Self Esteem, self-love

Be YourSELF!

Be Yourself by Maggie Holbik.com

“To thine own self be true”says Polonius in Hamlet. Very wise words indeed!

Yesterday as I was preparing for my guest appearance over on Elevated Radio today, talking about “owning our own voice and being who we are“, I came up with this acronym and thought it was pretty darn good. I know I sure will be keeping this handy to remind myself to just be ‘Me’. πŸ™‚

Be YourSELF YourSELF = Your Own Unique Real SELF

As of late, the topic of being real, raw, and authentic is a hot one in my world. I am personally working at getting better at this. In fact, I am challenging myself!

Yesterday a client and I were discussing through FB my blog post from yesterday where I was talking about judging and criticizing myself in my picture of myself. She mentioned she did it too! I said that I think we all do and then I sent her this:

Here was her response to me:

I answered her with IKR? (I know right) :-). But when I really thought about this, I thought I am onto something here. If I/we can challenge ourselves to put ourselves out there in a raw and real way, it will just get easier and then I can see the scales flipping! The more comfortable we get, the more we accept ourselves, the more we LOVE ourselves, and the more we are truly, truly, FREE.

FREE to be us! FREE to be comfortable with who we are. FREE to share our gifts with the world.

Now how awesome would that be? Let’s do it, shall we? πŸ™‚

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Board Certified Nutritionist who has a passion to help people to share their authentic selves with the world. She wants to see everyone sharing their gifts, being free to be THEM, shining their lights and living with passion!

Contact Maggie to join her email list or with any questions you might have.

Elevated Radio, love, self-love

Pure Raw and Real Love

Help me to remember that everyone I encounter is a child of God who will respond to pure LOVE”.

Alan cohen from his book “a breath of life”

Sometimes I turn to books for inspiration for my daily writing and to boost my own soul at the same time. Today I was drawn to this book from Alan Cohen. I had the pleasure of meeting Alan at a seminar he was speaking at and I was attending last November in Honolulu, Hawaii. I thoroughly enJOYed meeting him and listening to him speak. He exuberates the very definition of LOVE.

Here is a picture of the two of us. πŸ™‚ Of course when I looked at this picture today, I was criticizing myself that I needed a hair cut in this picture, I was looking at my double chin or was it a triple chin lol etc. etc. There was a lot I could find ‘wrong’ with this picture…….

Alan Cohen and Maggie Holbik
At the Soulapalooza conference in Honolulu, Hawaii, November, 2018

And then I stopped myself and said “Wait, Maggie this is not loving yourself, which is the whole point of this blog post. Love ourselves and one another and we will respond to this pure LOVE!

Wow! Eureka!….

To help with this, I am working at being even more ME. I am actually challenging myself to do this through more self acceptance, realness, rawness, and even video! LOL! If you have ever worked at doing videos of yourself, you know what I mean. πŸ™‚

Tomorrow I will be a guest over on Elevated Radio and will be talking about this very thing. It is going to be about owning our own voices and being who we are, which sounds delightful doesn’t it? πŸ™‚

Here is a link for the show if you would like to listen in or catch the replay.
https://elevatedradiofm.com/shows/owning-your-voice-being-you/

If you would like to listen to my prior 10 minute guest spot over at Elevated radio, here is the link for that.
https://elevatedradiofm.com/shows-archive/maggie-holbik-3-28-19/?fbclid=IwAR3xVlMntSoKVYsm6-wOrMAnCSN8qdS5gk-odL-qPoQHxR8Wyy5lx0TUHT8

I must confess that I just reread this blog post, as I do often, while composing posts, and I had to stop because I got teary eyed. I got teary eyed with the realization that most of us, including myself, have a deep seated fear of just being ‘who we are’. I know some of you reading this, who are my coaching clients for example, might not realize this about me or you might, but either way, I too suffer from this! And this is why I am challenging myself to be more me everyday and to share that with the world. Will you join me? πŸ™‚

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Board Certified Nutritionist who more importantly is a human being having a spiritual experience as she makes her own way through life, hoping she impacts others positively while co-creating on this beautiful journey of many souls.

Confessions

I Have a Confession to Make……

I have a confession to make. I’ll start by saying that through my life and work, I talk to a lot of people and I meet a lot of people. And so many of these people do not feel the way I do so I’m going to confess…..

