compassion, kindness, self-love

Compassion For Self

A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life.

christopher k. germer

Yesterday, while thrift store shopping, I was lucky enough to pick up a copy of Brene Brown’s book “The Gifts of Imperfection” Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are.

Although I haven’t read it yet, I have been skimming some of the pages and it is definitely resonating with me. I am reminded once again that we are not in this alone. We all suffer from the same things, self-doubt, insecurities, fear, lack of self-confidence and more. We are NOT alone! You, me and the stranger across the road, we’ve all been here or are here right now.

I write about self-love and compassion often and it seems for good reason. We can be so hard on ourselves. As I write this, I am glancing over at my cat Bella, curled up in a chair and I realize that when I look at Bella so cute like that, I instantly feel this emotion that I would call compassion. Why? I am not sure. I don’t need to be compassionate to her or for her but for some reason that emotion comes to mind. It makes me think that we all have compassion in us but being compassionate to ourselves often seems so challenging.

In my quest of getting a better understanding of compassion I found these synonyms:

pity, sympathy, feeling, fellow feeling, empathy, understanding, care, concern, solicitude, solicitousness, sensitivity, tender-heartedness, soft-heartedness, warm-heartedness, warmth, love, brotherly love, tenderness, gentleness, mercy, mercifulness, leniency, lenience, tolerance,  consideration, kindness, humanity, humaneness, kind-heartedness, charity, benevolence

The two that jumped out at me the most, were soft-heartedness and warm-heartedness. Yes this is what I feel when I look at Bella all cuddled up over on that chair. My heart is warm and melting and I just want to go over there and kiss her or cuddle her.

What if we could look in the mirror and feel that way about ourselves? Would it have an impact? I think it would. And I think if we felt that way towards ourselves we would open up our capacity to feel these tender feelings toward others and then the whole world benefits just like the starfish story, one starfish at a time. πŸ™‚

I hope you take the time to practice compassion and self-love for yourself today and always. I am going to start right away. Just writing this post has helped me to see the gift in compassion and to feel it’s power to shift and to heal. Will you join me? I would love to hear also what synonyms for compassion resonated with you or jumped out at you? πŸ™‚

Wishing you a day full of JOY and Compassion……

With Love,

Maggie

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach & Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach who loves to write as a way of expressing her feelings. She thanks you for taking the time today to stop by and spend a moment with her in her heart and soul.

compassion, Gentleness, kindness

Hard Times….

It has been awhile since I have made a blog post. I just haven’t been inspired but now I realize that it’s all ok and that blogging involves sharing through the highs and lows of life.

There seems to be so much sadness around lately and so many people going through extremely trying times… all the cycles of life and of life and death.

Yesterday we lost a very precious woman who was close to my heart, Pam Bowling, Pam was a mentor to me in business, a business partner and a friend. She was an amazing lady and I will honor her memory always. Pam was very much an entrepreneur like myself. Pam held me in the light always and encouraged me and my entire team onto success and I am forever grateful for that. In memory of Pam I will continue to forge ahead and to also help others on their journeys of creating and designing lives that bring them freedom….. to love, to grow, to inspire, to dream and to create lives that allow them to make the most of their time here on earth.

Pam was beautiful inside and out and if you knew her, you loved her!

While contemplating all of the heavy hearts and toil I see and feel going on around me, the only word that keeps coming to mind is “kindness”. Kindness, Kindness, Kindness. We need to be kind to each other, we need to be kind to ourselves and to be gentle with ourselves and others.

Kindness is that part of love that reaches out and offers support in times of need. Kindness is the thread of hope that bridges the gaps between pain and suffering. Kindness is the glue that helps to heal the holes created by loss. Kindness is a gift……

The fragrance always stays in the hand that gives the rose. Β 

hada Bejar

If you are reading this and need support or comfort, please know that love and kindness are sent your way today.

And to Pam…. I know you are now an angel for many of us and I feel you as the wind beneath my wings…..

beauty, Star Gazing, Sunsets

Take Your Breath Away!

β€œAll this knowledge of the objective world is of no value in comparison to having a little glimpse of the inner sky and its beauty β€” its sunrises and sunsets, its days and nights, its blue sky and its stars. The outer then looks only a pale reflection of the inner. The inner becomes more real and the outer becomes just a shadow.” -Osho

This summer I have had the pleasure of witnessing many beautiful sunrises, sunsets and stars that took my breath away.

For me, every time I gaze up at the starry sky I am reminded that this is where I come from. I feel a part of the entire universe in that moment.

I have a goal of learning night photography so I can capture the beauty of what my naked eyes sees and also what a camera is able to capture and my eye is not.

So often in life we search outside of ourselves for things to make us happy and then one day many of us realize that the things that were always there are the ones that make us most happy, like a sunrise, sunset or the stars.

What about you? What takes your breath away? What takes you to that place of feeling one with all that is?

