Awakening, love life, self-love

Comparing Ourselves to Others

Question:

My two closest friends are really beautiful, always have boys around them and are charismatic. Meanwhile I’m the exact opposite. I can’t help feeling envious and bad about myself. How can I change this?

I answered this question over on another platform and thought it was worth sharing here as well. So here was my answer:

First know that you are not alone. We all have feelings of insecurity and unworthiness at times in our lives. In fact, as a Life Coach, this is the thing I see most with people. They truly do not love themselves enough, and do not feel personally empowered to be who they really are.

I would encourage you to become your own best friend! What would a best friend say to themselves? What would best friends say to each other? Would they encourage each other? Would they support each other? YES they would!

I wish I had learned to love myself earlier in my life. I do now. 100% but I went through a lot to get here. You do not have to! Things can happen “in an Instant” just like sending an email or a text message and it shows up instantly. I wrote a blog post about this and you or someone may find it helpful. Here is the link: The Art of Instant Forgiveness

Whether it’s self-love, self-acceptance or self forgiveness it truly can happen instantly if we ‘change our minds’ about it. So here is the greatest secret to shifting your feelings. Focus on the things that you do love about yourself and get excited about those. We all have some things that we do love.. maybe our laugh, our kindness to animals, etc. There is always something to be grateful for. When we get grateful we shift our energetic frequency from envy to JOY and JOY is where we want to be.

I wish you nothing but Happiness and JOY and I hope you get excited about being YOU and en-JOYing the beautiful gift that you are to the world. Blessings!

MaggieHolbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who en-JOYs instilling JOY in others. Life can be beautiful if we decide so.

 

 

Addictions, Awakening, Financial Health

Breaking Free from Yourself!

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I was doing some text support with one of my clients and it got me to thinking that I would start a series of blog posts that share some of the conversations I have with clients, in the hope that it may help others. So here we go on the first one which has to do with moving forward after things like financial challenges, addictions and just beating ourselves up.

My client stated ” I am so angry I’m in this place. I know I’ve put myself here but I’m angry about it. I feel dumb and stupid and so incompetent.” She was referring to maxed out lines of credit and racked up credit cards, which is  a place many of us have been, myself included.

She also messaged this:

Client: “I want to connect to joy and possibility I no longer want this sadness and fear it’s so heavy”.

My advice to her was to see the experience of the prior money management or mismanagement as the blessing it is. These experiences are truly  gifts to show us what we do want, and how we want things to be. This is what we refer to as ‘the contrast’. When we clearly know, feel and see what we do not want in our life, we can clearly know, feel and see what we do want in our lives. There lies the blessing.

I also encouraged her to look at the positive ways she has handled money in her life as in her investments and that she owns a home as well. The secret here is to get excited about the positive. When we ‘feel’ good about a situation we can then shift the frequency from fear and failure to joy and possibility which is what she clearly desired.

All creation starts with a thought, but the most important part of creating and manifesting the lives we do want, comes from the feeling of having it already.  This is the secret that master manifestors know and understand. We ‘feel’ our way to those things we want.

This is the same as breaking an addiction. It is much more effective to get excited about being free from the substance or behaviour, then beating yourself up over it. When you are in a state of fear and punishment you will just attract more fear and punishment and probably make your addiction or said behavior worse.  I have found it is much more effective to focus on the way you will feel being free of the very thing that is weighing your down rather than focusing on the problem. You feel your way to the next state/frequency all the way to the door marked “Freedom”!

So back to my client. Can you see that the best thing for her to do would be to stop harboring those negative feelings about herself? And to actually get grateful for her experience so that she can use it as a catalyst for designing the very life she wants which includes empowered money management.

This technique can be applied to any situation or desire you are working on in your life.

I hope you enjoyed this post and if you have any question you would like to ask Life Coach Maggie, please send it to me so I can write back here and maybe together we will help others too. 🙂

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Board Certified Nutritionist who loves helping people to and through to personal empowerment. She believes that when people are personally empowered they can then share more of themselves as the beautiful gifts that they are. The world needs them right now, and that includes YOU oh Beautiful Soul that you are! 🙂

Awakening, Life Coaching

Choose Living Fearlessly and in LOVE!

“Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live”. Dorothy Thompson

What if you decided that 2019 is going to be the year to Love yourself more?  By letting go of fear, we open the path to Love and Living and yes with Capitals! They are that important! 🙂

Fear is what holds us back and constricts us. Love expands and fear contracts. The fastest and easiest way to move through fear is to shine the light of love and this starts with us!!!

We can start to love ourselves more by being our own Lover.  This includes, but is not limited to, saying kind things to ourselves, being  gentle with ourselves, allowing time for rest, feeding our bodies with nutritious food, forgiving ourselves, consoling ourselves, and one that I would like to add in that I feel is important, is by empowering ourselves.  And we empower ourselves by doing all of those things just mentioned and more.