Now before I confess, I will tell you that I don’t always feel this way but I really do en-JOY the opportunities I’m talking about, when they present themselves.

Okay here it goes… are you ready?

Okay here it goes …………..

I love being alone with myself!!!!

I think it’s AWESOME in fact. I en-JOY my own company!

So today I pondered on this and here is what I came up with.

I’ve come to the conclusion that the more that I love myself, the more that I like being alone with myself. I truly am my own best friend and hanging out with a bestie who is unconditional in their love and who is excited about their life is the best ever!

For the most part, I don’t even like music on and I rarely watch TV unless it’s something I am learning like a webinar or an uplifting movie. I LIKE being alone with my own thoughts because I use my thoughts as tools and use them wisely. I use them to bring me JOY and pleasure and to get excited about the gratitude I have for my life and my day. Now, of course, I don’t always feel this way and yes I do beat myself up sometimes, but not like I used too. Yep, this bestie has gotten smarter and wiser as she progresses along in life.

The other cool thing is when you are alone, there is no one to argue with or to have confrontation with, unless of course you are not being your own best friend, then you might need to revamp that to make life more smooth and to let ease and grace into your life.

And do you know what else I love? Going out to lunch by myself!!!! Again not always as I enJOY the company of others but I will tell you I enJOY my own company just as much and when I want to just dig in to all that delicious food I don’t have to stop and be polite and chat! LOL! Truth! Let me at this amazing food! Go for it Bestie! πŸ™‚ When the wait staff ask me if anyone is joining me today, I say “Yes my best friend, ME”.

Greek Salad from Cronos… I miss Cronos! They closed 😦

I hope that this confession inspires you to love yourself more, use your thoughts wisely, and to be your very own best friend… BFF … forever and for always and in all ways!

I send you who is reading this nothing but Blessings and I wish for you a JOY filled day.

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Registered Nutritional Therapist who LOVES empowering people to LOVE themselves more, to LOVE their life and to well… just ROCK IT!


β€œThe more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.” β€”Oprah Winfrey

Awakening, Divine Synchronicity, manifesting

The Alchemist

So this morning I was lying in bed and scrolling through Facebook. I happened upon a post about Paulo Coelho, the author of the book “The Alchemist”. It was about his life story and how the book came to be and has now been read by millions. He had a hard time getting it published and the publisher that eventually published it did so without really knowing why, which ties in with the theme of the book…..

Before I go on with my story, it’s interesting to note the definition of ‘alchemist’:

. a person who transforms or creates something through a seemingly magical process.

I was lying in bed thinking, I don’t think I’ve ever read this book, but I would like to. I thought about getting the online version but thought I’d just wait for now. Anyway, I couldn’t sleep anymore and I had woke up early, so I thought I would just get up and start my day. No one else was up yet so I thought I would go and do some organizing in my office downstairs, so I wouldn’t make noise upstairs.

As a side note, I pick up books now and again at thrift stores and such and use them for my learning, lending library for clients, and inspiration for writing and sharing. Anyways, I grabbed a stack of books to sort and about 3 books in, there it was “The Alchemist”. πŸ™‚

I love when this happens and it actually happens very often for me. In this case it was extra interesting when you read the definition of an alchemist. πŸ™‚

I love getting confirmation of the tantalizing powers behind our physical eye and our mere five senses. The more I tap into these wonderful forces, the more the magic happens.

I hope you too find JOY in the divine synchronicities that are available to all of us. I just read a FB post from a friend, whose missing remote control magically manifested onto her coffee table this morning after being missing for a long time. πŸ™‚

Have an AMAZING day everyone!

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Board Certified Nutritionist who delights in magics and miracles.

compassion, kindess, self-love

3 Ways to Be More Compassionate & How It Can Free YOU!

As of late, I seem to be lead to the words compassion and compassionate. I myself, am working diligently at being more compassionate and less judgmental which quite honestly is a work in progress. The cool thing though, is I am realizing that the more compassionate I am, the less I suffer. Wow. Think about that one for a moment…..

The More Compassionate We Are, The Less WE Suffer

The more compassionate we are, the less WE suffer. I don’t know about you, but I’m in. πŸ™‚

Just imagine a scenario where and when you might be judging someone without compassion. Maybe it’s judging the acts of a parent from your childhood, or a situation you witnessed at the park, or someone who declares that they are a supporter of a certain cause, or way of being, and you witness the opposite, or the grumpy store clerk that you want to judge and give the evil eye to. You know this list. It’s endless.

