This morning a friend and I were having a telephone conversation. It came around to the topic of how important appreciation is. We were actually discussing business and life.
Somehow we ended up talking about the simple acts of kindness that make a huge difference. My friend, Teresa, mentioned that she often offers solicitors that come to her door, in the hot summer, water, or a snack. She mentioned one particular time when she gave one solicitor a few Kind bars and a bottle of water. He was so happy he didn’t even care that she didn’t want what he was selling. lol 🙂
But all joking aside, the small acts of kindness DOmake the biggest difference. I started talking about things such as offering food or drinks to the people that come to your home to service or repair your home’s ailments, giving up your seat on public transit, or a smile from a random stranger when you need it most . There are so many small acts of kindness that do make a huge difference.
I said you can give someone a million dollars and think that is a huge deal but sometimes just that smile that you need on a day when you feel you can’t go on anymore is an even bigger deal! That random smile could really save a life.
We both started to cry in this conversation and that is when I really knew how big of a deal small, random acts of kindness are.
Make you find it in your heart today to both give and receive kindness……. ❤ ❤ ❤
This morning my 13 year old daughter came to lay with me in bed before she started getting ready for school. She said she was sleepy and just wanted to sleep more. I told her to rest and I cuddled her. I drank in the moment and I embraced her with my arms and my heart. ❤
I started thinking about how much I was enJOYing holding her and I started thinking, as a Mother does, that one day she will be too big to hold like this. And then I stopped myself and said “NO, she will never be too big or too old to hold in my arms!” My eyes are leaking as I type this.
I started thinking about the moments in life like this. My brother popped by our house briefly on Sunday and Sivanna, my daughter, and I, had a group hug with Uncle Ed. I call these ‘Love Fests’ now. Uncle Ed was only over for about 5 minutes to drop something off and I was rushing out to Sunday brunch but that ‘Love Fest’ made a difference in our day, in our life, and it will be a memory in the memory love bank.
I also thought about the older lady I heard speak at a fundraiser I attended last night. It was with the Comedian Medium. Jennie Ogilvie. Anyhow this lady talked about how she wished she had been able “to spoon” her husband when he was dying. This was not possible for many reasons such as the room being filled with children and people and that he was in too much pain to touch. This moved everyone in the audience I am sure. Later in the show Jennie, The Medium, beautifully made this lady see that she needed to see that she was there when he passed and to remember all of the kisses that they did have so to speak, and not to focus on the one they didn’t. 🙂 I loved that.
The sentiment of this lady wanting to spoon her husband, the man that was her partner before children, her LOVE, ❤ that was also a huge testament to the fact that we are never too old or too big to hold someone in our arms, or cuddle them, or hug them ….. or to simply LOVE them.
It is Saturday morning and I am writing this blog post to express my feelings and then I am going to go for a much needed rest. I have become very behind on my sleep and it’s starting to show in my mental and emotional health. It’s funny actually because I have been behind on my sleep because I am so excited about life but now it has taken a toll on me and is now the content of this blog post.
I was thinking how we easily share with others that we have a cold or the flu or an ache or pain, but when it comes to our emotional and mental health, we sometimes don’t share this with others and it comes out in ways that are now always positive.
Yesterday, I snapped at a store clerk and this is not like me. I surprised myself actually. I also missed an appointment I had scheduled yesterday and I had even confirmed it. I am today realizing that I am tired physically but emotionally too and I am being vulnerable enough to share this with you. Brene Brown would be proud. 🙂
“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” “If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.”
There are many of us walking the planet doing the best we can. We have ups and we have downs. We experience laughter and we experience tears. Life is like this. And it’s okay.
For some reason I just wanted to share this today in case someone else is having a tough time mentally or emotionally. Know that you are not alone, and that it is okay to share with those you love that you are having an extra hard time right now. In fact reach out to someone if you need to.
For me, luckily I had some family support me yesterday and this morning my daughter left me this note to cheer me up.
Anyhow I am heading for my delightful rest now so I can begin to return to my JOYful self… I miss her. 🙂
For anyone reading this I send you much LOVE, support and most of all I wish you a JOYous day and if self-care is something you too need to schedule, I hope you do it. It is important to not only our physical health but especially our mental and emotional.
I love this kindness quote. It is so good to be reminded that we all struggle and therefore we do not struggle alone. This quote reminds me to not only offer kindness to myself and others but to also offer compassion and understanding.
We can never give or receive too much kindness. The sky is the limit!
Here are some kindness quotes to enJOY and to remind us of how powerful kindness can be.
Being kind to even one person can change a life. There are countless true stories of the power of even a random smile from a stranger that when received on a dark day or moment in a life, can be the difference between life and death. Kindness is THAT POWERFUL!
A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life.
christopher k. germer
Yesterday, while thrift store shopping, I was lucky enough to pick up a copy of Brene Brown’s book “The Gifts of Imperfection” Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are.