I hope you find these beautiful moments in your life too. And the cool thing is that the more you find them, the more they appear, which is awesome!

love

Earth Family

Heart shaped tree before space background

We are family!

A reading from the book “Mary’s Messages to the World” by Annie Kirkwood.

“The family is a microcosm of the world. We are all one family. We each need to be treated with respect, love and honor. Begin to see the world as your family. Every soul on this planet is a creation of One Great Creator. Every culture is honorable, every race is to to be honored as God’s creation, every nation is a brother, every religion is a sister. Look to the sameness of life on this planet. See that the same love is expressed in every member of every nation.”

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I could not help but share this paragraph from the this book. I thought it was a great message.

β€œI love you and that’s the beginning and end of everything.”

F. Scott fitzgerald

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach and Certified Life Coach who believes in the power of Love to Heal, to Live, to Be, and to transform the planet. We came from Love, we are Love, and we will Return to Love. ❀ ❀ ❀

dreams, Passion, self-love

YOUR Dreams & Desires Matter! YOU Matter!

The thing you have to be prepared for is that other people don’t always dream your dream.

linda ronstadt

I ran across this quote from Linda Ronstadt this morning and thought it had a lot of depth to it.

The most important part is to realize that we all have dreams of some sort. Some of us have bigger ones than others, but everybody in life has dreams, hopes and desires. It is what fuels our soul and propels us forward.

Happy are those with big dreams that make them jump out of bed in the morning. πŸ™‚ This is akin to thriving and not just surviving.

It is also important to note that as the quote states “other people don’t always dream your dreams”. This means we are all different but more significant is that it is important for us to take our own dreams seriously, because they are OURS! If you don’t make your dreams a priority, who will?

As a Life Coach, I teach this often. YES, your dreams ARE important. YES you matter! YES it is important to go after what you want in life if you want to leave this earth fulfilled and feeling that it was a JOYous journey. YES. YES. YES to making your dreams come true or at least going for them. The JOY is in the journey but if we never take the first step, the journey never begins.

I hope you seriously take some time today to ponder on what is important to you. What are some of your dreams? And it does not matter how old you are or where you are at in life. You can ALWAYS have dreams and desires. I saw a positive article the other day about a paramedic crew that took a forester who was in palliative care on a 3 hour hike through the bush on a stretcher so he could be there one last time. It is NEVER too late to have wishes and desires.

Some of the best dreams fulfilled are simple ones like eating at a favorite restaurant, visiting with a friend, spending time in nature, taking time to get lost in a book or a movie. These all count but the most important thing is to decide and declare that your dreams need to be on your mind and your agenda.

Dream big or dream small, but do dream……

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach who loves to start the day inspired to fulfill her dreams and to inspire others to fill theirs. She believes her purpose here on earth is to make a difference and to help to remind people of the JOY available to them and to encourage their heart and eyes to see the beauty in life.

Good Vibes, Summer

EnJOYing the Energy of Summer

What comes to mind when you think of summer?

The first sound that comes to my mind is the sound of a lawn mower and the first thought is the deliciousness of ice cream on a hot, hot, day!

Summer truly has its own energy and JOY vibe! Luckily, where I live in Northern Canada, we get extended hours of daylight and around this time of year, it is light outside til close to 11 o’clock at night! And we Canadians sure take advantage of this, I tell you. We milk every drop of daylight we can. πŸ™‚ Our winters are long and cold we enJOY this time of year immensely!

Another sound of summer, which is not so much fun, are mosquitos. This morning I left the patio door open for the cat and big mistake. I am now batting mosquitos as I type this blog post LOL!

The older I get, the more I seem to tap into the energies around me. I find even the weather has its own energy. A rainy day feels much different than a bright sunny day. I like both, but they have different energies for sure.

I also find days of the week have different vibes and so do months of the year. The more we tap into ‘feeling’ these subtle energies the more in tune we become with our senses and the more we can delight in the dance of the soul.

JOY is my favorite frequency to tap into and I strive for reaching JOY every day that I am on earth. I know that life will always have the highs and the lows so when I can run with and on a high note, I take it! πŸ™‚

Oh, and in regard to JOY, in June I created an ebook on Finding JOY. If you would like to enJOY it, here is a link for a free download of the book:

https://payhip.com/b/LISf

I hope you tap into all the JOY the summer season has to offer. Whether it is time at the lake, hiking, time in nature, licking ice cream cones, lazy by the river, cloud watching, star gazing, or whatever brings you JOY, I hope you do it and take advantage of the summer vibe!

In JOY,

Maggie

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach and Certified Life Coach who is enJOYing her summer and looking forward to getting into the groove of the summer vibe. She knows it will speed by so she will soak up every drop of summer goodness as possible. πŸ™‚

hope

Mornings = HOPE

As I sit here at the keyboard, in the early morning, witnessing the birth of a brand new summer day, I am once again in awe of life. Mornings are the granted promise of a new day and with a new day comes new Hope.