When we feel personally empowered we feel stronger and more capable of loving ourselves. True personal power comes from within. This means that WE have the capability to ramp up this personal power and that in itself is truly empowering!

I hope each and everyone of you reading this whether today, or in the future, claims and grasps your birthright, your entitlement which includes personal empowerment and self-love to ramp up your divine beauty so that 2019 and beyond can be the life that is better than your wildest and craziest dreams! Hold your own hand.winged heart Be your own Lover and a Lover of Life! It’s yours for the taking.

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who believes in living fearlessly and in love, and creates many opportunities to forgive herself, to grow, and to be human. She struggles along just as we all do, knowing that each and every day is a new opportunity to reconnect to ‘who we truly are’… LOVE.

Awakening, Gratitude

The Best Gift Ever

Well it has taken me nearly a year to write this blog post but here I am. Last year I was given the best Christmas gift ever from my daughter Sivanna Rose. She spent countless hours in her room every night working on a project that turned out to be one of the nicest gifts I  have ever received.

She made me this box that had four sides and each with a saying that would melt any mother’s heart. One for example is “Mom, I know you’ve loved me as  long as i lived, but I’ve loved you my whole life. I love you”….. melt….

I will share them here for you to en-JOY as well.  I love the idea of the box too. Years ago I made myself a manifesting box and it truly has had magical results. You take your desires and put them in the box as though it were a magic box of creation and then you let it sit to do its magic… the results are astounding!

We can do this in our own mind of course and it is also effective, but by using a physical box it really makes things more tangible and believable. I no longer question any of this as I have seen the magic of it work every day in my life and continue to do so. I too hope you find the magic and belief to manifest your greatest wishes into reality as well. 🙂

The other thing I love, love, love about this box of beautiful sayings that Sivanna wrote, is that I know that she will not mind me sharing them here for all the world to see. Sivanna is confident in herself and in how she feels about others, and more importantly is not afraid to show her Love. To me, that is another great gift.

I will keep this box always and cherish it for the rest of my life, as I will both cherish and treasure my beautiful daughter Sivanna Rose.

“Love at first sight because I’ve been loving my mother since I opened my eyes”.

“Mom, I know you’ve loved me as long as I’ve lived but I’ve loved you my whole life. I love you.”

Amazing, Loving, Strong, Happy, Selfless, Graceful.

“Out of all that life has to offer, a loving mother is the greatest of them all.”

 

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who understands that there truly is magic in life and in the gift of life. She cherishes each beautiful example of this and delights when she sees others tap into the magic of creation and in the beauty of life unfolding its gifts like a flower blooming for all the world to en-JOY!

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Use it!

Positive expectation is like a muscle. The more you use it, the bigger it gets. The same is true for the opposite. The more we worry and have fear, the more we attract the frequency of worry and fear.

I’m sure we have all heard of ‘The Snowball Effect’, which implies that as a snowball rolls down a hill it gets bigger and bigger and bigger, and it is very true. It’s also very exciting when we do realize how powerful this is. If we can expect good things to come into our life, good things do start to happen and then the snowball effect happens because it is the same as building a muscle, the more you use it the bigger it gets!!! 🙂

I encourage everyone today to have a good workout and build those muscles of positive expectation and awesome outcomes! 🙂

Maggie Holbik.com it’s a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist, who believes in Positive Expectations, Joyful Living, and Miracles!!!

Gratitude, Joy

True Joy!

joy cardThis year, my spouse Don and I, and our daughter Sivanna, got together with Don’s kids, grandkids and their spouses, great grandkids, and Joyce, the beautiful mother, grandmother, and great grandmother of all of these beautiful people, for an early Christmas celebration.

I feel very grateful to be a part of this extended family and thought I would take a minute to write about my JOY. This card from Don’s two sons and their families sums it up quite well. “Christmas is about believing in miracles and being a blessing, reviving our spirits and celebrating our JOY… Christmas is about remembering all the wonderful things in life, like the people who mean so much to us, people like you.”

 

I thought this was a beautiful card with a beautiful message and it will be treasured. I must mention that they also got us a great present that made me jump for JOY!

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A kajak for our new place on the lake. I was so excited about this. 🙂 I can see so much JOY to be had by all as we use this and enjoy the beauty of nature and our beautiful surroundings.

I encourage  all of us to read the words from this greeting card and to believe in Miracles, to be a Blessing and revive our spirits now and always. How do we do this? We do this by celebrating our JOY and by counting our blessings and that includes the people in our lives that Love us and that we Love back. Thank you to our beautiful family for the blessing of being together and celebrating our JOY together this holiday season.

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach who is grateful for the many blessings in life like Love, Family and Kayaks! 🙂

art, Awakening

The Artist in All of Us

may cards

Today on Facebook, a local business, Bay Village Coffee, shared a FB post promoting my friend May Porter’s art in the form of holiday greeting cards.

