and I am forever grateful for that. In memory of Pam I will continue to forge ahead and to also help others on their journeys of creating and designing lives that bring them freedom….. to love, to grow, to inspire, to dream and to create lives that allow them to make the most of their time here on earth.

Pam was beautiful inside and out and if you knew her, you loved her!

While contemplating all of the heavy hearts and toil I see and feel going on around me, the only word that keeps coming to mind is “kindness”. Kindness, Kindness, Kindness. We need to be kind to each other, we need to be kind to ourselves and to be gentle with ourselves and others.

Kindness is that part of love that reaches out and offers support in times of need. Kindness is the thread of hope that bridges the gaps between pain and suffering. Kindness is the glue that helps to heal the holes created by loss. Kindness is a gift……

The fragrance always stays in the hand that gives the rose.  

hada Bejar

If you are reading this and need support or comfort, please know that love and kindness are sent your way today.

And to Pam…. I know you are now an angel for many of us and I feel you as the wind beneath my wings…..

kindness, love, loving kindness, paul luftenegger.

Love. Live. Love

Often I am commenting on posts that I really, really, like and I like put “Love, Love, Love!” in the comments to show how much I like it. 🙂

The interesting thing is that almost all the time, I misspell one of the Loves and it goes something like this. “Love, Live, Love”. And I say to myself something like “oh I made a mistake” but my heart always says “No, it’s perfect!” Love, Live, Love!!!

I got to thinking about this and it is so true! If we don’t have love in our lives, especially for ourselves, we cannot truly live! We are comprised of love. Every cell in our body is and came from love and will return to love. Today in my morning meditation I saw every cell in my body as littles tiny hearts. ❤ ❤ ❤ It was a great visual.

If we want to fast tract our lives to a JOYous journey here on earth or to a blissful state, then we need to fast track our love of self.

This morning when I opened FB I saw a this beautiful post from my friend Paul Luftenger. Paul is a Multi Award Winning Published Singer Songwriter In 120+ Countries

“Paul Writes, Sings, and Composes Conscious Music To Inspire Global Love & Kindness From Within – Powerful Conscious Music Always Supporting The Heart & Soul To Feel and Know Its Beauty and Divine Holy Worth From The Inside Out!”

Paul is one of my favorite people and in his FB post this morning he wrote this. I can’t help but share it here because it is on point:

From Paul’s FB Post:

“What I wish all human beings on earth knew today.

To be kind and gentle and loving to oneself.

To stop pointing fingers at others by embracing the light of love and kindness from within oneself.

I have learned that the real pain of the world comes from one place…the space within oneself projected out on others without regard or responsibility of one’s own energy or vibration. It is the biggest lie ever told.

Healthy people have healthy hearts and healthy souls; they don’t harm others – but rather embrace the self healing process from within oneself.

I have learned in my 42 years of being human that the one person that has to be loved and forgiven is the hardest person to fully embrace and love, and that is oneself.

I use to be so hard on him.

I use to tell him he couldn’t sing or dance or be free.

I use to scold him for being scared.

I use to belittle him for all the stupid choices he had made.

I use to tell him he was weak.

I use to feel he wasn’t smart enough…. or that he was too stupid or too pathetic or too gay or too ugly…..until one day I embraced him for all the things he was…it came to be known after I prayed to God for help on the day my father hung himself….I was shown by God to love the spark of God that he was…. for he was shown that he was a piece of God….. and I began to love the child he once was… the gift to the world he had forgotten he was and day by day his light began to be brighter….and brighter….and brighter.

That precious child within me healed all of my wounds with God’s pure loving grace through letting go and taking the knife away from his own throat.

Each time I cried to God in my darkness, I begged God to show me the way…and God did.

Each day God picked me up out of the mud and pain and shame of my life and showed me I could shine my light. Some people hated me for it… some told me I wasn’t good enough and tried to destroy me….some people discarded me for it… but each day God showed my that my soul was meant to shine and that those who were cruel to me, like me, had forgotten that they could shine from their heart and soul too.

I loved that precious little boy in me whole again with God’s pure love, and the stains of the self hatred started to disappear and vanish from within me…. I began to self illuminate my life from my heart and soul working together reminding others of the light within them.

That little boy is now a man…and one I am so proud to be. When I look at myself in the mirror now, I see all the love that my heart and soul was able to spread.

I have learned that love really is the superpower in the world and it begins with obeying God and trusting and having faith in his way…

Love your enemy, and obey God, by loving yourself again…. by being honest and responsible for the energy you create by being the heart and soul that is within you.

You are not what the world told you you are. You are free of all of that once you claim it.

This is what I know for sure.

Love.

Love…

Love… and be kind to the little boy or the little girl within you.”

Paul Luftenegger

Well that was a beautiful way to start my day. Reading Paul’s post and then I commented with my famous typo “Love, Live, Love”, which seemed perfect, of course, and led me to this blog post. Everything is divinely perfect when we open to the flow of universal LOVE.

Have an amazing day everyone. I send you nothing but LOVE and I hope you LIVE LOVE today.

❤ ❤ ❤

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach, Pysch-K Facilitator & Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach who trained directly under Mike Dooley. Mike Dooley is a New York Times Bestselling author, speaker, and entrepreneur in the philosophical New Thought movement. His teachings contain the premise that our “thoughts become things,” an expression he made popular in Rhonda Byrne’s book and video documentary on the Law of Attraction, The Secret.

abundance, Divine Signs, kindness, love

Signs, Signs & More Signs

I swear I couldn’t love ❤ you more than I do right now, and yet I know I will tomorrow.

leo christopher

I love when things flow. This morning I keep seeing messages about Love and I Love that! 🙂 pun intended! ❤ ❤ ❤

Here is one that I saw in a Daily Teachings from The Secret by Rhonda Byrne

“Our highest power is love, and it is one thing each of us has an unlimited amount of. How much love do you give to others in one day? Each day we have an opportunity to set out with this great, unlimited power in our possession, and pour it over every person and circumstance.

