be you, self-love

Perfectly Imperfect

It will never be perfect, but perfect is overrated. Perfect is boring.”

Tina Fey

Perfect is indeed boring and what a relief! We need only be ourselves in our perfectly imperfect ways. I like it!

Just wake up everyday being all us just the way we are.

Woo hoo. Sounds good to me 🙂 What about you? Are you in and all in?

♥ Let’s do this imperfect thing. 🙂 ♥

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Emotional Health, emotions, Self-care, self-love

The Power of Emotional Support

It has come to me lately, that there are 3 kinds of exhaustion we experience. One is physical, one is mental, and the third is emotional, which to me is the most draining of the three. Emotions can also be defined as energy-in-motion.

Sometimes we have all three of these types of exhaustion happening at once and that can be tough. But one of the most powerful ways to help any of these types of fatigue is by receiving emotional support.

I did a training for my fellow Infinite Possibilities Trainers the other day and it was about expanding your reach by building networks and using Facebook to do just that. During the training I shared with the students that building any kind of network is powerful. For example it takes a network to raise a child. We get support in doing this if we are lucky, from fellow family members, organizational leaders, teachers, counselors and more! It is not just us that raises our child. In fact, I came up with a new saying “It takes a family to raise a family”. 🙂

Can you see the power of a network of any kind? In particular when we get emotional support from others regardless of what we are going through in life, it is a HUGE deal and helps a lot. We are energetic beings who have energetic emotional batteries. These batteries can run low and need to be recharged regularly. The fastest way to recharging or quick charging is by getting emotional support.

There are other great ways to recharge like spending time in nature, using creativity to express your emotions and to release them into a manifested state, practicing self-care, eating well, exercising to release energetic burdens and to replenish positive energy stores, but the most powerful of all is when we feel emotionally supported.

And let’s not forget those pets! Pets are the best emotional supporters of all. 🙂

Man hugging his dog with a look of peace and contentment on his face.

Sometimes in life, we are the supported ones and sometimes we are the supporters. Life is beautiful in this way that we can tag team support for each other on this journey here on earth.

And we must remember that it is always okay and it is in fact a very good thing to reach out and to let others know when you need some emotional support. Sometimes at these times, it is the hardest to do, but that is when we need it the most.

Anyone reading these words, please know that they are infused with both Love and Emotional Support for YOU! 🙂

Self-care, self-love

Self-Care & Making Moments That Matter

Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time: for that’s the stuff life is made of.

benjamin franklin

2020 a brand new decade! A brand new play ground for YOU!

I hope 2020 encourages you to get crystal clear on what makes you happy and what you enJOY doing and to do more of that!

Each day includes 24 hours and so much of that is used for sleeping and working and hopefully loving what you do. But what about the rest of the time? Are you filling those moments with the things that really matter to you?

The moments in between the structure are truly golden moments and we must seize the golden opportunities! The beauty in these moments that please us might even be the simple ones to plan like just stopping to enJOY a cup of tea, or taking a 5 to 10 minute delicious nap, or reading to a child, reading a book, trying a new recipe… the list is endless but the point is that we MAKE these precious moments a priority in our lives….. that we recognize that we matter and the moments that matter to us most matter! 🙂

We hear the word self-care used a lot and for good reason. It is a real priority and should be always. The happier and more fulfilled we feel in life, the more we enJOY it the journey, and the more everyone around us benefits. Self-love is an energy that spreads to others and makes them feel better too! It is a beautiful thing. So the more you can do the things that bring you the greatest pleasure or that give you peace of mind, the more you have a cosmic affect on the whole. What you do for yourself you also do for others. With this in mind it might encourage you even more to honor and love yourself. In fact why not love yourself all up? 🙂

So here is an idea: Take a piece of paper out right now or grab your phone and start making a list of the more’s, or the enhancements that you are going to add into your life to increase your JOY factor.

For example:

. reading more good books

. listening to more music that makes you happy

. trying new recipes

. more walks

. more laughter

. more quite time

. more organization

. more simplicity

….. etc. etc. As always the list is endless. Get creative, honor yourself and most of all have fun with this!

Happy New Year my friends!

compassion, kindess, self-love

What If We Just Stopped The Madness?

A woman wears the ocean as a dress.

To dream of the person you would like to be is to waste the person you are.

Anonymous

I am so trying to be more compassionate with myself. What about you? Are you able to enJOY the version of you right now? Or do you struggle with longing for a former version of yourself or a future version of you?