I have to share with you that this post brought tears to my eyes. My friend May is a terrific artist and she is getting her work out there. I remembered back to a time when May was more of a silent artist, or perhaps a time when she was a little less confident about her gift.  And I thought of all of the artists out there. It matters not if the art is in the form of painting, drawing, sewing, writing, cooking, gardening, designing or just creating of any sort, it’s art! And how many of us struggle with letting it come out and through us?

This my friends, is why I had tears in my eyes. For all the Mays, the Maggies, the Susans and Joes of the world who struggle with allowing our art and our gifts out.  We all have beautiful divine expressions of creativity and gifts we have to offer the world and many of us keep them hidden.

I for one, have vowed to use my gift of expressing through words more often and to ‘let it out’ and this is why I am here writing today. 🙂

Here is a picture May posted today of her favorite work area in her home, her dining room table.

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Others commented and posted sharing their favorite  areas to create too! So often we think we need special rooms, areas, or tools for our craft when in reality it’s just do it and the spaces and inspirations will find their place as we journey along.  It always begins with the first step…

I encourage the artist in you, to unleash its divine essence and flow through you and out to the world. We have been waiting for you!

I close with another piece of May’s art. The English Robin and prints are available for those interested.  And to see more of May’s work, she does have a FB Page . If you too love the artists of the world and also love supporting them, give her page a Like. Here is the link: https://www.facebook.com/mayporterartist/ And a shout out to Bay Village Coffee for their local business and in supporting the artists and entrepreneurs of the world!

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Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who loves supporting artists, entrepreneurs and anyone with a passion for life and unleashing their inner artist and letting their soul’s shine!

Awakening, Life Coaching

Shine from Within

shining grape red.jpgYesterday I bought these organic grapes and by the looks of them, they need to be eaten soon. I love all the stages of ripeness to fruit, each one offering their different delights and benefits.

What really made me smile about these grapes, is the shining one. I thought it was so awesome and a great example of something we can apply to our own unique selves. This grape was lit up by the sun and I am so in love with the sun lately. The more I connect with that thought, the more I know at a deep level, how healing the sun is for us and how it can infuse healing properties into plants!

We too can be lit up and let our lights shine! We can too be our unique selves, in different stages of life and life’s challenges and glories. No matter where we are at it life, we have the opportunity to rise again and let our internal lights shine. Can you see how beautiful that shining grape is? That is you in all your glory, shining from within.

How do we do this? We do it through self-acceptance, self-forgiveness, self-love, intention, and by believing that we are truly capable of letting that inner light out for the world to see. If you need to forgive yourself for something, do it! If you need to treat yourself more kind, do it! Do whatever you need to do to transition to this ‘lighter’ place.

Today I encourage you to let the world see your light, even if it is one shining beam at a time until you can light up your entire being. Keep the vision of this grape in your mind and know that by allowing your inner light to shine, you too can light up your soul and shine on, allowing the entire world to see your divine essence and beauty!

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Board Certified Nutritionist who likes to let her light shine, but understands that true light can only come from the dark, so she believes all experiences offer the chance for inner growth and the opportunity to rise again in light and love. Compassion, Kindness and Forgiveness, are three Blessings we can offer ourselves and the world.

Awakening, Divine Signs, see333

Divine Signs & 3’s

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For those that know me, you know that I both love and believe in divine signs, and yesterday I had a cool one!.

Each and every day, I try to keep my vibration and frequency in a higher state. I find I am much happier in this place and that I attract and manifest amazing things into my life this way. I am a huge believer in being a Master Manifestor and will be teaching this in upcoming online workshops too!

Anyhow, as is the case with most of us, sometimes we need to boost our state of being and kick it up a notch with the help of outside sources. So yesterday I thought I would listen to some Youtube for that lift. The first one I went to or saw there waiting for me, actually, was this one from Abraham Hicks “Watch for Symbols” and so I started to listen…. and boy did my face light up when I heard the gentleman talking about seeing 3’s and the divine signs offered from that!

I am a lover of 3’s and see 3’s all the time. One time I was in a hotel with thousands of rooms and I got put into room 333. 🙂 I have endless examples, pictures and stories about seeing 3’s and 333’s in my life. This video was once again, a beautiful confirmation of the magic and miracles offered to us through signs, and they happen often when you are ready to see them. Here is the link to the video if you would like to listen Your Inner Being Can Guide You Through Symbols

Today is also a special day for my friend Paul Luftenegger. His story he wrote on the Sixth Sense is published in a book just released today! It’s called “Magic and Miracles” and is available on Amazon today for a very special price. This was my morning reading and boost for today. I haven’t read Paul’s story yet but I read another person’s chapter and it was AWWWWE-SOME! Don’t you just love the name of the book? “Magic and Miracles”. I sure do!

Everyday I hear of magic and miracles and it makes me excited to be alive at a time when we are awakening to our divinity and re-membering who we are. It is a beautiful time indeed!

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Board Certified Nutritionist who loves helping people to remember their greatness! She looks for and adores finding divine signs within each and every day. She encourages others to be open to these gifts and to always ‘remember their greatness’.
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