Emotional Health, Encouragement, Mental Health, Self-care

Sharing Some Vulnerability Around Mental & Emotional Health

Laugh Cry Smile Keys Representing Different Emotions

It is Saturday morning and I am writing this blog post to express my feelings and then I am going to go for a much needed rest. I have become very behind on my sleep and it’s starting to show in my mental and emotional health. It’s funny actually because I have been behind on my sleep because I am so excited about life but now it has taken a toll on me and is now the content of this blog post.

I was thinking how we easily share with others that we have a cold or the flu or an ache or pain, but when it comes to our emotional and mental health, we sometimes don’t share this with others and it comes out in ways that are now always positive.

Yesterday, I snapped at a store clerk and this is not like me. I surprised myself actually. I also missed an appointment I had scheduled yesterday and I had even confirmed it. I am today realizing that I am tired physically but emotionally too and I am being vulnerable enough to share this with you. Brene Brown would be proud. 🙂

“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” “If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.”

brene brown

There are many of us walking the planet doing the best we can. We have ups and we have downs. We experience laughter and we experience tears. Life is like this. And it’s okay.

For some reason I just wanted to share this today in case someone else is having a tough time mentally or emotionally. Know that you are not alone, and that it is okay to share with those you love that you are having an extra hard time right now. In fact reach out to someone if you need to.

For me, luckily I had some family support me yesterday and this morning my daughter left me this note to cheer me up.

“You are awesome Mom and I love you sooooooooo much. Just keep being You.

Anyhow I am heading for my delightful rest now so I can begin to return to my JOYful self… I miss her. 🙂

For anyone reading this I send you much LOVE, support and most of all I wish you a JOYous day and if self-care is something you too need to schedule, I hope you do it. It is important to not only our physical health but especially our mental and emotional.

Thank you for being here for me by reading this.

Blessings to all….

Life Coaching, Self-care, self-love

Changing Direction & Being Gentle With Yourself

Just like the wind changes direction so can we. We can also learn to take direction…. from our SOUL! The soul knows. 🙂

If the lost traveler really needs only to slow down, pull out a map and take a moment to figure out where he is…. can those of us who’ve lost our direction in life do the same?”

deborah norville

The answer is Yes!

In our lives we all have mountains to climb, rivers to cross, and heavy weights to bear. And sometimes we fall back or slide backwards from where we want to be. And you know what? It’s okay. It’s normal in fact. It’s all good. So take a breath. Like the quote says “the lost traveler really needs only to slow down”….

And “pull out the map”….. Just get out your soul’s map and ask some questions of your higher self. But first relax and let yourself know that it is perfectly OK to be EXACTLY where you are. You are always loved because you are Love and you will return to Love.

As for the questions to help to get us back on our track? Here are a few examples to use after knowing it’s okay and it is just time to ask our soul for directions, just like we would if we were lost in a city. We would ask. Ask. Ask. Ask.

Is where I currently am JOYful to me or painful?

What baby steps can I take to change course?

What is one thing I can do to bring me a bit of JOY and move me away from this pain just for now, in this moment, in this day?

What baby steps can I take tomorrow to move me forward in a new direction?

What is one thing I can add into my life that would bring me closer to where I want to be? Is it a new friend? Is it more income? Is it a new pet? Is it a relationship I need to end? Is it an addiction I need help with? Is it a place I would like to travel to? Ask your Soul. It knows.

There are no limits to the questions you can ask your Soul. Start to learn to trust the answers. It’s simple really. Does the idea of the answer make you feel Good or Bad?Be sure to follow what feels good.

And don’t worry about the How’s of how it would come about, this exercise is about defining what you want and changing your course…..

Hey… why not even have fun with this? Why not? Life is way too serious. 🙂

Big Hugs

Woman going within and asking for direction or praying if you prefer 🙂 Both work.
compassion, kindness, Self-care, self-love

Getting Through The Rough Spots in Life

I had a call from a coaching client looking for some quick tips to get him through a rough spot. For the sake of confidentiality I will call him “Ben”.

Ben called me and expressed that he was feeling inadequate in his life, in his job, and as a provider to his family.

We chatted for a while and I suggested to Ben that he be more gentle on himself and that he talk to himself as a best friend would do. I asked him what he would say to the 5 year old version of himself? He responded with something like “you will have to figure a way out of this”.

I suggested that he might say things like:

I’ve got your back.

I’m here for you.

It’s not as bad as it seems.

Together we will get through this.

I also suggested to Ben that if he could work at getting excited about what the future holds, it could help him bridge himself from his painful present. Sometimes we need a bridge to transition us and I have found that focusing on the prospect of a brighter future is sometimes better than ‘being in the Now’ when the Now is painful.

In reflecting after the call, I realized that if Ben could find JOY in his current job and life, he could give his family a gift better than he could imagine in his mind. He was worried about being a good provider, Dad, and husband. But imagine if he could show them that he can have JOY and appreciation for the work he does have currently. It would be a far greater gift for his family than seeing the weight of the world on his shoulders.

And when we shift our frequency from pain to comfort, we can start attracting more of that which is good and is a better opportunity or a better fit for us.

I hope you may find this helpful for getting through the rough spots inlife and if you need help with kindness and tenderness for yourself, this blog post I did recently may help you as well. Here is the link:
https://maggiesvitamins.blog/2019/04/23/tenderness-kindness/

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Be happy with what you have while working for what you want.

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Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach, Speaker, Workshop Facilitator and Blogger, who loves to make people feel better by using her words to uplift, inspire and shift frequencies from Fear to LOvE!