compassion, kindness, self-love

Compassion For Self

A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life.

christopher k. germer

Yesterday, while thrift store shopping, I was lucky enough to pick up a copy of Brene Brown’s book “The Gifts of Imperfection” Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are.

Although I haven’t read it yet, I have been skimming some of the pages and it is definitely resonating with me. I am reminded once again that we are not in this alone. We all suffer from the same things, self-doubt, insecurities, fear, lack of self-confidence and more. We are NOT alone! You, me and the stranger across the road, we’ve all been here or are here right now.

I write about self-love and compassion often and it seems for good reason. We can be so hard on ourselves. As I write this, I am glancing over at my cat Bella, curled up in a chair and I realize that when I look at Bella so cute like that, I instantly feel this emotion that I would call compassion. Why? I am not sure. I don’t need to be compassionate to her or for her but for some reason that emotion comes to mind. It makes me think that we all have compassion in us but being compassionate to ourselves often seems so challenging.

In my quest of getting a better understanding of compassion I found these synonyms:

pity, sympathy, feeling, fellow feeling, empathy, understanding, care, concern, solicitude, solicitousness, sensitivity, tender-heartedness, soft-heartedness, warm-heartedness, warmth, love, brotherly love, tenderness, gentleness, mercy, mercifulness, leniency, lenience, tolerance,  consideration, kindness, humanity, humaneness, kind-heartedness, charity, benevolence

The two that jumped out at me the most, were soft-heartedness and warm-heartedness. Yes this is what I feel when I look at Bella all cuddled up over on that chair. My heart is warm and melting and I just want to go over there and kiss her or cuddle her.

What if we could look in the mirror and feel that way about ourselves? Would it have an impact? I think it would. And I think if we felt that way towards ourselves we would open up our capacity to feel these tender feelings toward others and then the whole world benefits just like the starfish story, one starfish at a time. πŸ™‚

I hope you take the time to practice compassion and self-love for yourself today and always. I am going to start right away. Just writing this post has helped me to see the gift in compassion and to feel it’s power to shift and to heal. Will you join me? I would love to hear also what synonyms for compassion resonated with you or jumped out at you? πŸ™‚

Wishing you a day full of JOY and Compassion……

With Love,

Maggie

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach & Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach who loves to write as a way of expressing her feelings. She thanks you for taking the time today to stop by and spend a moment with her in her heart and soul.

compassion, Gentleness, kindness

Hard Times….

It has been awhile since I have made a blog post. I just haven’t been inspired but now I realize that it’s all ok and that blogging involves sharing through the highs and lows of life.

There seems to be so much sadness around lately and so many people going through extremely trying times… all the cycles of life and of life and death.

Yesterday we lost a very precious woman who was close to my heart, Pam Bowling, Pam was a mentor to me in business, a business partner and a friend. She was an amazing lady and I will honor her memory always. Pam was very much an entrepreneur like myself. Pam held me in the light always and encouraged me and my entire team onto success and I am forever grateful for that. In memory of Pam I will continue to forge ahead and to also help others on their journeys of creating and designing lives that bring them freedom….. to love, to grow, to inspire, to dream and to create lives that allow them to make the most of their time here on earth.

Pam was beautiful inside and out and if you knew her, you loved her!

While contemplating all of the heavy hearts and toil I see and feel going on around me, the only word that keeps coming to mind is “kindness”. Kindness, Kindness, Kindness. We need to be kind to each other, we need to be kind to ourselves and to be gentle with ourselves and others.

Kindness is that part of love that reaches out and offers support in times of need. Kindness is the thread of hope that bridges the gaps between pain and suffering. Kindness is the glue that helps to heal the holes created by loss. Kindness is a gift……

The fragrance always stays in the hand that gives the rose. Β 

hada Bejar

If you are reading this and need support or comfort, please know that love and kindness are sent your way today.

And to Pam…. I know you are now an angel for many of us and I feel you as the wind beneath my wings…..

beauty, Star Gazing, Sunsets

Take Your Breath Away!

β€œAll this knowledge of the objective world is of no value in comparison to having a little glimpse of the inner sky and its beauty β€” its sunrises and sunsets, its days and nights, its blue sky and its stars. The outer then looks only a pale reflection of the inner. The inner becomes more real and the outer becomes just a shadow.” -Osho

This summer I have had the pleasure of witnessing many beautiful sunrises, sunsets and stars that took my breath away.

For me, every time I gaze up at the starry sky I am reminded that this is where I come from. I feel a part of the entire universe in that moment.

I have a goal of learning night photography so I can capture the beauty of what my naked eyes sees and also what a camera is able to capture and my eye is not.

So often in life we search outside of ourselves for things to make us happy and then one day many of us realize that the things that were always there are the ones that make us most happy, like a sunrise, sunset or the stars.

What about you? What takes your breath away? What takes you to that place of feeling one with all that is?

I hope you find these beautiful moments in your life too. And the cool thing is that the more you find them, the more they appear, which is awesome!