When I was a teenager, I had an ‘experience’ which I will now call a spiritual experience. It was made known to me that I was here on earth to learn to “Love and Not Judge”. I mostly forgot about this for much of my life, but lately I am getting gentle nudges to remember this and to act upon it. These reminders come through movies like the one I watched the other day called “The Shack”, which I really en-JOY-ed and recommend. It’s now on Netflix.

Reminders also come from watching the pains of those I love and my own pains as we go through life and we interact with those around us. I am reminded to let go of being the ‘judger‘. I know not why people do what they do and really it does not matter. The only thing I know for sure is that LOVE does heal all wounds, and true healing love is unconditional. Maybe not always in this lifetime for everyone, but it is possible and that gives me HOPE. There is always HOPE.

The Less We Judge Others, The More Peaceful WE Are!

What I also know for sure, is that the less I judge, the more peaceful I am and the more peaceful those I encounter are. Who likes to be judged? It’s an awful feeling. It’s like when you have someone come into your home and tell you what you should get rid of, or that you don’t need something, or you do need something, or you shouldn’t wear a certain piece of clothing because of xyz, or you should lose weight, or you should gain weight, or you should quit smoking, or you should stop this behavior or that behavior, or you should be this way or that way, or you should have said this or you shouldn’t have said that. It truly feels like an invasion of self and soul and it makes one very vulnerable.

Start With Self & Then Expand

We all know that having compassion for oneself is the ultimate compassion mountain to climb. I can be very hard on myself, just like the clients I coach who tell me how hard they are on themselves, so I know it’s not just me. I think we all struggle with this one because we are so afraid of self betrayal and truly struggle with loving ourselves and knowing that we are worthy. The secret here, is that if there is no judgement, worth does not even come into question!!!!! Wowsa! Amazing! Eureka! Something to think on and ponder on very deeply……

I am bearing witness to the many ways I judge and I am working on getting better at it. I am sorry to all those who I have passed judgement on and yet I am compassionate for myself for doing so. The exciting thing about all of this, is that awareness moves us forward. I am excited to work on having more compassion and I understand that all journeys involve steps, but they all start with the first….

I hope you found some comfort in this writing and I would love to hear your comments on how you have found more compassion in your life. That is another thing that I have learned, we don’t have to do it all alone…. being together on the journey provides comfort as well.

Blessings to all of you reading this. Blessings sent to others are of the highest and most compassionate frequency available to us. It’s like LOVE at its utmost, so many, many BLESSINGS sent to you, right now, right in this moment as YOU read this words.

With Much Love,

Maggie

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach, Board Certified Nutritionist and human being who is trying to remember to have more compassion and to forgive self and others quickly and easily so she can make space for more LOVE in her life and in the lives of those around her.


β€œThe only way out of the labyrinth of suffering is to forgive.”

john green

Happiness, Joy, Sunshine

The Smell of Sunshine

For years I have loved the ‘smell of sunshine’. I have not researched it much, but what I have, Googled, tells me there is no such thing. I don’t believe this however. πŸ™‚

I know and love the smell of sunshine!

When the sun shines on items, even through a window, eventually a beautiful smell is created and the only way to describe this scent is heavenly! I have a pink blanket on the end of my bed at my beach house, which gets a lot of sunshine everyday that it’s sunny, and the smell is divine. It’s like fresh air and sunshine combined.

Today I was telling my friend once again about the smell of sunshine and how much I love it. I asked her if she had ever heard of this and she said “No”. So I had her smell this throw that is on one of the chairs here that gets sunshine every morning. Sure enough she was able to smell what I was talking about and and she agreed with me completely!!! This smell is divine!

I encourage you to try smelling the sunshine in your house. It works best when it is cast on things that are made out of cotton or terry cloth. Natural fibers seem to soak up that sunshine the best! πŸ™‚

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who is all about JOY! She loves sunshine, smelling sunshine, and basking in sunshine! πŸ™‚


β€œKeep your face to the sun and you will never see the shadows.”

Hellen keller
Stress Management

6 Easy Ways to Lower Your Stress

6 Ways To Ramp Up Your Positive Vibe & Lower Your Stress!

Stress is the number one killer ... hands down. It affects every part of our being and our health and is a contributing factor to all disease in the body and mind. The best thing we can do to alleviate stress is to work at ramping up the positive and feel good side of our lives. Here are six ways to do that.