Love is appreciating, complimenting, feeling gratitude, and speaking good words to others.

We have so much love to give, and the more that we give, the more that we receive.”

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The last line is of course my favorite “the more that we give, the more that we receive”. It is such a simple formula and I use it often. Whatever I want more of, I give more of….. Love, JOY, Kindness, Compassion, Inspiration…. etc. etc. etc. I wish you all nothing but JOY and LOVE today and always and in all ways.

Maggie Holbik.com is a passionate Lover of Life who delights in inspiring others to Love Life and to show the world more Love and Kindness by opening their hearts and minds up to the Infinite Possibilities that Love has to offer.

Friendship, giving, support

Sweet Friendships

A sweet friendship refreshes the soul.”

Proverbs 27.9 The message

Friendships are one of the greatest gifts in the world! Why is this so? For many reasons but I think a big one is because you feel supported.

In any relationship feeling understood and supported are both really important. A friend is often the perfect person to offer these gifts to you.

I really believe that in any relationship the best gift we can give each other is supporting each other in our wants and desires ie. “I want what you want for you!”. At least to me, this has been my greatest gift from my family, friends and even those I have met in my work. When we feel supported and we feel that our wants and desires are important, it truly is freeing and magical.

I hope that you too support yourself also. We need to be our own best friend and supporter. 🙂 Something to think about……

Maggie Holbik.com is enJOYing her work a an Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach and lately has been really appreciating all the support she has and continues to have in her life. She really believes that if you open your heart up and expand its reach, what comes back to you will be ten fold! Woo hoo and Oh ya!

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Are YOU Abundant?

What comes to mind when you think about the word ‘abundance’?

A lot of people’s thoughts go straight to the money piece but abundance is MUCH more than that. Abundance is really a measure of no limits and infinite possibilities. Being a Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer and Coach, I love the thought of infinite possibilities when it comes to abundance. 🙂 Would you like to unlock the pathway to more abundance? 🙂

The other day I listened to something very interesting. I enJOY the work of Christie Marie Sheldon and I was listening to one of her YouTube talks “How to Attract Abundance with Energy Clearing” and what I found most insightful was that she said she can see immediately how abundant a person is by observing their energy field. Christie is one of those people who can read energy and see where blocks are and such. People with large and open energy fields are much more abundant in all ways than those with closed, tight fields.

To me this made complete sense and is something I know at my soul level. It’s a very simple formula really. The more you give the more you get. Give more Love, time, laughter, JOY, compassion, kindness, offerings, etc. and the MORE you will get back! It’s a universal law and works perfectly. Be expansive and open!

Those people who are OPEN and EXPANSIVE in their thinking, in their hearts and in their minds, attract to them beautiful things and are abundant in multiple ways. The cool thing is that when you open up to abundance in all ways, you can ultimately attract financial abundance too! Money is just another form of abundance so when you tap into abundance in general you start attracting all facets of abundance because you are OPEN to receive.

You can spot an abundant person easily. They share of themselves. They share their laughter, their JOY, their ideas, their thoughts, they like to serve, they like to help, they like to share, and they give of themselves. They are good at sharing themselves and they believe that the universe is a friendly place. They trust in the good and they share that freely. They spread beauty and grace and they leave trails of goodness wherever they go.

Another simple sign of abundance that can be relatable for many are the people who always have an extra spot at the dinner table. My Mother was this way. There was always room for one more if the circumstance arose. There may not have always been a lot to offer, but there was always room for one more….. this is a true sign of having the energy of abundance.

Once you are aware of how this works you can have fun with it. Start observing how good it feels when you share of yourself. For example, I often hear from people or hear through other people who have been told that these people really enJOY my social media posts and that it makes their day brighter or they love following my posts. This brings me complete JOY! I love to share inspiration, JOY, feel good things and I want to share of myself to make the world brighter and more beautiful. I want to help people to be abundant in having more love, JOY, and happiness in their lives. It feels AMAZING to be able to help with this. I am truly ABUNDANT beyond words. My cup runneth over and I like it 🙂 🙂

I hope you expand your field and allow more abundance and JOY into your own life. I shower you with an ABUNDANCE of BLESSINGS!!!!!!

More posts along the lines of Abundance: https://maggiesvitamins.blog/2019/05/16/give-get/

https://maggieholbikbusinesscoaching.wordpress.com/2019/02/20/amassing-wealth-is-easy/

compassion, Don's Poems, kindness

The Mirror

A Poem by Don, year unknown

The Mirror

When I look at my neighbor, what do I see?

I see a person looking back at me.

Is the person I see compassionate and kind?

Are these the thoughts that go through my mind?

Do I see anger, loneliness and despair?

Does his life seem empty and full of fear?

Do I see Love, Beauty, and JOY?

Do I feel compassion and I don’t know why?

The thoughts that I have are who I must be…

Because the person I see, is a mirror of me.

Don Perry

compassion, kindness, Poems by Don, poetry

Kindness

A Poem by my Spouse and Friend, Don Perry

Kindness

In goodness and kindness, God made us like him,

So we can make a difference in this world we are in.

Be kind to the person with the different colored skin,

For he is your brother with the same feelings within.

Be kind to the beggar who begs night and day,

For we don’t know why his life is that way.

Be kind to the person who is having a bad day.

Forgive and don’t judge him for he words he might say.

Be kind with your words and things that you do,

And people will like it and duplicate you.

If we are all being kind in the things that we do and say,

We can change the world as we know it today.

Don Perry

January, 2001