Hope is the pillar that holds up the world. Hope is the dream of the a waking man.

pliny the elder

One of my favorite sayings that a friend shared with me years ago is “Where there is breath, there is Hope”. I’ve never forgotten that.

I hope you are all enJOYing your morning today and that you are excited for this new day that is full of Hope and Promise. I am infusing these words with extra LOVE if you who are reading this right now, need some extra LOVE. Blessings to YOU!

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Infinite Possibilities Coach & Trainer and Certified Life Coach who is grateful for another day, the promise of tomorrow and the glory that lies in between.

Recipe For Life, thoughts are things

An Interesting Thing About Recipes

This thought hit me this morning.

As a person who has a lot of cookbooks, I was thinking how I get inspired by them but you end up going back to the same recipes or go-to foods more often than not.

And then it hit me! This is like our thoughts and habits. Our brains work in patterns, repetition, and it always likes the familiar. This is why it is so easy to run trains of thoughts that may or may not serve us.

One thought attracts another thought and once you start you are on a roll. So thoughts are like recipes. We use the same ingredients (familiar thoughts) and we run our programs (the recipes.)

Now the question becomes is your thought recipe serving you or disempowering you? Are you running and making good recipes or are they self destructive recipes, kind of like unhealthy food? πŸ™‚

So if you catch yourself using thought patterns that are not for your highest good, the secret is to disrupt the brain pattern and switch to a new recipe. One technique that I use is my very own quote “I control my thoughts, they don’t control me”. I have developed a habit of catching my thoughts and then switching them. The more you do it the easiest it gets. These new thoughts start to become your go-to recipes… your new recipes. πŸ™‚

And the good news is just like when you find or develop a new recipe you love, you love it! Same with thought recipes, once you start using thought patterns that are good for you, it feels great and you want to use them more! Woo hoo!

Happy Recipe Creation!

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach, Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach, and Board Certified Nutritionist who has been working with and molding her thoughts for years. She believes that thoughts are our most valuable tool in our life creation kit.

Empowered, Relationships, Self Esteem, self-love

I Barely Recognized this Person!

An Amazing Story of Transformation from Suffering to FREEDOM!

Last night in the grocery store I was witness to something pretty amazing!

I ran into a woman who used to work for me and she was a different person. I have run into her a couple of times in the last couple of years and each time she has transformed more and more into this new beautiful person. But last night she was off the charts AMAZING!

In the past she was sick, in pain, down, irritable and you could tell she was just not happy. She didn’t enjoy her work or her life.

I will call this woman ‘Mary’. What changed for Mary? Mary became empowered. She left her husband and ventured out on her own. She now has her own home and she is happy. Her energy was light and airy and her eyes twinkled and sparkled and she looked like a completely different person to me.

Mary is excited about life now, no longer in physical pain, and she appeared radiantly happy. It just brought me so much JOY to see this. She even declared how happy she is and you could see it!

Sometimes in life we have to leave things like situations, jobs, relationships when they are no longer serving us for our highest good. What is the price we pay if we do not and we are suffering? We stay in suffering.

For me, any relationship that I have in my life, should empower me, not disempower me. Whether it is my friend, my partner, or a business relationship, I believe it should be mutually empowering, uplifting and beneficial for all, otherwise I am out.

Mary was such a clear messenger on how powerful and positive a change like this could make. She honored herself enough to leave this relationship that was not serving her and was not a loving and supportive situation, to keep it simple. I will not go into details. The point is that Mary took her life back and is now thriving and not merely surviving.

I just had to share this story because to me it is a sign of HOPE and what can be. Our lives can change when we choose to look closely at those things that are not serving us and are in fact disempowering ourselves, even if they are simple things like habits, conversations, self-talk, fears, etc.

By taking a look at what makes you ‘feel good’ in your life and what ‘sucks your life force and energy’, you can get clear on what you want more of in your life and what has to go.

I hope you found this post helpful even if it is just to open up more to ‘feeling’ your way through life and to use your feelings as your GPS to more Happiness.

Have an amazing day and I send nothing but Blessings to all who are reading this. πŸ™‚

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach who loves to empower and encourage people to take charge of their happiness and to design lives that they love. When you love your life, you radiate out into the world that love and it makes a huge difference for all of mankind. πŸ™‚

Free!, Joy

Finding JOY!

I am so excited! Today I released my FREE ebook on “Finding JOY”. Joy is a frequency that we want to tap into and yet some of us struggle with having JOY in our lives, so I created this free ebook to help anyone who wants to access more JOY.

This is a short but impactful little book that could change your life right away. I do hope you take advantage of this and get your free copy today!

And most of all I hope you enJOY the book as much as I enJOYed writing it.

Here is the link: