“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval”. Mark Twain
WHO is your biggest obstacle in your life?
WHO stops YOU from being YOU?
Is it YOU?
I think we are all guilty of this sometimes. The greatest freedom in life is the freedom to be who we are.
I was thinking this morning a kind of crazy but fun thought. What if we saw ourselves as a slow cooker or crock pot. Just get up ‘set it and forget it’. Meaning get up, be who we are exactly as we are, and off we go to en𝐉𝐎𝐘 our day.
I love to write about these things so I can remind myself about concepts like this. Maggie, just be YOU.
I have found that the more ME I am, the easier my life has gotten. I am a work in progress. I take baby steps and I keep going. I forgive, I forget, I love, and I learn compassion as I go. I learn to be compassionate with myself and with others.
The more insecurities I have the more I am learning about humankind. WE are human. We make mistakes. We learn. We keep going. There is nowhere to ‘get to’ and as Ram Dass so eloquently stated “We are just walking each other home”.
So my friends, whatever you need today, I am sending. I am sending strength to those who need that. I am sending Love to you and to me! I am sending thoughts of beauty and encouragement. I am sending you encouragement to be YOU and to LOVE YOU! You are enough and you are AMAZING just as you are. And by the way, you look so beautiful just being all human like like you are. 🙂
Whatever it is you need right now to feel stronger, supported and loved, know that these very words are infused with all of that and more……
Today my daughter Sivanna, who is now 14, shared with me a paragraph she wrote for one of her online class assignments.
Aria is 4 and is Sivanna’s great niece.
This is what Sivanna had to say to the question “What is something that always puts a file on your face?”
“Something that always puts a smile on my face is Aria. Aria is my 4 year old great niece. Every time I see her, her face lights up. Whenever she sees me she has a huge smile on her face and runs up to me and gives me a big hug. That always makes me smile. She is always so cute and whatever she does makes me smile. Whether the way she talks or when she dances, or how she is so sweet and shares with me. Everything she does makes me smile and I love her. But I can’t see her right now because of quarantine.”
♥ I thought this was so sweet. ♥
While I was looking for Aria’s picture for this blog post, I found one of when my Sivanna Rose was little. So cute too!
“Hugs can do great amounts of good, especially for children.”
I am at the cottage or camp as we call it here in Northern Canada. Something happened to me twice today so I know that I was meant to share the message.
I ran across, in two different locations, something that resonated with me deeply
. 1) in my sock drawer and 2) in my camp journal, was this poem written by my Honey, Don in August of 2012. The words speak volumes to me at this time and I hope you enJOY them too!
Here it is:
When you are in spirit, you are in union with God.You become one with the forest as you sit on that log. Your mind transcends what you believe to be true. You see (っ◔◡◔)っonly ♥ Love ♥ in whatever you do. The sky becomes bluer and the stars more bright…❈❈❈ As you inhale nature in the middle of the night. All people become one as you Serve and you Trust…. There is no them because they all become US.
“We spend precious hours fearing the inevitable.It would be wise to use that time adoring our families, cherishing our friends and living our lives”. ~Maya Angelou
Anytime we are in fear we are not in the frequency of ‘Love’. Worry stems from fear. There are two emotions that all others emotions spring from and these are ‘Fear’ and ‘Love’.
Worry is from the side of FEAR and when we worry about others we project fear and worry onto them as well. Sometimes we worry about things that might happen and this also just causes unnecessary fearful thoughts.
Energy in Motion
The very BEST thing that we can do for ourselves or our loved ones, is to try our best to think thoughts of 𝐿💗𝓋𝑒 and well-being.🌞 And it is interesting to note that E-Motions are ˜”°•.˜”°• Energy In Motion. •°”˜.•°”˜ Energy in motion is a powerful force. We want that force to be positive and conducive.
Think about this for a minute and see if you agree with me. Was there a time or is there a time now when someone that cares about you has told you that they are or were worried about you? Or have they constantly nagged at you about something? How do you or did you feel?
Did you feel heavy, sad, or remorseful? I bet you felt some form of these fear based emotions.
The best thing we can do to support others is to do it through Love. It is okay to want the best for others but there are ways to support and offer to ‘hold space’ for someone that is better than worrying and thinking fearful thoughts.
I can remember the exact moments in my life when people have told me that they were worried about me and why. I loved these people dearly but at times these moments felt like sucker punches to my soul. I have also realized that I too have done this to others so even in writing this I am reminded to try harder to be more loving and supportive in my thinking and approaches when sharing concern.
Worry Breeds Worry
The very best thing we can do for anyone is to hold them in the light and to see them through the eyes of Love. Worry breeds worry and fear breeds fear. It is a fact. Let us choose Love and have Love attract more Love and Light and Healing.
I hope you have found this introspective or helpful and know that I send YOU, the reader, thoughts of 𝐿💙𝒱𝐸 and HOPE and Courage and whatever other positive thoughts that hold frequencies that stem from 𝐿💙𝒱𝐸 and are directed YOUR way. 🙂
There is something so special about spending one-on-one time with people that you love and enJOY being with. To this day I can remember back to a time when I had lunch with my Dad, at a little local restaurant. I think this might have been one of the very few times, if not the one and only time, we had lunch together at a restaurant, just the two of us. I remember it clearly. And my father has been gone since 1995! That is how meaningful that seemingly simple lunch was.
Spending time one-on-one with someone else is a beautiful form of intimacy and connection that is absolutely special. ✿.｡.:* ☆:** ♥♥♥♥
My daughter Sivanna and I have a Tuesday date where we go out and enJOY some food together before her gymnastics class at 6:30 pm. Usually it is Chinese but sometimes it is Tacos for Taco Tuesday. 🙂 It really does not matter where we go or if we are even going out to eat, it matters that it is our special time together.
Spending Time With Others is a 🎀 𝑔𝒾𝒻𝓉 🎀
Spending time with others is a gift to both parties, provided the people you are spending time with are a positive encounter. That is certainly a place that I have come to in life. I prefer to enJOY the company of those who reciprocate in lifting each other up and enhancing our lives with conversations of JOY, beauty, and excitement for life, sharing our thoughts on things that make us happy, new projects we are working on, goals, dreams, and anything that feels good. Not to say, I am not available to lend a kind ear, or an empathetic heart, but I do prefer to have those ‘special’ dates with life enhancing partners and where we both feel GOOD after it’s over.
My honey and I have our date night every Friday night. We both look forward to it greatly. We talk nonstop and bounce ideas off each other, we share our philosophies, we share and co-create ideas for what to write about, (we both love to write to express ourselves), we bounce around business ideas, updates, discussions about our daughter, and on it goes.
We love these date nights. ♥♥♥ Sometimes we go out, sometimes we stay in, sometimes we dance to our own music, sometimes we laugh our a%#es off, and sometimes we have heart to heart talks… and it is all good. It is our special time. It is our date night and it is something we honor.
And I even do dates with myself! Yep. I walk into a restaurant and I tell them I would like a table for one because I am having a date with my best friend 🙂 I do enJOY immensely having these times with myself. In fact, I enJOY them A LOT!
I love being alone with myself and with my thoughts. I feel so FREE. Free to be ME. FREE to do whatever I want in that time. It is GLORIOUS in fact.
I hope you too see the beauty in having dates with life and the people that you enJOY being with. Why not start today and book something for this upcoming week? It can be as simple as sharing a cup of tea with a friend. 🙂
My eyes are still half closed and filled with sleep. My hair is complete bed head and I haven’t brushed my teeth. I had to get out of bed to get this message typed up while my connection to it was still strong, even though I am sleepy lol!
Just before waking this morning I had a visit from a departed loved one. They gave me a message to share with all whose eyes and hearts want to both see it and to hear it. They said it was especially important at this time of year.
After letting me know how much they loved me and that we are all loved always by our loved ones on the other side, they told me they were with my Moobs, who was my cat that died 14 years ago and just two weeks before my daughter was born. This was important because I was petting and loving my current cat Bella who was laying on top of me in bed. It was important because it signified an important message that they wanted me to know and to share with you reading this.
It goes something like this:
There is always something or someone to love. When you love or show appreciation to anything or anyone, it activates the frequency of Love within you and you remember ‘who you are’. We need to know that we are always loved, we are Love and that there is always something or someone to direct our love to. This was very important for them to share. This is why the cats were significant. My Moobs has been gone for 14 years, but I now have a Bella to Love and to show my Love to! And that there are countless people or animals in the world that we can show our Love to!
They stressed to me that there are ALWAYS places to direct our Love to, so that we can activate the Love frequency within ourselves. When we activate this frequency in ourselves we heal ourselves and we heal the world and spread more Love and JOY.
It was also impressed upon me that if you do not currently have people or pets in your life to project your love to, you can do it in other ways. One is by enJOYing memories of your departed loved ones. They stressed to me in a big way, that it is important to experience the memories through a kaleidoscope of love and JOYful remembering. They said that we we need to know that this is okay to do this and that in fact it is great to do!They reiterated that when we remember them with Love and JOY within our hearts, it makes it the most effective way to activate the Love frequency and to ignite the JOY in our souls. When we do this remembering with JOY and Love in our hearts it fills up our heart and soul right now while we are here on earth! And a side note is to understand the word remembering or re-membering. It is a regrouping of sorts that re-embodies something. So a JOYful memory or remembering reconnects you to that body of mutual Love.
They also wanted me to share that another way we can activate the love frequency is by loving things. Now we need to understand that this is not the love of acquiring things but more so about appreciating the things that you enJOY, whatever they might be. For example art, your favorite cup, a blanket, the blue sky…. anything that activates the frequency of Love within you! Appreciation is the fast track to activating Love within you.
While writing this I thought of the JOY my friend ‘s Mom Eva had the other day while she showed me all the Christmas cards she got. Her face lit up as she picked up each card and told me how beautiful it was and who it was from. She also showed me a snowman that her neighbor had given her. She was thrilled with it. The added bonus was that she did not know it lit up but I saw the little button on the bottom. So she turned it on and both she and the snowman were glowing! 🙂 It was a site to see.
