I found it interesting that today is World Gratitude Day because when I discovered it, I was lying in bed doing my morning reading and today I felt the need to go back to the book I am reading called “The Magic” by Rhonda Byrne and it is all about gratitude and using it to create magic in your life.
In fact, I had gone to Facebook to post this picture I made this morning while reading the book… I like to do this as I see quotes that I resonate with.
I thought this was uncanny when after posting this, that I discovered that it was World Gratitude Day.
This is something I am working on diligently…. the art of more gratitude in my life. The magic really does work when you apply the discipline of gratitude in your life. And there really is always something to be grateful for.
I was sharing on a networking call last week my technique that I use when I have challenges and how I turn them around to gratitude. For example, I can give you one for today that uses my technique:
Last night I drained my hot tub and refilled it. Now I have an air lock that I need to fix and it is a bit frustrating. So how I got myself over the frustration (here is the technique), I became grateful for having the hot tub in the first place. I call this ‘getting behind the problem’. I would not have this problem if I was not fortunate enough to have this hot tub!
This strategy always helps me. I have used it in many ways. Another example is when my daughter was little and she was sick and up in the night. Although tired I became grateful that I was gifted a child that I could care for when they were sick. I then became honored to do so because of the gratitude that flooded my body and being.
Gratitude truly is magical and I for one, will be using it more and more and more, because the more you use it, the more you get and the more you get, the more the magic and miracles start occurring in your life.
Happy World Gratitude Day my friends and I hope that you too reach for gratitude often…. I am grateful for each and everyone on of YOU….
Every morning I try to read or listen to something that helps my spirit to be uplifted and ultimately so that I have more peace of mind and peace in my body. I especially do this in timesof fear or stress. It is my way of shifting my frequency from fear to love and to freedom.
Yesterday I started reading a very, very good book called “The Magic” by Rhonda Byrne. Rhonda also wrote the book, “The Secret”.
Anyhow, I am doing the daily gratitude list she suggests for 28 days. I am on day 2 and thought I would share today’s gratitude list here. I actually, without realizing it, did 13 instead of 10. Awesome. The more the better and I am confident that I will not run out of ideas. It really does get easier the more you do it.
Here is my list of 13 for today:
Note to Self: find the Blessing in everything aka Love that which arises and go forth in and with love
Day 2 Gratitude List
I am grateful
for my stainless steel serving spoon I found at the thrift store because it serves me well and helps me to nourish my family and my own body.
I am grateful for the birds that sing to and for me each day. I rejoice in their song and delight in the divine music they create.
I am grateful to have ears that hear to enJOY the birds and other sounds because they give me JOY
I am grateful for opportunities, sometimes called challenges, that allow me to reflect on what is truly important to me. It helps me clarifiy my life’s purpose and I get to know more of what I really want in my life.
I am grateful for gratitude because it shifts my frequency away from fear and into peace.
I am grateful for rocks because they are a JOY to look at and to hold. Today I appointed one of my favorite rocks to be my Gratitude Rock. It fits in my hand nicely. It is smooth and best of all it is irregular. I picked this one on purpose to remind myself that life is not always smooth but that I can find gratitude in life and even in every situation, no matter how dark or scary it seems. There is always a light. There is always something I can find to be grateful for. This gives me peace.
On a side note about the rock. I was thinking I should get a rock and make it my gratitude rock and then I opened my reading app to start reading The Magic book and the very page I turned to was exactly this exercise! I love signs and confirmations!
From the book:
“In the beginning of working with these practices, it takes concentrated days in a row to make gratitude a habit. Anything that reminds you to be grateful is helping you turn your life into gold with gratitude, and that’s exactly what this magical practice is about. Lee Brower presented the gratitude rock practice in The Secret film and book, when he told us the story of the father of a dying child who used a gratitude rock to be grateful for his son’s health, and his son made a miraculous recovery. Since then the gratitude rock has been a proven success with many people the world over, who have used it for money, healing, and happiness. First, find a rock or a stone. Choose a small size that fits in the palm of your hand and that you can close your fingers around. Choose a rock that is smooth, without sharp edges, not too weighty, and that feels really good in your hand when you hold it. You can find a Magic Rock from your garden if you have one, or from a riverbed, creek, ocean, or park. If you don’t have easy access to any of these places, then ask your neighbors, family, or friends. You may even have a precious rock or stone al- ready that you can use as your Magic Rock.”
“Energy is everything. You can control your vibration and energy with your thoughts.
Love is the ultimate healer and transformer of energy, and guilt and shame are the lowest frequency emotions.”
Christie Marie Sheldon
I love the work of Christie Marie Sheldon and I apply it to my own life on a daily basis. Of course, some days are easier than others. 🙂
Guilt & Shame
I have been a person who my entire life, has worked at moving away from guilt and shame. Guilt and shame can come in many forms. Even inadequacy can make one feel guilty or shameful.
I decided to write about this today to help us all to become more aware of our emotions and how they affect us.
For exampe, in his book “Power Verses Force”, Dr. David Hawkins has an emotional chart that shows the calibration of energy when it comes to emotions. It is referred to as a ‘Scale of Consciousness’. On this scale, guilt and shame are at the very bottom of the scale. What is on the top? Enlightenment and under that Peace, JOY, and Love.
So the lowest is Shame and the highest is Enlightenement.
When we understand that emotions can be scaled and that the higher that we vibrate on that scale, the more we will attract into our lives positive experiences and feelings, the more important it becomes to actively and purposely move ourselves up the scale.
One of the easiest ways to shift your frequency and to move up the scale is to find gratitude in things. I always try to start my day in gratitude and today was no exception. Here is a picture of my morning. This is Bella, my cat, lying on my chest, purring away while I laid in bed and enJOYed the start of my day.
Not only did I enJOY Bella’s cuddles but I fed my mind its morning breakfast by listening to some of the work of Christie Marie which inspired me to write this blog post.
It is always important to remember that “Thoughts are Things”. This is the core concept of my Infinite Possibilties work that I share with students and clients. It is very important to understand this and to use your thoughts as tools to enhance your life rather than to be a detriment to your happiness and well-being.
The best thoughts you can have to heal and transform are loving thoughts. Gratitude is a loving thought. Blessing something is a very high vibration and a loving thought. By thinking kind thoughts of both yourself and others, you can transform your world and the lives of others, and in turn the entire planet.
Become a master of your thoughts and be sure to feed your mind on a daily basis. By feeding your mind positive and uplifting information you also change your frequency and feed your soul.
Going through life in a happy state makes life so much easier. I’ve bet you’ve seen people stay positive and happy while going through tragic situations. You’ve seen images from around the world of people with absolutely nothing, yet they are smiling and laughing.
Have you ever wondered how these people can be happy despite everything that’s happening to them and those they love?
It’s because they choose to be happy.
According to Marcus Aurelius, “Happiness depends on the quality of your thoughts.” Scientists have been studying happiness for a long time and there is a consensus that Marcus’s view is correct. I am all about thoughts and controlling our thoughts. My own quote is “I control my thoughts, they don’t control me”. 🙂
So, instead of asking why these people are happy, maybe we should be asking how can we be happy, regardless of any circumstance?
Here are a few ways to help you find more happiness.
If something is making you unhappy, know that you have the power to change it and to change your thoughts about it. Do it right away! Don’t give it more time to drag you down. Start taking action to address the issue and fix it.
If you’re unhappy with a situation or a person and you have no way to change it, ask yourself if you really need it in your life? Is this person or situation serving your for you highest good? Sometimes you have to let go in order to be happy.
Find a Solution
If there’s a problem, there is a solution and that is awesome news! You may not have the power to fix the problem, but someone does. Find the solution and implement it. Remember, sometimes the solution is acceptance. This is especially true if the real solution requires someone else to accomplish it. Accept that you need help and ask for it. Your happiness is worth it.
Don’t Disregard Your Emotions
It’s never a good idea to hide your true feelings when it comes to happiness. Being happy doesn’t mean you’re void of other emotions. It means being content and in charge of as much of your life as possible. Feel the feelings but move toward feelings and thoughts that make you feel good.
Live Without Expectations & Judgments
One of the biggest killers of happiness is expectations. When you make decisions and do things without expecting something in return, you give yourself the freedom to make choices based on what you want, rather than what others say you should want. You take control of your decisions. You reduce the chances of feeling anger or disappointment in the expected outcome. You allow yourself to live in the moment and enjoy life. And actively work at letting go of judging things, people, etc. Judging immediately takes your frequency to a place that is the opposite of Love and freedom.
If you’re still not convinced, look around the world. You’ll see many people who have much less than you and yet are still happy. It may seem they have no real reason to be happy and yet they are. You too can be happy. You just need to set your mind to it. Work each day to feel gratitude. Take control of what you can and don’t worry about what you cannot. Enjoy the life you’ve been given. And always remember “there is no road to happiness, happiness is the road.”
