Self-Discovery, self-love

Lose Your Cares & Transform Your Life!

How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something but to be someone.

coco chanel

Wow. I love this quote! In a nutshell, we just need to be us … being us. I love it!

I discovered this a few years back. Who was I? A life coach? What type? A business coach? A speaker? A writer? A healer? And the list went on. NO I realized and shouted to myself “I am ME being ME“… ME inspiring others through coaching, writing, healing, words, speaking, blogging, etc….. It was a beautiful moment when it clicked. 🙂 I got that it wasn’t about ‘what’ I was being, but about ‘who’ I was being.

Maybe take some time today to reflect on ‘who’ you are and encourage yourself to let you be the full and biggest and best version of you being YOU!

In love an light…..

Maggie

Life Coaching, Self-care, self-love

Changing Direction & Being Gentle With Yourself

Just like the wind changes direction so can we. We can also learn to take direction…. from our SOUL! The soul knows. 🙂

If the lost traveler really needs only to slow down, pull out a map and take a moment to figure out where he is…. can those of us who’ve lost our direction in life do the same?”

deborah norville

The answer is Yes!

In our lives we all have mountains to climb, rivers to cross, and heavy weights to bear. And sometimes we fall back or slide backwards from where we want to be. And you know what? It’s okay. It’s normal in fact. It’s all good. So take a breath. Like the quote says “the lost traveler really needs only to slow down”….

And “pull out the map”….. Just get out your soul’s map and ask some questions of your higher self. But first relax and let yourself know that it is perfectly OK to be EXACTLY where you are. You are always loved because you are Love and you will return to Love.

As for the questions to help to get us back on our track? Here are a few examples to use after knowing it’s okay and it is just time to ask our soul for directions, just like we would if we were lost in a city. We would ask. Ask. Ask. Ask.

Is where I currently am JOYful to me or painful?

What baby steps can I take to change course?

What is one thing I can do to bring me a bit of JOY and move me away from this pain just for now, in this moment, in this day?

What baby steps can I take tomorrow to move me forward in a new direction?

What is one thing I can add into my life that would bring me closer to where I want to be? Is it a new friend? Is it more income? Is it a new pet? Is it a relationship I need to end? Is it an addiction I need help with? Is it a place I would like to travel to? Ask your Soul. It knows.

There are no limits to the questions you can ask your Soul. Start to learn to trust the answers. It’s simple really. Does the idea of the answer make you feel Good or Bad?Be sure to follow what feels good.

And don’t worry about the How’s of how it would come about, this exercise is about defining what you want and changing your course…..

Hey… why not even have fun with this? Why not? Life is way too serious. 🙂

Big Hugs

Woman going within and asking for direction or praying if you prefer 🙂 Both work.
Acceptance, self-love

The Damn Mirror!

We are not disturbed by things, but by the view which we take of them”.

epictetus

When you look in the mirror, what do you say to yourself? Do you say “Hey Hi Me!” or do you, like most of us, criticize what you see? I don’t know why I struggle with this so much. I am all about love and loving oneself and yet I always get caught off guard when I look in a mirror.

Is it a brain thing? Does our brain have a critical eye that looks for changes and variances or maybe it expects to see a certain thing and then does get caught off guard. Just like I do when I remember I am 53 years old. How can that be??? I’m still a little kid! I seriously feel that way in my soul. I admit I am very childlike in my excitement for life and I tend to see the world through childlike eyes …. which I think is awesome btw 🙂

Whatever the reason I just want to get to the place where I look in the mirror and say “Hi Beautiful, how’s it going today? EnJOYing life? Great!”

How about you? Would love to hear your thoughts….

self-love, Self-Talk

Life Mirrors You

A woman looks into the mirror and sees her reflection.

MIrror Mirror on the wall….. who do I see when I look into you?

Do I see beauty? Do I see kindness? Do I see Love?

A wonderful quote by Louise Hay says it all:

Love yourself as much as you can, and all of life will mirror this love back to you.”

louise hay, you can heal your life

More on self-love https://maggieholbik.blog/2019/08/21/2660/

Another: https://maggieholbik.blog/2019/07/04/your-dreams-desires-matter-you-matter/

compassion, kindness, self-love

Compassion For Self

A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life.

christopher k. germer

Yesterday, while thrift store shopping, I was lucky enough to pick up a copy of Brene Brown’s book “The Gifts of Imperfection” Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are.

Although I haven’t read it yet, I have been skimming some of the pages and it is definitely resonating with me. I am reminded once again that we are not in this alone. We all suffer from the same things, self-doubt, insecurities, fear, lack of self-confidence and more. We are NOT alone! You, me and the stranger across the road, we’ve all been here or are here right now.

I write about self-love and compassion often and it seems for good reason. We can be so hard on ourselves. As I write this, I am glancing over at my cat Bella, curled up in a chair and I realize that when I look at Bella so cute like that, I instantly feel this emotion that I would call compassion. Why? I am not sure. I don’t need to be compassionate to her or for her but for some reason that emotion comes to mind. It makes me think that we all have compassion in us but being compassionate to ourselves often seems so challenging.

