Courage, Facing Adversity, Forgiving, Gratitude, inspiration

The Gift of Mistakes!

mistakes are proof

Here is another quote from the book of quotes that my daughter gave me for Valentine’s Day. I adore these quotes from the book that she made for me by hand. Each day, when I open one, it is a gift and I treasure it.

Today’s made me think about the word ‘mistake’. I have come to believe that there are no mistakes in life, or at least I try not to look at them that way anymore. I see all experiences as stepping stones or as what I call “the contrast”. The contrast simply means an experience that I have had that shows me what I really, really, want verses “the contrast”, which is what I don’t want or no longer want to bring into my life and my life’s experiences.

A simple example could be a relationship that one has had.  If you left a marriage or relationship of any kind, instead of seeing it as bad or wasted time, why not see it as the gift of showing you what you DO want in a relationship. Because of your past experience, you are much clearer on what is important for you to create in your life now.

The other day I wrote a blog post, also inspired by my daughter’s quote book, from that blog post I will quote myself here in reference to me saying No to an opportunity to be interviewed on a TV show about my overcoming adversity in health and life. I will put the link  later in this blog post to read the full post but for now here  is me quoting me: 🙂

‘”I see all of my past experiences as stepping stones that have gotten me to where I am today. The hardships and challenges have made me who I am so I see them as GIFTS! I did not feel I could properly convey myself to share the hardship piece because I don’t feel that way.  I see everything as if it was perfect! It was the contrast I needed to show me what I do want. 🙂 I don’t want to talk about painful stuff. It does not serve me. I am too focused on where I am now and en-JOY-ing the next phase.  I hope this makes sense cause I feel I am having a hard time conveying it for some reason…. but that’s okay, no perfection here. 🙂”

Here is the link to that prior blog post if you would like to read the entire piece. Maggie’s Prior Blog Post

The cool thing about that prior blog post was that I got great responses from people and I could tell that it really helped them to shift the way they saw their past. For example here is one private message that I received:

“Love the blog post and Sivanna’s book. Wow ! Lots of love in that. So I’m thinking or it hit me as I read , I need to change how I think of my marriage and my ex. I think of it as lost time. Wasted years. Years of sadness and lack that I beat myself up for tolerating.”

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I was very happy to see this message from this is a client of mine that I know well,  It was an awesome moment for me to see her willing to let go of holding onto thinking of her past in a painful way. This does not serve us. It only robs us of the JOY we can have right now. I often say that the past already caused us pain, why let it cause you more pain today all over again? That’s like a double whammy!

I hope you too can start to think of so called mistakes as stepping stones to creating the life that you DO want and that will bring you more JOY, Love, Happiness and Magical relationships of all  kinds! When we let go of that which no longer serves us, we can be FREE! 🙂

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach, Speaker, Nutritionist and Workshop Facilitator who is learning that she loves to blog too! 🙂 JOY, JOY, JOY!

Butterfly Magic

 

Adapting, Courage, Facing Adversity, Life's Challenges, wisdom

Bird Wisdom

Yesterday on a cold, cold day in January as this great Lake of Superior wass forming ice in some spots, closer to shore, I spotted these birds. I think they were ducks, but I am not 100% certain… but pretty certain. The Canadian Geese have gone south already so it can’t be them. If anyone knows though, let me know.

Anyhow, as I watched them, I would see them shaking off the cold water from their bodies every so often. It made me think of that saying “Water off a duck’s back”. But then I thought there is so much wisdom here.

Sometimes these birds are swimming around carefree on a beautiful sunny day without a care in the world, just like us. However, at other times they are swimming in a pool of life’s challenges like this cold and threatening water, or they have to transition to a new location.

I watched them swim around the patches of ice forming, shaking off and continuing on, looking for open water to swim in. This is like us! Sometimes things are easy and sunny and bright and at other times, they are more challenging and we have to move through those times and shake it off, like water off a ducks back.
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I hope today’s ‘bird wisdom’ helps you to move through life’s challenges and to ‘shake them off’ when you need to … just like water off a duck’s back. 🙂

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Board Certified Nutritionist who loves nature and loves learning from the wisdom of it. There are so many messages and examples of how nature is perfect and that we are nature by nature 🙂