Do you ever find yourself waking up to a train of thoughts about your day or your life? Does your mind race? Do these thoughts produce anxiety for you? Do you have thoughts something like I wish I didn’t start thinking this morning or I just want to go back to sleep?
We all have these thoughts as we start to wake up and start thinking about what we have to do, what is on or mind, or what we are currently worrying about. It’s common. The good news is that we can use this same technique of running thoughts to our advantage! Woo hoo!
What do I mean by this? Think of your thoughts like a train. They are moving and going from the next stop to the next or from thought to thought. They are moving and gaining momentum as they travel along. You get the idea.
So the easy thing to do is to change trains! Say STOP and then hop on the Gratitude Train. Start thinking of things to be grateful for. The bed you have to sleep in. That you opened your eyes one more time and you have been given another day on earth. That you have a job to go to. That you don’t have a job to go to. Be grateful for your dog or cat cuddled up beside you. The sounds of the birds chirping. Or the stillness. Or the feeling of your favorite sheets or blanket. ❤ That your heart is still beating. ❤ That the sun is shining. Or that the rain is refreshing the earth. That you can hear the rain…… etc. etc. etc. There are a zillion things you can find to be grateful for.
Once you get the gratitude train rolling you will start to feel better, your worry will fall away and best of all you will start to attract good things in your day and your life!
Also your smile 🙂 will be brighter and your heart ❤ will be happier and you will have a ripple effect on all of those that you encounter so even your relationships will improve. 🙂 It is a win-win any way you look at it.
Here is another quote from the book of quotes that my daughter gave me for Valentine’s Day. I adore these quotes from the book that she made for me by hand. Each day, when I open one, it is a gift and I treasure it.
Today’s made me think about the word ‘mistake’. I have come to believe that there are no mistakes in life, or at least I try not to look at them that way anymore. I see all experiences as stepping stones or as what I call “the contrast”. The contrast simply means an experience that I have had that shows me what I really, really, want verses “the contrast”, which is what I don’t want or no longer want to bring into my life and my life’s experiences.
A simple example could be a relationship that one has had. If you left a marriage or relationship of any kind, instead of seeing it as bad or wasted time, why not see it as the gift of showing you what you DO want in a relationship. Because of your past experience, you are much clearer on what is important for you to create in your life now.
The other day I wrote a blog post, also inspired by my daughter’s quote book, from that blog post I will quote myself here in reference to me saying No to an opportunity to be interviewed on a TV show about my overcoming adversity in health and life. I will put the link later in this blog post to read the full post but for now here is me quoting me: 🙂
‘”I see all of my past experiences as stepping stones that have gotten me to where I am today. The hardships and challenges have made me who I am so I see them as GIFTS! I did not feel I could properly convey myself to share the hardship piece because I don’t feel that way. I see everything as if it was perfect! It was the contrast I needed to show me what I do want. 🙂 I don’t want to talk about painful stuff. It does not serve me. I am too focused on where I am now and en-JOY-ing the next phase. I hope this makes sense cause I feel I am having a hard time conveying it for some reason…. but that’s okay, no perfection here. 🙂”
The cool thing about that prior blog post was that I got great responses from people and I could tell that it really helped them to shift the way they saw their past. For example here is one private message that I received:
“Love the blog post and Sivanna’s book. Wow ! Lots of love in that. So I’m thinking or it hit me as I read , I need to change how I think of my marriage and my ex. I think of it as lost time. Wasted years. Years of sadness and lack that I beat myself up for tolerating.”
I was very happy to see this message from this is a client of mine that I know well, It was an awesome moment for me to see her willing to let go of holding onto thinking of her past in a painful way. This does not serve us. It only robs us of the JOY we can have right now. I often say that the past already caused us pain, why let it cause you more pain today all over again? That’s like a double whammy!
I hope you too can start to think of so called mistakes as stepping stones to creating the life that you DO want and that will bring you more JOY, Love, Happiness and Magical relationships of all kinds! When we let go of that which no longer serves us, we can be FREE! 🙂
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach, Speaker, Nutritionist and Workshop Facilitator who is learning that she loves to blog too! 🙂 JOY, JOY, JOY!