In my quest of getting a better understanding of compassion I found these synonyms:

pity, sympathy, feeling, fellow feeling, empathy, understanding, care, concern, solicitude, solicitousness, sensitivity, tender-heartedness, soft-heartedness, warm-heartedness, warmth, love, brotherly love, tenderness, gentleness, mercy, mercifulness, leniency, lenience, tolerance,  consideration, kindness, humanity, humaneness, kind-heartedness, charity, benevolence

The two that jumped out at me the most, were soft-heartedness and warm-heartedness. Yes this is what I feel when I look at Bella all cuddled up over on that chair. My heart is warm and melting and I just want to go over there and kiss her or cuddle her.

What if we could look in the mirror and feel that way about ourselves? Would it have an impact? I think it would. And I think if we felt that way towards ourselves we would open up our capacity to feel these tender feelings toward others and then the whole world benefits just like the starfish story, one starfish at a time. 🙂

I hope you take the time to practice compassion and self-love for yourself today and always. I am going to start right away. Just writing this post has helped me to see the gift in compassion and to feel it’s power to shift and to heal. Will you join me? I would love to hear also what synonyms for compassion resonated with you or jumped out at you? 🙂

Wishing you a day full of JOY and Compassion……

With Love,

Maggie

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach & Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach who loves to write as a way of expressing her feelings. She thanks you for taking the time today to stop by and spend a moment with her in her heart and soul.

dreams, Passion, self-love

YOUR Dreams & Desires Matter! YOU Matter!

The thing you have to be prepared for is that other people don’t always dream your dream.

linda ronstadt

I ran across this quote from Linda Ronstadt this morning and thought it had a lot of depth to it.

The most important part is to realize that we all have dreams of some sort. Some of us have bigger ones than others, but everybody in life has dreams, hopes and desires. It is what fuels our soul and propels us forward.

Happy are those with big dreams that make them jump out of bed in the morning. 🙂 This is akin to thriving and not just surviving.

It is also important to note that as the quote states “other people don’t always dream your dreams”. This means we are all different but more significant is that it is important for us to take our own dreams seriously, because they are OURS! If you don’t make your dreams a priority, who will?

As a Life Coach, I teach this often. YES, your dreams ARE important. YES you matter! YES it is important to go after what you want in life if you want to leave this earth fulfilled and feeling that it was a JOYous journey. YES. YES. YES to making your dreams come true or at least going for them. The JOY is in the journey but if we never take the first step, the journey never begins.

I hope you seriously take some time today to ponder on what is important to you. What are some of your dreams? And it does not matter how old you are or where you are at in life. You can ALWAYS have dreams and desires. I saw a positive article the other day about a paramedic crew that took a forester who was in palliative care on a 3 hour hike through the bush on a stretcher so he could be there one last time. It is NEVER too late to have wishes and desires.

Some of the best dreams fulfilled are simple ones like eating at a favorite restaurant, visiting with a friend, spending time in nature, taking time to get lost in a book or a movie. These all count but the most important thing is to decide and declare that your dreams need to be on your mind and your agenda.

Dream big or dream small, but do dream……

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach who loves to start the day inspired to fulfill her dreams and to inspire others to fill theirs. She believes her purpose here on earth is to make a difference and to help to remind people of the JOY available to them and to encourage their heart and eyes to see the beauty in life.

Empowered, Relationships, Self Esteem, self-love

I Barely Recognized this Person!

An Amazing Story of Transformation from Suffering to FREEDOM!

Last night in the grocery store I was witness to something pretty amazing!

I ran into a woman who used to work for me and she was a different person. I have run into her a couple of times in the last couple of years and each time she has transformed more and more into this new beautiful person. But last night she was off the charts AMAZING!

In the past she was sick, in pain, down, irritable and you could tell she was just not happy. She didn’t enjoy her work or her life.

I will call this woman ‘Mary’. What changed for Mary? Mary became empowered. She left her husband and ventured out on her own. She now has her own home and she is happy. Her energy was light and airy and her eyes twinkled and sparkled and she looked like a completely different person to me.

Mary is excited about life now, no longer in physical pain, and she appeared radiantly happy. It just brought me so much JOY to see this. She even declared how happy she is and you could see it!

Sometimes in life we have to leave things like situations, jobs, relationships when they are no longer serving us for our highest good. What is the price we pay if we do not and we are suffering? We stay in suffering.

For me, any relationship that I have in my life, should empower me, not disempower me. Whether it is my friend, my partner, or a business relationship, I believe it should be mutually empowering, uplifting and beneficial for all, otherwise I am out.

Mary was such a clear messenger on how powerful and positive a change like this could make. She honored herself enough to leave this relationship that was not serving her and was not a loving and supportive situation, to keep it simple. I will not go into details. The point is that Mary took her life back and is now thriving and not merely surviving.