What if we just stopped this madness and got ok with us right now? I was chatting with my hair dresser the other day and was mentioning that I had gained weight and she had mentioned she had lost some. I shared with her how I was deciding to be okay with the fact that I had gained weight because I know that at the end of my life I will absolutely think that I wish I hadn’t wasted so much of my life worrying or beating myself up. I am sure I would wish I had used those precious moments of life to be happy rather than having negative feelings about myself. She agreed. 🙂

And we all go through these things. We gain, we lose, we change habits, we fall off of our tracks, we get back on, etc. etc. This applies to anything in our life. Healthy habits, positive thinking, working out, being kind to ourselves or not….. the cycle just continues…. We all go up and down in these cycles but really we are always just doing the best we can at the time we are doing it.

What if we just STOPPED? Stopped the madness of judging ourselves and others and turned to JOY and acceptance? What is we turned to Compassion and Kindness for self and others?

WOW, I think it would make a huge difference. Don’t you? 🙂

I wish whoever is reading this, personal peace, self-love, kindness and most of all lots of LOVE!

Self-Discovery, self-love

Lose Your Cares & Transform Your Life!

How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something but to be someone.

coco chanel

Wow. I love this quote! In a nutshell, we just need to be us … being us. I love it!

I discovered this a few years back. Who was I? A life coach? What type? A business coach? A speaker? A writer? A healer? And the list went on. NO I realized and shouted to myself “I am ME being ME“… ME inspiring others through coaching, writing, healing, words, speaking, blogging, etc….. It was a beautiful moment when it clicked. 🙂 I got that it wasn’t about ‘what’ I was being, but about ‘who’ I was being.

Maybe take some time today to reflect on ‘who’ you are and encourage yourself to let you be the full and biggest and best version of you being YOU!

In love an light…..

Maggie

Life Coaching, Self-care, self-love

Changing Direction & Being Gentle With Yourself

Just like the wind changes direction so can we. We can also learn to take direction…. from our SOUL! The soul knows. 🙂

If the lost traveler really needs only to slow down, pull out a map and take a moment to figure out where he is…. can those of us who’ve lost our direction in life do the same?”

deborah norville

The answer is Yes!

In our lives we all have mountains to climb, rivers to cross, and heavy weights to bear. And sometimes we fall back or slide backwards from where we want to be. And you know what? It’s okay. It’s normal in fact. It’s all good. So take a breath. Like the quote says “the lost traveler really needs only to slow down”….

And “pull out the map”….. Just get out your soul’s map and ask some questions of your higher self. But first relax and let yourself know that it is perfectly OK to be EXACTLY where you are. You are always loved because you are Love and you will return to Love.

As for the questions to help to get us back on our track? Here are a few examples to use after knowing it’s okay and it is just time to ask our soul for directions, just like we would if we were lost in a city. We would ask. Ask. Ask. Ask.

Is where I currently am JOYful to me or painful?

What baby steps can I take to change course?

What is one thing I can do to bring me a bit of JOY and move me away from this pain just for now, in this moment, in this day?

What baby steps can I take tomorrow to move me forward in a new direction?

What is one thing I can add into my life that would bring me closer to where I want to be? Is it a new friend? Is it more income? Is it a new pet? Is it a relationship I need to end? Is it an addiction I need help with? Is it a place I would like to travel to? Ask your Soul. It knows.

There are no limits to the questions you can ask your Soul. Start to learn to trust the answers. It’s simple really. Does the idea of the answer make you feel Good or Bad?Be sure to follow what feels good.

And don’t worry about the How’s of how it would come about, this exercise is about defining what you want and changing your course…..

Hey… why not even have fun with this? Why not? Life is way too serious. 🙂

Big Hugs

Woman going within and asking for direction or praying if you prefer 🙂 Both work.
Acceptance, self-love

The Damn Mirror!

We are not disturbed by things, but by the view which we take of them”.

epictetus

When you look in the mirror, what do you say to yourself? Do you say “Hey Hi Me!” or do you, like most of us, criticize what you see? I don’t know why I struggle with this so much. I am all about love and loving oneself and yet I always get caught off guard when I look in a mirror.

Is it a brain thing? Does our brain have a critical eye that looks for changes and variances or maybe it expects to see a certain thing and then does get caught off guard. Just like I do when I remember I am 53 years old. How can that be??? I’m still a little kid! I seriously feel that way in my soul. I admit I am very childlike in my excitement for life and I tend to see the world through childlike eyes …. which I think is awesome btw 🙂

Whatever the reason I just want to get to the place where I look in the mirror and say “Hi Beautiful, how’s it going today? EnJOYing life? Great!”

How about you? Would love to hear your thoughts….

self-love, Self-Talk

Life Mirrors You

A woman looks into the mirror and sees her reflection.

MIrror Mirror on the wall….. who do I see when I look into you?

