cancer, Death & Dying, Happiness, happy, My Cancer Journey

On Happiness & The Regrets of The Dying & How I Have Learned To Choose Happy in Spite of It All…

Choosing thoughts has been something I have been teaching and practicing for many years. And now at this point in my life (my cancer journey), it has come into play even more so for me. If I don’t CHOOSE happy thoughts, I suffer A LOT! And I don’t like suffering!

One of my favorite books of all time and one that I refer to a lot is Bronnie Ware’s “The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying”.

There are 5 top regrets people have at the end of their life in general and the number 5 regret she learned from people dying is “I wish I had chosen to be happy”! Wow! I think that is my favorite of the 5. You can read more about all five here:

Not Easy But Gets Easier!

Now, I am not going to tell you that this is easy to do, but I can promise you that the more you do it, the easier it gets. This is probably why I am finding it quite easy in a situation that many people would find it very challenging in and rightly so! I have been ‘practicing’ this for awhile so it is easier for me because of that, but one can start at any time which is the good news!

NOW is all we have..

Choosing Happy means we let go of as much stuff as we can in our mental mind. An old memory? Tell yourself that it is the past and no longer exists but only in your mind and let it go. You need space for HAPPINESS NOW! NOW is all we have. Don’t let the old crap take up space and take away from now. Remember life is short….

Someone says something to you that you feel is hurtful or offensive? CHOOSE not to personalize it and let it go as fast as you can and move on. The faster we can do this, the more content we are. The longer we hang on to it and dwell on it, the more it grows and the more pain we feel.

Get Inspired to CHOOSE HAPPY!

I hope that you get inspired to ‘choose happy’ today and as much as you can. I know that for me, it is GAME ON! I want to squeeze as much JOY as I can out of my time left here on earth… and I hope that you do too!

Have a great day everyone!

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Keep It Simple & Go For It

“Find something that makes you happy and go for it”.

I think sometimes we overcomplicate life. We just do.

Take today for instance. How about we just find one thing that makes us happy for right now… for today… and we just do it!

Whatever it is just do it.

Maybe it’s making a piece of toast with your favorite jam, just because, or saying “NO” to a request from someone. It can be anything.

For me, it was writing this blog post because it makes me so happy to write. I also took time out to take a picture of the icy rocks today here on the Big Lake aka Lake Superior. The weather turned cold today and there is an interesting misty thing going on and it made me happy to take a picture of it!

Ice forming on rocks on Lake Superior December 14, 2020

There is no right or wrong here folks, but if you can, just go RIGHT NOW and do something that makes you happy and DO NOT complicate it. EnJOY! 🙂

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On Happiness & The Regrets of The Dying & How I Have Learned To Choose Happy in Spite of It All…

Choosing thoughts has been something I have been teaching and practicing for many years. And now at this point in my life (my cancer journey), it has come into play even more so for me. If I don’t CHOOSE happy thoughts, I suffer A LOT! And I don’t like suffering! One of my favorite books… Continue reading On Happiness & The Regrets of The Dying & How I Have Learned To Choose Happy in Spite of It All…

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Own Your Happiness!!!

“To live happily is an inward power of the soul”.

Marcus Aurelius

We have all heard it before… ‘happiness is an inside job’. 🙂 And we can never be reminded enough.

We are more powerful than we can even imagine. We just need to own it!

Have a great day everyone!

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Healing With Intention

“What happens when people open their hearts?”“They get better.” – Haruki Murakami Open Your Heart to Heal When we are facing an illness whether temporary, chronic, or terminal, there are always things that we can do that help us to heal, even if it is just healing our hearts and opening to more JOY along… Continue reading Healing With Intention

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3 Affirmations for a Happy Home

“Love lives here and lots of it”. With picture of two love birds and a heart.
“My home warms my heart and nourishes my soul…..”
“My home is a conduit for Happiness, Laughter & JOY”

I hope that you enJOYed these affirmations for your home and feel free to come up with your own. Affirmations are amazingly powerful. EnJOY!

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˜”*°•.˜”*°• Choose Your Way to Happiness â€¢Â°*”˜.•°*”˜

“You live longer once you realize that any time spent being unhappy is wasted” Ruth E. Renkl

A woman with her back to us, with one foot in the ocean and one foot raised and with arms in the air. Words on the picture say “CHOOSE CHOOSE CHOOSE”

Choose/Choose/Choose

Choose ♥ HAPPINESS ♥ every chance you get! 😍

Choose ♥ PEACE ♥ every chance you get! 😍

Choose ♥ JOY ♥ every chance you get! 😍

Choose ♥ LOVE ♥ every chance you get! 😍

Choose ♥ LAUGHTER ♥ very chance you get! 😍

Choose ♥ TO BE CHILDLIKE ♥ every chance you get! 😍

Choose to ♥ FORGIVE ♥ every chance you get! 😍

Choose ♥ SELF-LOVE ♥ every chance you get! 😍

Happy Choosing!

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♥ Happiness is a Courageous Choice Worth Choosing â™¥

Picture of the back of a woman at sunset with the sun highlighting her auburn hair.

Be Courageous

Happiness is worth the effort to achieve it. For me, I don’t even consider it an option. I do whatever it takes to ensure that I am happy.

Do whatever it takes and have the courage because it is so worth it.

I wish you all the happiness you desire now and always and in all ways. 🙂

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The Importance of 🎀 𝐻𝒶𝓅𝓅𝒾𝓃𝑒𝓈𝓈 ðŸŽ€

Picture of a girl holding pink tulips behind her back and the quote: “Happiness held is the seed; Happiness shared is the flower.” John Harrigan

Why Happiness?

The question is why not happiness? 🙂

Happiness is our birthright and is really an underlying desire of most people.

For example when we desire things for other people like our children, we are really wanting them to just be happy……like wanting them to graduate from a good school, or to land a great job, underneath it all, what we really, really want is for them to be happy.

We want this for ourselves too. When we can show our children that we are happy, we teach them that happiness is natural. Many people today feel that happiness is some far away and unreachable place, and that is unfortunate.

“There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.”

Thich Nhat Hanh

I highly recommend putting happiness on your daily check list. What are some things that you can do to increase your happiness so that you are happier and you infuse the natural art of happiness into those around your too?

Some ideas:

. laugh at yourself

. laugh at life

. watch funny movies

. have a conversation with an upbeat friend who likes to joke and laugh

. make happiness a goal

. seek happiness (what you seek seeks you)

. show kindness toward others.. this always infuses happiness within us

. spend time with young children

. do art

. go skinny dipping

. walk in nature

. gaze at the stars

The list is endless. Do whatever helps to make you happy and happier. Do the things that bring you JOY!

I wish you nothing but happiness…. til next time.

Maggie

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Cherish The Moments

Quote by Booth Tarkington “Cherish all of your happy moments; they make a fine cushion for old age.”

Life is a series of moments. It truly is the moments that will matter at the end of our lives. The moments when we loved others and were loved by others, the moments that bring smiles to our faces, the moments when our mouths are delighting in ♥ JOY ♥ from eating a delicious meal, the moments watching your child sleep, the moments when you read or see something that makes your heart lift… all of those moments matter.

Remember to make the moments matter and count the moments that matter.

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On Happiness

Happiness is a State of Mind and a Way of Being

Going through life in a happy state makes life so much easier. I’ve bet you’ve seen people stay positive and happy while going through tragic situations. You’ve seen images from around the world of people with absolutely nothing, yet they are smiling and laughing.

Have you ever wondered how these people can be happy despite everything that’s happening to them and those they love?

It’s because they choose to be happy.

According to Marcus Aurelius, “Happiness depends on the quality of your thoughts.” Scientists have been studying happiness for a long time and there is a consensus that Marcus’s view is correct. I am all about thoughts and controlling our thoughts. My own quote is “I control my thoughts, they don’t control me”. 🙂

So, instead of asking why these people are happy, maybe we should be asking how can we be happy, regardless of any circumstance?

Here are a few ways to help you find more happiness.

Take Control

If something is making you unhappy, know that you have the power to change it and to change your thoughts about it. Do it right away! Don’t give it more time to drag you down. Start taking action to address the issue and fix it.

If you’re unhappy with a situation or a person and you have no way to change it, ask yourself if you really need it in your life? Is this person or situation serving your for you highest good? Sometimes you have to let go in order to be happy.

Find a Solution

If there’s a problem, there is a solution and that is awesome news! You may not have the power to fix the problem, but someone does. Find the solution and implement it. Remember, sometimes the solution is acceptance. This is especially true if the real solution requires someone else to accomplish it. Accept that you need help and ask for it. Your happiness is worth it.

Don’t Disregard Your Emotions

It’s never a good idea to hide your true feelings when it comes to happiness. Being happy doesn’t mean you’re void of other emotions. It means being content and in charge of as much of your life as possible. Feel the feelings but move toward feelings and thoughts that make you feel good.

Live Without Expectations & Judgments

One of the biggest killers of happiness is expectations. When you make decisions and do things without expecting something in return, you give yourself the freedom to make choices based on what you want, rather than what others say you should want. You take control of your decisions. You reduce the chances of feeling anger or disappointment in the expected outcome. You allow yourself to live in the moment and enjoy life. And actively work at letting go of judging things, people, etc. Judging immediately takes your frequency to a place that is the opposite of Love and freedom.

And Finally

If you’re still not convinced, look around the world. You’ll see many people who have much less than you and yet are still happy. It may seem they have no real reason to be happy and yet they are. You too can be happy. You just need to set your mind to it. Work each day to feel gratitude. Take control of what you can and don’t worry about what you cannot. Enjoy the life you’ve been given. And always remember “there is no road to happiness, happiness is the road.”

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Be The First & Be Free~!

“The first to apologize is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest. The first to forgive is the happiest”. – UNKNOWN

“The first to forget is the happiest”… WOW!

I saw this picture quote on Facebook this morning and it rocked my world. It made me reflect on these statements.

Am I good at apologizing? Am I good at forgiving? How about forgetting?

I won’t share with you all of my thoughts around this, but I will tell you that this post has inspired me to look at all of these in my own life.

I think my favorite is indeed the last one. Over the years, I have gotten better at forgetting. I am at a place that I really don’t care about yesterday. I care about right now and what I am creating in my life now and what I will enJOY tomorrow.

I often say… if something hurt me in the past already, why oh why would I ever let it hurt me again today, in the Now? No way! I’m not giving up the beauty of today because it’s being robbed from me by yesterday or yesteryear. I have control over how I let yesterday or thoughts of yesterday affect me today.

Full speed ahead. In JOY and LOVE. And I will work more on those first two points too! I want freedom and I want JOY in my life. What about YOU?

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