Awakening, love life, self-love

Comparing Ourselves to Others

Question:

My two closest friends are really beautiful, always have boys around them and are charismatic. Meanwhile I’m the exact opposite. I can’t help feeling envious and bad about myself. How can I change this?

I answered this question over on another platform and thought it was worth sharing here as well. So here was my answer:

First know that you are not alone. We all have feelings of insecurity and unworthiness at times in our lives. In fact, as a Life Coach, this is the thing I see most with people. They truly do not love themselves enough, and do not feel personally empowered to be who they really are.

I would encourage you to become your own best friend! What would a best friend say to themselves? What would best friends say to each other? Would they encourage each other? Would they support each other? YES they would!

I wish I had learned to love myself earlier in my life. I do now. 100% but I went through a lot to get here. You do not have to! Things can happen “in an Instant” just like sending an email or a text message and it shows up instantly. I wrote a blog post about this and you or someone may find it helpful. Here is the link: The Art of Instant Forgiveness

Whether it’s self-love, self-acceptance or self forgiveness it truly can happen instantly if we ‘change our minds’ about it. So here is the greatest secret to shifting your feelings. Focus on the things that you do love about yourself and get excited about those. We all have some things that we do love.. maybe our laugh, our kindness to animals, etc. There is always something to be grateful for. When we get grateful we shift our energetic frequency from envy to JOY and JOY is where we want to be.

I wish you nothing but Happiness and JOY and I hope you get excited about being YOU and en-JOYing the beautiful gift that you are to the world. Blessings!

MaggieHolbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who en-JOYs instilling JOY in others. Life can be beautiful if we decide so.

 

 

Awakening, Life Coaching

Choose Living Fearlessly and in LOVE!

“Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live”. Dorothy Thompson

What if you decided that 2019 is going to be the year to Love yourself more?  By letting go of fear, we open the path to Love and Living and yes with Capitals! They are that important! 🙂

Fear is what holds us back and constricts us. Love expands and fear contracts. The fastest and easiest way to move through fear is to shine the light of love and this starts with us!!!

We can start to love ourselves more by being our own Lover.  This includes, but is not limited to, saying kind things to ourselves, being  gentle with ourselves, allowing time for rest, feeding our bodies with nutritious food, forgiving ourselves, consoling ourselves, and one that I would like to add in that I feel is important, is by empowering ourselves.  And we empower ourselves by doing all of those things just mentioned and more.

When we feel personally empowered we feel stronger and more capable of loving ourselves. True personal power comes from within. This means that WE have the capability to ramp up this personal power and that in itself is truly empowering!

I hope each and everyone of you reading this whether today, or in the future, claims and grasps your birthright, your entitlement which includes personal empowerment and self-love to ramp up your divine beauty so that 2019 and beyond can be the life that is better than your wildest and craziest dreams! Hold your own hand.winged heart Be your own Lover and a Lover of Life! It’s yours for the taking.

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who believes in living fearlessly and in love, and creates many opportunities to forgive herself, to grow, and to be human. She struggles along just as we all do, knowing that each and every day is a new opportunity to reconnect to ‘who we truly are’… LOVE.

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On Laughther, Life, and The Human Spirit’s Ability to Prevail

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Today I went for lunch with a long time friend of mine, Marj, and although we don’t see each other often, it is always an instant and heartfelt connection when we do.

Today, was a delightful lunch and we laughed very hard throughout the lunch.  In fact, we laughed several times until the point of tears. We talked about funny memories that we had from a place we both worked at in the past, we talked about sickness, life, and even death.

After I left my lunch, I realized how good it was seeing my good friend and it was extra good because we laughed so hard. It was one of those lunches where you were really glad that you had the experience. When I got into my car, I thought to myself, that I was going to let my friend know how much I enjoyed it when it hit me…..

Wow, here was my friend who has just lost her husband a few short months ago and who also JUST found out that she has breast cancer and here we were laughing and laughing and I was leaving there feeling uplifted? How could this be? In was then that I realized how amazing my friend is and how resilient the human spirit is.

To my friend, you are amazing and you inspire me with your strength, kindness, compassion, joy for life, wisdom, and your amazing resilience to triumph and blaze through some of the most difficult challenges of life. I am sure we could all agree that in life, it’s not a matter of ‘if we will go through hardships’, but when and you my friend have risen to the occasion. I know that you have felt deep pain and loss, and that you are probably scared,  but to see you able to laugh and carry on is a gift to me and the world.

Keep being you. I love you my friend!