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“The path of forgiveness takes us back into ourselves, where the source of all conflict begins.” Michael Dawson

Peace starts within. The fastest track to peace, is through forgiveness.

If you are in pain and feel some forgiveness for yourself would help, try this exercise:

Throughout your days find examples or times when you can practice forgiving yourself. Just think of it like a school lesson or an activity that your are participating in rather than judging or evaluating why you feel you shouldn’t be forgiven.

And these can be little things. For example, you say that you are going to do something that day and you end up not doing it. Maybe it was like me today saying “I am going to get the bedroom organized the way I want it”, and I didn’t complete that task. This is a perfect example of a way to practice forgiveness. I am telling myself right now that it is okay that you didn’t get that done. Relax Maggie it’s okay. It’s okay.

I know this might sound silly but the more ‘practice’ you can have forgiving even yourself, the more you work the forgiveness muscle and it becomes easier to forgive and it can happen quicker.

And then you can practice forgiving others and that too becomes easier. It starts to feel like taking off an icky coat or cloak that you are wearing and you don’t want to wear it anymore!

When we forgive we are FREE! I have written before on the power of forGIVEness and you can read those posts here. Perhaps you will find them helpful.

And if you are having a hard time today for whatever reason, I am right now sending you Love and Support. Stay strong and may peace be with you.

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The Power of For-GIVE-Ness

Lately I have been pondering on both the word and the power of forgiveness. When you break the word down, it is really about giving. What do we give when we forgive?

We give love, hope, compassion, empathy, and we hold space for healing. Now, this can be for others or for ourselves. I have come to a place where I am pretty comfortable in the forgiveness department when it comes to others because I figured it out long ago, when I forgive I feel better. I’m pretty selfish that way LOL!

Forgiving Yourself

However, forgiving oneself sometimes takes on a daily challenge. A few weeks ago I was thinking what if we looked at each day as a chance to forGIVE ourselves each day like a goal! Like we get to GIVE ourselves some LOVE and COMPASSION. ๐Ÿ™‚ โค โค โค

When I looked at it this way, I started to kind of like it. It was like okay, let’s bring on some forgiveness here for myself for whatever. This is a good thing. Again selfish, I know. My bad. ๐Ÿ™‚

My spiritual and soul self knows that there is nothing to forgive, which is cool too, but my human self falls into the humanness stuff, so I work at forgiving myself when necessary. I kind of look at it this way, the sooner I forgive the faster I can raise my frequency and be a light for others, so I just do it now!

Of course, some days are easier than others and on a lot of days there is no need, but when the occasion arises to forgive, I try and take it. ๐Ÿ™‚

I like the words of Marissa Peer “To make mistakes is human but to forGIVE yourself is divine.”

I think one of the greatest gifts we can give our children and our loved ones, or anyone in our lives really, is the example of the ability to forgive. It is a gift that is like none other. I hope that you take an opportunity today to forGIVE yourself if you feel you need to and to enJOY the gift that the experience offers.

In Love & Light,

Maggie

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and an Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer who loves to free herself and others from anything that causes us to suffer unnecessarily and causes pain, especially if that suffering blocks us from JOY. Maggie believes that we are deliberate creators here on earth and that JOY and LOVE are our birthrights.

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The Gift of Mistakes!

mistakes are proof

Here is another quote from the book of quotes that my daughter gave me for Valentine’s Day. I adore these quotes from the book that she made for me by hand. Each day, when I open one, it is a gift and I treasure it.

Today’s made me think about the word ‘mistake’. I have come to believe that there are no mistakes in life, or at least I try not to look at them that way anymore. I see all experiences as stepping stones or as what I call “the contrast”. The contrast simply means an experience that I have had that shows me what I really, really, want verses “the contrast”, which is what I don’t want or no longer want to bring into my life and my life’s experiences.

A simple example could be a relationship that one has had.  If you left a marriage or relationship of any kind, instead of seeing it as bad or wasted time, why not see it as the gift of showing you what you DO want in a relationship. Because of your past experience, you are much clearer on what is important for you to create in your life now.