Do I see beauty? Do I see kindness? Do I see Love?

A wonderful quote by Louise Hay says it all:

Love yourself as much as you can, and all of life will mirror this love back to you.”

louise hay, you can heal your life

More on self-love https://maggieholbik.blog/2019/08/21/2660/

Another: https://maggieholbik.blog/2019/07/04/your-dreams-desires-matter-you-matter/

compassion, kindness, self-love

Compassion For Self

A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life.

christopher k. germer

Yesterday, while thrift store shopping, I was lucky enough to pick up a copy of Brene Brown’s book “The Gifts of Imperfection” Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are.

Although I haven’t read it yet, I have been skimming some of the pages and it is definitely resonating with me. I am reminded once again that we are not in this alone. We all suffer from the same things, self-doubt, insecurities, fear, lack of self-confidence and more. We are NOT alone! You, me and the stranger across the road, we’ve all been here or are here right now.

I write about self-love and compassion often and it seems for good reason. We can be so hard on ourselves. As I write this, I am glancing over at my cat Bella, curled up in a chair and I realize that when I look at Bella so cute like that, I instantly feel this emotion that I would call compassion. Why? I am not sure. I don’t need to be compassionate to her or for her but for some reason that emotion comes to mind. It makes me think that we all have compassion in us but being compassionate to ourselves often seems so challenging.

In my quest of getting a better understanding of compassion I found these synonyms:

pity, sympathy, feeling, fellow feeling, empathy, understanding, care, concern, solicitude, solicitousness, sensitivity, tender-heartedness, soft-heartedness, warm-heartedness, warmth, love, brotherly love, tenderness, gentleness, mercy, mercifulness, leniency, lenience, tolerance,  consideration, kindness, humanity, humaneness, kind-heartedness, charity, benevolence

The two that jumped out at me the most, were soft-heartedness and warm-heartedness. Yes this is what I feel when I look at Bella all cuddled up over on that chair. My heart is warm and melting and I just want to go over there and kiss her or cuddle her.

What if we could look in the mirror and feel that way about ourselves? Would it have an impact? I think it would. And I think if we felt that way towards ourselves we would open up our capacity to feel these tender feelings toward others and then the whole world benefits just like the starfish story, one starfish at a time. 🙂

I hope you take the time to practice compassion and self-love for yourself today and always. I am going to start right away. Just writing this post has helped me to see the gift in compassion and to feel it’s power to shift and to heal. Will you join me? I would love to hear also what synonyms for compassion resonated with you or jumped out at you? 🙂

Wishing you a day full of JOY and Compassion……

With Love,

Maggie

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach & Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach who loves to write as a way of expressing her feelings. She thanks you for taking the time today to stop by and spend a moment with her in her heart and soul.

dreams, Passion, self-love

YOUR Dreams & Desires Matter! YOU Matter!

The thing you have to be prepared for is that other people don’t always dream your dream.

linda ronstadt

I ran across this quote from Linda Ronstadt this morning and thought it had a lot of depth to it.

The most important part is to realize that we all have dreams of some sort. Some of us have bigger ones than others, but everybody in life has dreams, hopes and desires. It is what fuels our soul and propels us forward.

Happy are those with big dreams that make them jump out of bed in the morning. 🙂 This is akin to thriving and not just surviving.

It is also important to note that as the quote states “other people don’t always dream your dreams”. This means we are all different but more significant is that it is important for us to take our own dreams seriously, because they are OURS! If you don’t make your dreams a priority, who will?

As a Life Coach, I teach this often. YES, your dreams ARE important. YES you matter! YES it is important to go after what you want in life if you want to leave this earth fulfilled and feeling that it was a JOYous journey. YES. YES. YES to making your dreams come true or at least going for them. The JOY is in the journey but if we never take the first step, the journey never begins.

I hope you seriously take some time today to ponder on what is important to you. What are some of your dreams? And it does not matter how old you are or where you are at in life. You can ALWAYS have dreams and desires. I saw a positive article the other day about a paramedic crew that took a forester who was in palliative care on a 3 hour hike through the bush on a stretcher so he could be there one last time. It is NEVER too late to have wishes and desires.

Some of the best dreams fulfilled are simple ones like eating at a favorite restaurant, visiting with a friend, spending time in nature, taking time to get lost in a book or a movie. These all count but the most important thing is to decide and declare that your dreams need to be on your mind and your agenda.

Dream big or dream small, but do dream……

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach who loves to start the day inspired to fulfill her dreams and to inspire others to fill theirs. She believes her purpose here on earth is to make a difference and to help to remind people of the JOY available to them and to encourage their heart and eyes to see the beauty in life.