I just had to share this story because to me it is a sign of HOPE and what can be. Our lives can change when we choose to look closely at those things that are not serving us and are in fact disempowering ourselves, even if they are simple things like habits, conversations, self-talk, fears, etc.

By taking a look at what makes you ‘feel good’ in your life and what ‘sucks your life force and energy’, you can get clear on what you want more of in your life and what has to go.

I hope you found this post helpful even if it is just to open up more to ‘feeling’ your way through life and to use your feelings as your GPS to more Happiness.

Have an amazing day and I send nothing but Blessings to all who are reading this. 🙂

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach who loves to empower and encourage people to take charge of their happiness and to design lives that they love. When you love your life, you radiate out into the world that love and it makes a huge difference for all of mankind. 🙂

forgiveness, Forgiving, kindness, self-love

The Power of For-GIVE-Ness

Lately I have been pondering on both the word and the power of forgiveness. When you break the word down, it is really about giving. What do we give when we forgive?

We give love, hope, compassion, empathy, and we hold space for healing. Now this can be for others or for ourselves. I have come to a place where I am pretty comfortable in the forgiveness department when it comes to others because I figured it out long ago, when I forgive I feel better. I’m pretty selfish that way LOL!

However, forgiving oneself sometimes takes on a daily challenge. A few weeks ago I was thinking what if we looked at each day as a chance to forGIVE ourselves each day like a goal! Like we get to GIVE ourselves some LOVE and COMPASSION. 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤

When I looked at it this way, I started to kind of like it. It was like okay, let’s bring on some forgiveness here for myself for whatever. This is a good thing. Again selfish, I know. My bad. 🙂

My spiritual and soul self knows that there is nothing to forgive, which is cool too, but my human self falls into the humanness stuff, so I work at forgiving myself when necessary. I kind of look at it this way, the sooner I forgive the faster I can raise my frequency and be a light for others, so I just do it now. Of course, some days are easier than others and on a lot of days there is no need, but when the occasion arises to forgive, I try and take it. 🙂

I like the words of Marissa Peer “To make mistakes is human but to forGIVE yourself is divine.”

I think one of the greatest gifts we can give our children and our loved ones, or anyone in our lives really, is the example of the ability to forgive. It is a gift that is like non other. I hope that you take an opportunity today to forGIVE yourself if you feel you need to and to enJOY the gift that the experience offers.

In Love & Light,

Maggie

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and an Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer who loves to free herself and others from anything that causes us to suffer unnecessarily and causes pain, especially if that suffering blocks us from JOY. Maggie believes that we are deliberate creators here on earth and that JOY and LOVE are our birthrights.

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self-love

Love Yourself More!

To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.

oscar wilde – playwright, poet, author

There are so many advantages to loving ourselves more. It is good for our mind, body, and soul and helps every single cell in our bodies to thrive rather than just survive.

The most beautiful thing you can do for yourself is to practice self-love. The best and thing about self-love is that you will NEVER be lonely if you love yourself and you will always be bathed in love. Now how awesome is that? ❤ ❤ ❤

Sure it is lovely to enJOY the company and companionship of others but when you can feel good and comfortable with yourself and with spending time alone, you really tap into a form of peace that most people in the world are seeking. It is such a beautiful place to be and well worth the effort of consciously and actively working on loving yourself more.

Here is a blog post I wrote last year “Self-love as Medicine”. You might find some useful tips there: https://maggieholbik.blog/2018/10/03/self-love-as-medicine/

And always remember that the practice of self-love is like a muscle, so the more you do it or use it, the bigger it gets! EnJOY!

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach who works at self-love on a daily basis. She encourages others to do the same because when we are truly empowered and filled with our own love lights, we can shine our love onto the entire planet and help to illuminate the souls of others. 🙂

Infinite Possibilites, self-love

Oh where oh where have you gone my lovelies?



It is spring here where I live and the grass is just starting to get green. We haven’t really had much hot weather to help; however, the dandelions are starting to pop out. I love dandelions and they have amazing health benefits. To me, these are not weeds…. just sayin.

Yesterday this grass was filled with dandelions but today they are gone. Well not really. They are hiding. It is interesting to note that today is rainy and cloudy and the dandelions have retracted. They will, once again, pop out and smile at us when the sun comes out.

This got me thinking about people. We can be like these dandelions. When we are afraid or have low self worth or lack of self love, we contract rather than expand. We don’t let our shiny and beautiful spirit shine like it could!

When we feel empowered and worthy, we expand our energy field and we reach toward the sun!

I am so excited to be doing the work that I am doing with the Infinite Possibilities program, The Art of Changing Your Life, which helps people to expand their spirit, awaken their dreams, manifest their ideal life, and to most importantly be the soul that reaches for the sun and be in all its glory.

Field of dandelions
A field of dandelions

Contact me today if you would like to get started on your path to letting your soul shine and making your dreams come true!