Be Grateful

An old Jewish saying recommends that we “bless one thousand things every day”. The more we bless the more we practice gratitude as well. They go hand and hand. From my own research, I have learned and believe, that Blessing something is the highest frequency available to us. Blessing something or someone really taps into the frequency of the highest vibration of all and has tremendous benefits.

Practice gratitude from the moment you arise in the morning until your head hits the pillow at night. Actively find things to be grateful for. The pillow beneath your head, the dishes you need to wash because you indeed have food to eat, the way you can walk by yourself to the bathroom… there are always things to find to be grateful for.

  • Be Aware Of Your Negative Thoughts

Mindfulness is the practice of paying attention, usually to your breath or your thoughts. Mindful breathing is often used to control stress, but mindful thinking can lead to a more positive life. We tend to take our thoughts for granted but they can still make a difference as they float through our minds.

I am very mindful and careful of the thoughts I think and use. I totally get that thoughts are tools that can create or destroy. I pick very wisely.

I control my thoughts, they don’t control me

Maggie holbik
  • Introduce Positive Thoughts

The staff at The Mayo Clinic point out that just like our thoughts can upset us when we don’t notice them creeping up, but we can also purposely introduce thoughts that make ourselves feel better. Trying to replace negative thoughts from our subconscious with positive thoughts from our conscious mind can be a very valuable tool.

I encourage my clients who struggle with negative thoughts, to have handy, positive replacement thoughts that they can draw upon when needed. The most powerful type of replacement thought are ones that also induce immediate gratitude as well. For example, have a thought ready about how you love your child, or pet, or even your favorite sweater and how it warms you and comforts you! All positive thoughts count.

  • Avoid Negative

Just do it! If you truly want to be happier and to lower your stress, refuse to partake in negative experiences that you have control over. Stop watching the news, ditch the FB friends or friends that are chronic complainers who always are finding fault with the city, the government, the neighbor, the etc. etc. etc. Who has time for this if they are trying to be stress free and happier? For me, I choose JOY! I say it over and over again and you will see it is a common thread in my blogging as well. I shout it from the rooftops “I CHOOSE JOY AND PEACE”!!!!! πŸ™‚

  • Look At Challenges As Opportunities

An article by author Paul Sloane published by Lifehack.org recommends looking at potential challenges or setbacks as opportunities to go in another direction. We tend to look at where we are as the culmination of a lot of hard work and so when things don’t go our way we feel like that work was for nothing. What if we looked at it in a different way? I offer you the thought that we have choices and choices mean change. We can always re-choose, re-group and decide again and we do this by looking at where we came from, or where we currently are, and then re-adjusting our direction because we realize we now choose differently. There are no mistakes, just experiences and experiences lead us to the new ones by helping us to discern the next step for us!

  • Spend Time In “Input Mode”

A 2016 article by Inc. points out that we are either in “input” mode or “output” mode. Output mode is when we are doing things for others, or making things, like when we are at work or doing things for our family and friends. Input mode is when we are doing things for ourselves like reading books, exercise, listening to positive materials and such. We can become overwhelmed and resentful when we spend too much time in output mode and not enough time practicing self-care and doing things to make us feeling fulfilled, so be sure to incorporate positive inbound activities that make you feel good and supported.

I hope you find these 6 tips helpful. πŸ™‚

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who loves to help people to lvoe themselves more and to find ways in their life to have more JOY, Peace, and to live with less Stress! πŸ™‚

Adapting, inspiration

Time Is a Currency So Use It Wisely

It’s that time of year where we move our clocks ahead one hour. Usually in the fall when the time goes back, I wait till the next day before I change any clocks. I love looking at my clocks around the house, and then saying “No, wait it’s only this time”. I feel like a kid in a candy store and the candy is time. πŸ™‚

In the spring I turn the clocks back the night prior so that I get right into the groove of that lost hour right away.

I think most of us really notice ‘losing that hour’ and it takes awhile to adjust. This got me thinking, if we notice one hour lost in one day in one year, imagine if we paid attention to the other hours of time we lose all year long? What do I mean by this? I am referring to all of the hours in the day that we do things like:

Being angry

Being frustrated

Worrying about things we cannot control

Being consumed with fear

Feeling victimized or disempowered

Etc.