Today while messaging a client I came out with a new phrase and thought I would make a new category for it over here at my blog. “Gratitude Pop”. I love it! These can also be called “Joy Pops”, which I love too.
Here is where the gratitude pop stemmed from today.
It is my client’s birthday and she sent me this picture of what she found on the table this morning from her son. I said to her that her heart must be bursting and she said “YES!”
It is such a good feeling to have a pop or burst of gratitude. The new show “Tidying up with Marie Kondo” uses the term ‘Spark Joy’ for keeping items that you absolutely love and cherish. Whatever we call them, they are awesome indeed, and very well something worth focusing on and looking for throughout our day. Think of them like bursts of joy, pleasure and an indicator of something that makes your heart and soul happy. 🙂
This morning I had my own gratitude pop when I saw that the sun was once again rising,on this cold January day in Canada.
What about you? Can you start to add to your Gratitude Pop list throughout your day? Maybe it simply starts with the fact that there is another day. Not everyone will wake up tomorrow to another day sadly, but true. Or maybe you get a Joy Pop when you look at your pet sleeping so cutely and looking so peaceful.
Whatever way you find them, I hope you find lots of Gratitude Pops, Joy Pops, bursts of ‘Spark Joy’, and that many smiles cross both your face and heart today and everyday!
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Board Certified Nutritionist who loves life, laughter, and finding JOY in each and everyday. She purposely looks for and seeks JOY. In fact, truth be told she’s a JOY Junkie and she’s okay with that 🙂
Well it has taken me nearly a year to write this blog post but here I am. Last year I was given the best Christmas gift ever from my daughter Sivanna Rose. She spent countless hours in her room every night working on a project that turned out to be one of the nicest gifts I have ever received.
She made me this box that had four sides and each with a saying that would melt any mother’s heart. One for example is “Mom, I know you’ve loved me as long as i lived, but I’ve loved you my whole life. I love you”….. melt….
I will share them here for you to en-JOY as well. I love the idea of the box too. Years ago I made myself a manifesting box and it truly has had magical results. You take your desires and put them in the box as though it were a magic box of creation and then you let it sit to do its magic… the results are astounding!
We can do this in our own mind of course and it is also effective, but by using a physical box it really makes things more tangible and believable. I no longer question any of this as I have seen the magic of it work every day in my life and continue to do so. I too hope you find the magic and belief to manifest your greatest wishes into reality as well. 🙂
The other thing I love, love, love about this box of beautiful sayings that Sivanna wrote, is that I know that she will not mind me sharing them here for all the world to see. Sivanna is confident in herself and in how she feels about others, and more importantly is not afraid to show her Love. To me, that is another great gift.
I will keep this box always and cherish it for the rest of my life, as I will both cherish and treasure my beautiful daughter Sivanna Rose.
“Love at first sight because I’ve been loving my mother since I opened my eyes”.
“Mom, I know you’ve loved me as long as I’ve lived but I’ve loved you my whole life. I love you.”
“Out of all that life has to offer, a loving mother is the greatest of them all.”
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who understands that there truly is magic in life and in the gift of life. She cherishes each beautiful example of this and delights when she sees others tap into the magic of creation and in the beauty of life unfolding its gifts like a flower blooming for all the world to en-JOY!
This year, my spouse Don and I, and our daughter Sivanna, got together with Don’s kids, grandkids and their spouses, great grandkids, and Joyce, the beautiful mother, grandmother, and great grandmother of all of these beautiful people, for an early Christmas celebration.
I feel very grateful to be a part of this extended family and thought I would take a minute to write about my JOY. This card from Don’s two sons and their families sums it up quite well. “Christmas is about believing in miracles and being a blessing, reviving our spirits and celebrating our JOY… Christmas is about remembering all the wonderful things in life, like the people who mean so much to us, people like you.”
I thought this was a beautiful card with a beautiful message and it will be treasured. I must mention that they also got us a great present that made me jump for JOY!
A kajak for our new place on the lake. I was so excited about this. 🙂 I can see so much JOY to be had by all as we use this and enjoy the beauty of nature and our beautiful surroundings.
I encourage all of us to read the words from this greeting card and to believe in Miracles, to be a Blessing and revive our spirits now and always. How do we do this? We do this by celebrating our JOY and by counting our blessings and that includes the people in our lives that Love us and that we Love back. Thank you to our beautiful family for the blessing of being together and celebrating our JOY together this holiday season.
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach who is grateful for the many blessings in life like Love, Family and Kayaks! 🙂