Although I haven’t read it yet, I have been skimming some of the pages and it is definitely resonating with me. I am reminded once again that we are not in this alone. We all suffer from the same things, self-doubt, insecurities, fear, lack of self-confidence and more. We are NOT alone! You, me and the stranger across the road, we’ve all been here or are here right now.
I write about self-love and compassion often and it seems for good reason. We can be so hard on ourselves. As I write this, I am glancing over at my cat Bella, curled up in a chair and I realize that when I look at Bella so cute like that, I instantly feel this emotion that I would call compassion. Why? I am not sure. I don’t need to be compassionate to her or for her but for some reason that emotion comes to mind. It makes me think that we all have compassion in us but being compassionate to ourselves often seems so challenging.
In my quest of getting a better understanding of compassion I found these synonyms:
The two that jumped out at me the most, were soft-heartedness and warm-heartedness. Yes this is what I feel when I look at Bella all cuddled up over on that chair. My heart is warm and melting and I just want to go over there and kiss her or cuddle her.
What if we could look in the mirror and feel that way about ourselves? Would it have an impact? I think it would. And I think if we felt that way towards ourselves we would open up our capacity to feel these tender feelings toward others and then the whole world benefits just like the starfish story, one starfish at a time. 🙂
I hope you take the time to practice compassion and self-love for yourself today and always. I am going to start right away. Just writing this post has helped me to see the gift in compassion and to feel it’s power to shift and to heal. Will you join me? I would love to hear also what synonyms for compassion resonated with you or jumped out at you? 🙂
Wishing you a day full of JOY and Compassion……
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach & Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach who loves to write as a way of expressing her feelings. She thanks you for taking the time today to stop by and spend a moment with her in her heart and soul.
It has been awhile since I have made a blog post. I just haven’t been inspired but now I realize that it’s all ok and that blogging involves sharing through the highs and lows of life.
There seems to be so much sadness around lately and so many people going through extremely trying times… all the cycles of life and of life and death.
Yesterday we lost a very precious woman who was close to my heart, Pam Bowling, Pam was a mentor to me in business, a business partner and a friend. She was an amazing lady and I will honor her memory always. Pam was very much an entrepreneur like myself. Pam held me in the light always and encouraged me and my entire team onto success and I am forever grateful for that. In memory of Pam I will continue to forge ahead and to also help others on their journeys of creating and designing lives that bring them freedom….. to love, to grow, to inspire, to dream and to create lives that allow them to make the most of their time here on earth.
Pam was beautiful inside and out and if you knew her, you loved her!
While contemplating all of the heavy hearts and toil I see and feel going on around me, the only word that keeps coming to mind is “kindness”. Kindness, Kindness, Kindness. We need to be kind to each other, we need to be kind to ourselves and to be gentle with ourselves and others.
Kindness is that part of love that reaches out and offers support in times of need. Kindness is the thread of hope that bridges the gaps between pain and suffering. Kindness is the glue that helps to heal the holes created by loss. Kindness is a gift……
The fragrance always stays in the hand that gives the rose.
If you are reading this and need support or comfort, please know that love and kindness are sent your way today.
And to Pam…. I know you are now an angel for many of us and I feel you as the wind beneath my wings…..
Resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, tolerant with the weak, and forgiving with the wrong. Sometime in your life you will have been all of these.
I had a call from a coaching client looking for some quick tips to get him through a rough spot. For the sake of confidentiality I will call him “Ben”.
Ben called me and expressed that he was feeling inadequate in his life, in his job, and as a provider to his family.
We chatted for a while and I suggested to Ben that he be more gentle on himself and that he talk to himself as a best friend would do. I asked him what he would say to the 5 year old version of himself? He responded with something like “you will have to figure a way out of this”.
I suggested that he might say things like:
I’ve got your back.
I’m here for you.
It’s not as bad as it seems.
Together we will get through this.
I also suggested to Ben that if he could work at getting excited about what the future holds, it could help him bridge himself from his painful present. Sometimes we need a bridge to transition us and I have found that focusing on the prospect of a brighter future is sometimes better than ‘being in the Now’ when the Now is painful.
In reflecting after the call, I realized that if Ben could find JOY in his current job and life, he could give his family a gift better than he could imagine in his mind. He was worried about being a good provider, Dad, and husband. But imagine if he could show them that he can have JOY and appreciation for the work he does have currently. It would be a far greater gift for his family than seeing the weight of the world on his shoulders.
And when we shift our frequency from pain to comfort, we can start attracting more of that which is good and is a better opportunity or a better fit for us.
Be happy with what you have while working for what you want.
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach, Speaker, Workshop Facilitator and Blogger, who loves to make people feel better by using her words to uplift, inspire and shift frequencies from Fear to LOvE!