You get the idea here. In every moment and in every day we have a choice as to how we use our time and what is most important about that is how we ‘energetically’ use our time. Do you use this energetic time to uplift and enhance your life and life force? Or do you use these moment s of time to create turmoil and strife in your day?

I invite you to ponder on how much time you lose that could be put to better use. Personally I choose JOY as much as possible and so I guard my energetic intention and time usage. My peace of mind and solace are worth more to me that trading that time for frustration or bitterness or anger or resentment. I pick PEACE! Plain and simple.

Time is a currency and that means we are always trading it for something. I hope you make trades that bring you the most JOY for the time you are giving up for it. LIfe is fleeting.

I just watched a show on Gaia “Yogi Paths” and this quote from one of the speakers (not sure of his name) but it fits this thought perfectly. “The hallmark of a genius is adaptability”. By adapting how we energetically consume and use our time, is a true sign of adaptability.

Blessings to all and I hope you are en-JOY-ing your Sunday!

anxiety, coping, stress

Stressed? Try this Quick Hack!

A Handy Go-To for Dealing with Stress

One of the things I have learned about putting things out to the universe or praying or whatever you want to call it, is that it works but there are ways that work better than others.

Today I will share my favorite go-to prayer that I use often and share with others often.

We all go through stressful situations in life. It’s not a matter of if we will, we will!!! Count on it! It is how we transition through these times that calls for the best use of our time and energy.

So without further adieu here is my go-to:

“Thank you God/Universe/Jesus/Source/You Fill in the Blank/ for already solving this problem for me.” And then you let it go! What we hold in our field with fear and dread stays attached to us and attracts more! This is why you want to declare that the problem or situation has been resolved and do so with Gratitude! Β When you say it, put in lots of grateful feelings along with the words and mean it! And then you release it!

How do you let your problem go? You do whatever it takes to shift your attention off of it.  Go to a movie, read a positive book, watch a video that raises your vibe, talk to a friend about ‘something else’, not the problem, tell a new story about how things ARE working out for you, etc. etc. Do whatever you must do to detach and shift your energetic and emotional attention to the matter. And then you let the Source that you believe in, solve your problem. It is important to note, that your problem cannot be solved if you keep putting out the energies that are associated with what you don’t want!

So in a nutshell we say the prayer acting as if the problem has already been solved, we do so with mucho gratitude and then we let it go!

I hope you find this helpful and also helpful to know that we all go through stressful times in life. You are not alone.

In Love & Light

Maggie πŸ™‚


“A grateful heart opens the gateway to peace”.

Maggie Holbik.com

Life Purpose, Numerology, see333, Self-Discovery

What Is Numerology

When I first learned of this ancient science, my life truly changed for the better. I remember the moment distinctly. Someone sent me this:

β€œThose on the 30/3 life path are here to work through issues of expression and sensitivity, overcoming self-doubt to express themselves and use their inner gifts to encourage, uplift, and inspire others.”

It comes from Dan Millman’s book β€œTHE LIFE YOU WERE BORN TO LIVE”: Β A Guide to Finding Your Life Purpose, and I happen to be a Lifepath 30/3.

When I read that passage my whole life made sense! I understood myself and I really β€˜got who I was’. It was like my life flashing before my eyes. 😊

Anyhow, from that moment on I became fascinated with numerology and I began to study it. To this day I resonate with this art form involving the frequency of numbers. Everything has an energetic frequency and so do numbers. Β Each number has a unique vibration, giving it certain properties. These properties can shed light onto a person’s behavior or predict whether romantic partners are compatible. Numerological analysis can determine a person’s soul urgings and tendencies. Recurring numbers can offer clues into how the world works or the significance of people and events. There are so many people today seeing recurring number frequencies on a daily basis. For example 11 11, 333, 444, etc.

Pythagorus, the mathematician born in 570 BC, developed theΒ Pythagorean theorem and that is what most people know him for, but he also developed and taught a system for numerology.

If you would like to explore your own numbers and what they might mean I do offer numerology reports. Β There are 3 to choose from:

  • Life Path Overview
  • Yearly Forecast
  • Relationship Compatibility Report

You can learn more at www.MaggiesNumbers.com

I love using tools like numerology to help myself and others to discover more personal insight into what moves their soul and why.

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Board Certified Nutritionist who loves to use her inner gifts to encourage, uplift, and inspire others. πŸ™‚