It came to me that when we show appreciation for the things like Eva’s Christmas cards given to her, and the snowman, we activate that frequency of appreciation and ultimately Love. This is really awesome because we then connect to the love given to us from the giver and we receive it with Love and Appreciation. It’s win win and a beautiful thing. I took great delight is seeing Eva, who is 79, enJOY her cards and the snowman. Eva just recently lost two sisters, her spouse and her son was in hospital that day so her heart was heavy. These small acts of kindness from others made a huge difference and I saw how powerful they were.
To my departed Loved One… you know who you are. Thank you for visiting today. I am sure we all appreciate the beautiful message you brought this morning. I know I did. My heart is swelling with Love for you and I am receiving your Love now. I will look for that sign that you have promised me at this time of year, and that you have sent every single year since you returned to the spirit world. 🙂
And for all of my friends reading this, I hope this message has brought you a gift of Love or HOPE or whatever it is that would bring you PEACE at this time of year. I am sending you much LOVE right now and I promise you that each word, while typing this out, has been filled with more LOVE than you will every know! Merry Christmas my friends.
To me JOY, which is said to be a vibration higher than even LOVE ❤ , is LOVE ❤ expressing itself. That is how I see JOY. It is also why I strive for more JOY in my life every day!
When I think of young children singing, dancing, giggling, and being silly, I think of JOY.
When I think of a proud parent, I think of JOY expressing itself.
When I think of a couple newly in LOVE, ❤ I think of JOY.
When I think of a couple anticipating the birth of their child, a new life, I think of JOY.
When I think of a hot cup of tea, I think of JOY.
When I think of FREEDOM, I think of JOY.
JOY is amazing. JOY has the power to open our hearts and expand our LOVE. ❤ And I LOVE ❤ that because we are LOVE. ❤ We were born in and from LOVE ❤ and we will return to LOVE. ❤
JOY also enhances our immune system, stimulates our creativity and has a positive impact on everyone around us and the world. JOY is an emotion that can transform fear also. JOY can free one from their own pain and suffering. JOY can help FREE oneself from limiting beliefs and ideals. When you strive for JOY you can never go wrong.
Find JOY in the simple things. Seek JOY and it will find you.
I have written many helpful posts about JOY and you can access them here:
I saw this quote and liked it. And I might add we could exchange the word ‘friends’ with ‘family’ or ‘pets’ or fill in the blank. Love is the glue that makes this quote sticky. 🙂
Love is what we all want. ❤ ❤ ❤ Love is who we are.
It’s so simple really. If we want more Love, give more Love.
I have a new saying now: “Love-Fest“. This weekend I got to meet for the first time my FB Paul Lufteneggar as well as several other people I had met through Paul, through FB, and it was awesome to meet these beautiful souls and have a big ol Love-Fest!
While in Toronto attending the event Paul put on, I also got to spend time with my sister Stephanie. My daughter, Sivanna and I spent quite a bit of time with Aunty Stephie just being and it too was a huge Love-Fest!
I am going to wrap up this blog post by planting the seed of opening up our hearts and minds to simply enJOYing the company of the beautiful people in our life and Lovin them all up! I wish for you many Love-Fests and much JOY today and always and in all ways! 🙂
This morning my 13 year old daughter came to lay with me in bed before she started getting ready for school. She said she was sleepy and just wanted to sleep more. I told her to rest and I cuddled her. I drank in the moment and I embraced her with my arms and my heart. ❤
I started thinking about how much I was enJOYing holding her and I started thinking, as a Mother does, that one day she will be too big to hold like this. And then I stopped myself and said “NO, she will never be too big or too old to hold in my arms!” My eyes are leaking as I type this.
I started thinking about the moments in life like this. My brother popped by our house briefly on Sunday and Sivanna, my daughter, and I, had a group hug with Uncle Ed. I call these ‘Love Fests’ now. Uncle Ed was only over for about 5 minutes to drop something off and I was rushing out to Sunday brunch but that ‘Love Fest’ made a difference in our day, in our life, and it will be a memory in the memory love bank.
I also thought about the older lady I heard speak at a fundraiser I attended last night. It was with the Comedian Medium. Jennie Ogilvie. Anyhow this lady talked about how she wished she had been able “to spoon” her husband when he was dying. This was not possible for many reasons such as the room being filled with children and people and that he was in too much pain to touch. This moved everyone in the audience I am sure. Later in the show Jennie, The Medium, beautifully made this lady see that she needed to see that she was there when he passed and to remember all of the kisses that they did have so to speak, and not to focus on the one they didn’t. 🙂 I loved that.
The sentiment of this lady wanting to spoon her husband, the man that was her partner before children, her LOVE, ❤ that was also a huge testament to the fact that we are never too old or too big to hold someone in our arms, or cuddle them, or hug them ….. or to simply LOVE them.