stress, Stress Management, thoughts are things, worry, Worry Less

Don’t Invite The Nasties To Dinner!!!

“Know that you can always choose the thoughts you allow in your mind, so make the effort to replace disempowering, weakening thoughts with those of a higher spiritual frequency. It is your choice!”

– Dr. Wayne Dyer

You know I write a lot about this and I will continue to do so. Thoughts are things and we can CHOOSE which ones we want to focus on.

Yes, I know thoughts just randomly pop into our minds and that is okay. It is the ones we entertain that matter.

Think of it this way, if you had a dinner party and some of the guests that you invited were not suited to your way of being, or they were rude or nasty or anything that was negative. Would you keep inviting these people to your table?

A woman with a knife and fork in her hands with an angry look on her face.

NO! So why would we do it with our thoughts?

There is a magical combo that works well but it means that you have to practice self-care as well.

When you have a thought or multiple thoughts that are not serving you, recognize it, and then CHOOSE a new thought. However, with that said it is much easier to do when you are in a place of ‘feeling good’.

Do Things That Make YOU Feel Good

Therefore, do things every day that make you feel good and that show nurturing and caring for your body, mind and spirit. For example, I started my morning by reading more on the power of gratitude in my life. I am sipping on warm lemon water now and I have some peaceful and Zen type of music on.

It doesn’t matter ‘what’ you do, just do things that show you that you are sacred and loved!!!!!

When you feel better about yourself it is much easier to pivot your thoughts when those nasties arise.

So I leave you with the goal of two things today:

  1. Do MORE things for YOU today that nurture you and make you FEEL GOOD
  2. Consciously be AWARE of your thoughts and start replacing the nasties with BETTER thoughts.

Okay, I hope you found this helpful and have a great day everyone!

And please remember that if you are really struggling, it is always OK to reach out for help. That my friends is nurturing yourself too!

Big Hugs to All!

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affirmations, anxiety, Stress Management, Stress Relief

Hard Times Affirmations

Through heartbreak I gain inner strength
Through adversity I gain resilience
Through hard times, I learn powerful lessons

Affirmations are very powerful. Use them often and be amazed at the results that you will get!

Have a great day everyone!

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stress, Stress Management

Lighten Up & Relax More

“No one ever died from sleeping in an unmade bed.”

Erma Bombeck

Stress

An unmade bed won’t kill you, but stress can! Stress is one of the biggest challenges in life and also poses the greatest detriment to our health.

One of the ways to help with stress is to lighten up and let go. Sometimes we just need to relax and not worry about having everything perfect and in perfect order.

Now I am not saying there is a right or wrong. I know some people feel that they have to make their bed each morning and have everything in perfect order and that is perfect. I am talking generically here.

For example, one of the phrases I have used over the years with my coaching clients is this one which helps them to realize what is most important in life and what means the most to them. It goes something like this: “If you were on your deathbed and flashing back on your life, would it be important to you or would it matter that you washed your kitchen floor 2000 times?” What exactly would you be wishing you had more time to do if there was more time left? Probably not washing the floors I bet. 😉

I like to use this phrase or thought process myself when I am trying to made a decision. Perhaps someone invites me out for lunch and I know that I would enJOY that but I feel that I have things that ‘I have to do’…. sometimes I think wait, what really is more important here?

Anyhow friends, that is my thought for the day. 🙂

Until next time..

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Stress Management

6 Easy Ways to Lower Your Stress

6 Ways To Ramp Up Your Positive Vibe & Lower Your Stress!

Stress is the number one killer ... hands down. It affects every part of our being and our health and is a contributing factor to all disease in the body and mind. The best thing we can do to alleviate stress is to work at ramping up the positive and feel good side of our lives. Here are six ways to do that.

Be Grateful

An old Jewish saying recommends that we “bless one thousand things every day”. The more we bless the more we practice gratitude as well. They go hand and hand. From my own research, I have learned and believe, that Blessing something is the highest frequency available to us. Blessing something or someone really taps into the frequency of the highest vibration of all and has tremendous benefits.

Practice gratitude from the moment you arise in the morning until your head hits the pillow at night. Actively find things to be grateful for. The pillow beneath your head, the dishes you need to wash because you indeed have food to eat, the way you can walk by yourself to the bathroom… there are always things to find to be grateful for.

  • Be Aware Of Your Negative Thoughts

Mindfulness is the practice of paying attention, usually to your breath or your thoughts. Mindful breathing is often used to control stress, but mindful thinking can lead to a more positive life. We tend to take our thoughts for granted but they can still make a difference as they float through our minds.

I am very mindful and careful of the thoughts I think and use. I totally get that thoughts are tools that can create or destroy. I pick very wisely.

I control my thoughts, they don’t control me

Maggie holbik
  • Introduce Positive Thoughts

The staff at The Mayo Clinic point out that just like our thoughts can upset us when we don’t notice them creeping up, but we can also purposely introduce thoughts that make ourselves feel better. Trying to replace negative thoughts from our subconscious with positive thoughts from our conscious mind can be a very valuable tool.

I encourage my clients who struggle with negative thoughts, to have handy, positive replacement thoughts that they can draw upon when needed. The most powerful type of replacement thought are ones that also induce immediate gratitude as well. For example, have a thought ready about how you love your child, or pet, or even your favorite sweater and how it warms you and comforts you! All positive thoughts count.

  • Avoid Negative

Just do it! If you truly want to be happier and to lower your stress, refuse to partake in negative experiences that you have control over. Stop watching the news, ditch the FB friends or friends that are chronic complainers who always are finding fault with the city, the government, the neighbor, the etc. etc. etc. Who has time for this if they are trying to be stress free and happier? For me, I choose JOY! I say it over and over again and you will see it is a common thread in my blogging as well. I shout it from the rooftops “I CHOOSE JOY AND PEACE”!!!!! 🙂

  • Look At Challenges As Opportunities

An article by author Paul Sloane published by Lifehack.org recommends looking at potential challenges or setbacks as opportunities to go in another direction. We tend to look at where we are as the culmination of a lot of hard work and so when things don’t go our way we feel like that work was for nothing. What if we looked at it in a different way? I offer you the thought that we have choices and choices mean change. We can always re-choose, re-group and decide again and we do this by looking at where we came from, or where we currently are, and then re-adjusting our direction because we realize we now choose differently. There are no mistakes, just experiences and experiences lead us to the new ones by helping us to discern the next step for us!

  • Spend Time In “Input Mode”

A 2016 article by Inc. points out that we are either in “input” mode or “output” mode. Output mode is when we are doing things for others, or making things, like when we are at work or doing things for our family and friends. Input mode is when we are doing things for ourselves like reading books, exercise, listening to positive materials and such. We can become overwhelmed and resentful when we spend too much time in output mode and not enough time practicing self-care and doing things to make us feeling fulfilled, so be sure to incorporate positive inbound activities that make you feel good and supported.

I hope you find these 6 tips helpful. 🙂

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who loves to help people to lvoe themselves more and to find ways in their life to have more JOY, Peace, and to live with less Stress! 🙂