Anger, Anger Managment, self-love

Transforming 🅰🅽🅶🅴🆁 to ⓁⓄⓋⒺ

Yesterday I got really, really, angry and I couldn’t stop myself!!!

It really does not matter what I was angry about but I will tell you that this blood boiling anger I felt came about over a simple thing as a phone charger! I had an issue with my daughter taking my rapid phone charger once again after we had had discussions about this the previous day, and it triggered a lot of anger in me.

As I mentioned it really does not matter the reason why I was angry because that is not the point of my writing today. I am not trying to build a case or prove I was right or that she was wrong. None of that matters… what matters is that this anger did not feel good for either of us.

My daughter cried a lot, I cried and was pained about her crying and was angry about my anger… go figure. See how this stuff starts to spiral deeper and deeper?

Anyhow, this morning, when I awoke and had the feelings and thoughts around this rush back into my morning consciousness, I knew I had to make a decision or to continue to suffer with this newly created pain and anger, or to somehow use this opportunity to transform and heal it.

How would I do this? Well I am currently reading Matt Kahn’s book “Whatever Arises Love That”, and I thought yes Love is the answer. I have to love this situation and to love my anger. This is what will transform this frequency and even turn this situation into the gift that it is!

Love My Anger?

What an opportunity I have! I have the opportunity to:

  1. Identify that I am alive and aware of my anger and of this situation
  2. Choose to take the opportunity to shift it all to a place of Love and a higher frequency
  3. To see the gift of this situation and to relish in my humanness
  4. To maybe help others with anger and other painful emotions by openly sharing my story and how I am working at transforming this situation this morning….

Okay whew. I’ve been openly honest here with myself and those reading my words. And now I can love myself back to love. I will do this by choosing to shift this situation right in the here and now. I choose to send love to my heart and to my daughter’s heart.

I choose to not ‘resist’ or ‘deny’ that this is or has happened. I had A LOT of anger and I displayed it, but now I will send love to the situation and “love what arose”. When I love what is, I displace the anger because they cannot co-exist.

Wow. Feeling better already. I will now go forth with a lighter and happier heart and I will project love around this entire experience and move forward in my day with a loving heart once again.

I hope that you found this as helpful as I did in writing it. And please remember you can replace the emotion of anger with any painful emotion and send love to it to help shift you from that feeling of ‘frustration’, ‘judgement’, ‘hatred’ (fill in the blank) and love ♥ what arises, send love to it, to you, and release the hold that it has on you and in turn you will project MORE love out to the world too. By doing this we all infuse more love and loving kindness out into the world.

So even in our darkest moments, we can turn them into conduits of love and healing.

Much love to you today….

Maggie

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Adapting, Anger, Joy

Adapting Versus Reacting

I was thinking today about people who react to situations and cause themselves and others pain. It got me thinking that there are two kinds of people. Those who react and those who adapt.

Reactors often harbor anger and their blood tends to boil. Think high blood pressure and the blood rising and boiling over. Adapters, on the other hand, go with the flow, and adapt their reactions, rather than react to them. This gives them quite the advantage as they are in charge of their own power by adapting versus reacting.

I am all about personal empowerment for myself and also for others when I am coaching tham. When we are personally empowered, we feel MORE in control and we are LESS affected by others, situations, the weather, challenges etc. Learning to adapt and even taking situations to the next level and actually embracing them, truly puts us in the driver’s seat!

For example we had a huge snow and ice storm here last night and into the morning. This landed us a lot of snow and our power went out too!

I had lots of snow to shovel and I decided to embrace it and more importantly to actually en-JOY it. I was grateful that I am healthy enough to shovel the snow and that I can. So while I was out there doing what I needed to do, I saw so much beauty around me like this picture with the bluest sky I’ve ever seen.bluest sky

I would put down my shovel, take a picture and delight in the glorious surroundings. I also was very grateful for where I live. It crossed my mind that I wouldn’t change a thing because I have already decided that Canada is where I want to live, otherwise I would have moved already. 🙂 And with living in the centre of Canada we get winters like this. It’s all good. It was so much better to embrace and en-JOY then to react and feel frustrated and even angry at the weather.

And heck, my positive thinking worked so well that by the time I was finished my first round of shoveling, the power came back on and a neighbor came by with a snow blower lent to him by another neighbor and he and his Dad helped me with round 2 🙂 I then had even more gratitude and was whistling a happy tune for the day. What a great day it is!

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who actively seeks to embrace life’s blessings and they are all blessings as the saying goes. She hopes you too find both beauty and blessings in your day to day living.