The other day I wrote a blog post, also inspired by my daughter’s quote book, from that blog post I will quote myself here in reference to me saying No to an opportunity to be interviewed on a TV show about my overcoming adversity in health and life. I will put the link  later in this blog post to read the full post but for now here  is me quoting me: ๐Ÿ™‚

‘”I see all of my past experiences as stepping stones that have gotten me to where I am today. The hardships and challenges have made me who I am so I see them as GIFTS! I did not feel I could properly convey myself to share the hardship piece because I donโ€™t feel that way.  I see everything as if it was perfect! It was the contrast I needed to show me what I do want. ๐Ÿ™‚ I donโ€™t want to talk about painful stuff. It does not serve me. I am too focused on where I am now and en-JOY-ing the next phase.  I hope this makes sense cause I feel I am having a hard time conveying it for some reasonโ€ฆ. but thatโ€™s okay, no perfection here. ๐Ÿ™‚”

Here is the link to that prior blog post if you would like to read the entire piece. Maggie’s Prior Blog Post

The cool thing about that prior blog post was that I got great responses from people and I could tell that it really helped them to shift the way they saw their past. For example here is one private message that I received:

“Love the blog post and Sivanna’s book. Wow ! Lots of love in that. So Iโ€™m thinking or it hit me as I read , I need to change how I think of my marriage and my ex. I think of it as lost time. Wasted years. Years of sadness and lack that I beat myself up for tolerating.”

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I was very happy to see this message from this is a client of mine that I know well,  It was an awesome moment for me to see her willing to let go of holding onto thinking of her past in a painful way. This does not serve us. It only robs us of the JOY we can have right now. I often say that the past already caused us pain, why let it cause you more pain today all over again? That’s like a double whammy!

I hope you too can start to think of so called mistakes as stepping stones to creating the life that you DO want and that will bring you more JOY, Love, Happiness and Magical relationships of all  kinds! When we let go of that which no longer serves us, we can be FREE! ๐Ÿ™‚

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach, Speaker, Nutritionist and Workshop Facilitator who is learning that she loves to blog too! ๐Ÿ™‚ JOY, JOY, JOY!

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Rise Above to Love

Tonight I had a digital conversation with a coaching client and it brought up a very important topic, one that I think is important for all of us when we need to heal and move forward in life.

I will call my client Rose. We were discussing some pain around Rose and her feelings towards her departed mother. When Rose described to me the way her mother was in her actions, the behaviour that Rose found hurtful and negative, I asked Rose if she herself had ever behaved this way or could be seen this way. She responded with a “Yes”.

I then asked Rose to imagine her own child or children saying this about her 20 years from now. I then told her that she might feel like saying something like this in response “but you don’t understand why I felt like this, please don’t judge me, I need love actually”…

Rose was moved by this and started to shift the way she saw her mother. I also suggested she have compassion for her mother and to energetically hold her mother in her arms and tell her that she did not understand why she did or said the things she did that caused Rose pain, but that she would try to have compassion and understanding for her mother.

I suggested that Rose turn her loathing into love so that she, Rose, could release her own pain.

I also suggested to Rose that she see her Mom as a baby, a young girl, a woman her own age feeling the very inadequacies and pain that Rose herself now feels, and to see her mom as a vulnerable person rather than the mean person Rose saw from her own personalization of her mother that caused HER pain.

I also suggested to Rose that it is way easier to opt for anger and resentment than to Rise Above to Love, but Love will be what sets her free. Anger, blame and resentment are easy opt-ins for most people. I suggested to Rose that she had both the capacity and the space to rise above to love and that if her mother had felt love, understanding and felt supported in life, she would not have acted in the manner she had. People full of love do not hurt others. Hurt people hurt others.

Rose asked me if by shifting the way she saw her Mom did this mean she was she agreeing with what her mother did to her or how horribly she had treated her. I told her No and that she was meeting the situation with understanding at a higher level, and that she was having compassion for her mother. I asked Rose directly, if she really thought her mother would have behaved like that if she had felt good about herself, if she had felt loved and personally empowered. Rose answered “I guess not. I never thought about it like that”.

We concluded our conversation with Rose’s homework of holding her mother in her arms,in her mind, so that Rose could expand her own heart and include her Mom and herself, because what we give out we get back. I also reminded Rose that love can heal even after death and that if Rose wanted to heal and be free from pain, this would be of great benefit to her.

What about you? Who do you need to need to Rise Above to Love for? Maybe it’s a person or a situation. When you can expand your heart to shift the way you see the person or situation, and have compassion you will gain compassion and love for yourself too. Everyone wins here. ๐Ÿ™‚

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who believes wholeheartedly in the power of Love and is working at finding more compassion in her own life for herself and others. Compassion is one of the beautiful threads in the tapestry of unconditional love that weaves the way to peace.