Stress Management

6 Easy Ways to Lower Your Stress

6 Ways To Ramp Up Your Positive Vibe & Lower Your Stress!

Stress is the number one killer ... hands down. It affects every part of our being and our health and is a contributing factor to all disease in the body and mind. The best thing we can do to alleviate stress is to work at ramping up the positive and feel good side of our lives. Here are six ways to do that.

Be Grateful

An old Jewish saying recommends that we “bless one thousand things every day”. The more we bless the more we practice gratitude as well. They go hand and hand. From my own research, I have learned and believe, that Blessing something is the highest frequency available to us. Blessing something or someone really taps into the frequency of the highest vibration of all and has tremendous benefits.

Practice gratitude from the moment you arise in the morning until your head hits the pillow at night. Actively find things to be grateful for. The pillow beneath your head, the dishes you need to wash because you indeed have food to eat, the way you can walk by yourself to the bathroom… there are always things to find to be grateful for.

  • Be Aware Of Your Negative Thoughts

Mindfulness is the practice of paying attention, usually to your breath or your thoughts. Mindful breathing is often used to control stress, but mindful thinking can lead to a more positive life. We tend to take our thoughts for granted but they can still make a difference as they float through our minds.

I am very mindful and careful of the thoughts I think and use. I totally get that thoughts are tools that can create or destroy. I pick very wisely.

I control my thoughts, they don’t control me

Maggie holbik
  • Introduce Positive Thoughts

The staff at The Mayo Clinic point out that just like our thoughts can upset us when we don’t notice them creeping up, but we can also purposely introduce thoughts that make ourselves feel better. Trying to replace negative thoughts from our subconscious with positive thoughts from our conscious mind can be a very valuable tool.

I encourage my clients who struggle with negative thoughts, to have handy, positive replacement thoughts that they can draw upon when needed. The most powerful type of replacement thought are ones that also induce immediate gratitude as well. For example, have a thought ready about how you love your child, or pet, or even your favorite sweater and how it warms you and comforts you! All positive thoughts count.

  • Avoid Negative

Just do it! If you truly want to be happier and to lower your stress, refuse to partake in negative experiences that you have control over. Stop watching the news, ditch the FB friends or friends that are chronic complainers who always are finding fault with the city, the government, the neighbor, the etc. etc. etc. Who has time for this if they are trying to be stress free and happier? For me, I choose JOY! I say it over and over again and you will see it is a common thread in my blogging as well. I shout it from the rooftops “I CHOOSE JOY AND PEACE”!!!!! 🙂

  • Look At Challenges As Opportunities

An article by author Paul Sloane published by Lifehack.org recommends looking at potential challenges or setbacks as opportunities to go in another direction. We tend to look at where we are as the culmination of a lot of hard work and so when things don’t go our way we feel like that work was for nothing. What if we looked at it in a different way? I offer you the thought that we have choices and choices mean change. We can always re-choose, re-group and decide again and we do this by looking at where we came from, or where we currently are, and then re-adjusting our direction because we realize we now choose differently. There are no mistakes, just experiences and experiences lead us to the new ones by helping us to discern the next step for us!

  • Spend Time In “Input Mode”

A 2016 article by Inc. points out that we are either in “input” mode or “output” mode. Output mode is when we are doing things for others, or making things, like when we are at work or doing things for our family and friends. Input mode is when we are doing things for ourselves like reading books, exercise, listening to positive materials and such. We can become overwhelmed and resentful when we spend too much time in output mode and not enough time practicing self-care and doing things to make us feeling fulfilled, so be sure to incorporate positive inbound activities that make you feel good and supported.

I hope you find these 6 tips helpful. 🙂

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Nutritionist who loves to help people to lvoe themselves more and to find ways in their life to have more JOY, Peace, and to live with less Stress! 🙂

Adapting, inspiration

Time Is a Currency So Use It Wisely

It’s that time of year where we move our clocks ahead one hour. Usually in the fall when the time goes back, I wait till the next day before I change any clocks. I love looking at my clocks around the house, and then saying “No, wait it’s only this time”. I feel like a kid in a candy store and the candy is time. 🙂

In the spring I turn the clocks back the night prior so that I get right into the groove of that lost hour right away.

I think most of us really notice ‘losing that hour’ and it takes awhile to adjust. This got me thinking, if we notice one hour lost in one day in one year, imagine if we paid attention to the other hours of time we lose all year long? What do I mean by this? I am referring to all of the hours in the day that we do things like:

Being angry

Being frustrated

Worrying about things we cannot control

Being consumed with fear

Feeling victimized or disempowered

Etc.

You get the idea here. In every moment and in every day we have a choice as to how we use our time and what is most important about that is how we ‘energetically’ use our time. Do you use this energetic time to uplift and enhance your life and life force? Or do you use these moment s of time to create turmoil and strife in your day?

I invite you to ponder on how much time you lose that could be put to better use. Personally I choose JOY as much as possible and so I guard my energetic intention and time usage. My peace of mind and solace are worth more to me that trading that time for frustration or bitterness or anger or resentment. I pick PEACE! Plain and simple.

Time is a currency and that means we are always trading it for something. I hope you make trades that bring you the most JOY for the time you are giving up for it. LIfe is fleeting.

I just watched a show on Gaia “Yogi Paths” and this quote from one of the speakers (not sure of his name) but it fits this thought perfectly. “The hallmark of a genius is adaptability”. By adapting how we energetically consume and use our time, is a true sign of adaptability.

Blessings to all and I hope you are en-JOY-ing your Sunday!

anxiety, coping, stress

Stressed? Try this Quick Hack!

A Handy Go-To for Dealing with Stress

One of the things I have learned about putting things out to the universe or praying or whatever you want to call it, is that it works but there are ways that work better than others.

Today I will share my favorite go-to prayer that I use often and share with others often.

We all go through stressful situations in life. It’s not a matter of if we will, we will!!! Count on it! It is how we transition through these times that calls for the best use of our time and energy.

So without further adieu here is my go-to:

“Thank you God/Universe/Jesus/Source/You Fill in the Blank/ for already solving this problem for me.” And then you let it go! What we hold in our field with fear and dread stays attached to us and attracts more! This is why you want to declare that the problem or situation has been resolved and do so with Gratitude!  When you say it, put in lots of grateful feelings along with the words and mean it! And then you release it!

How do you let your problem go? You do whatever it takes to shift your attention off of it.  Go to a movie, read a positive book, watch a video that raises your vibe, talk to a friend about ‘something else’, not the problem, tell a new story about how things ARE working out for you, etc. etc. Do whatever you must do to detach and shift your energetic and emotional attention to the matter. And then you let the Source that you believe in, solve your problem. It is important to note, that your problem cannot be solved if you keep putting out the energies that are associated with what you don’t want!

So in a nutshell we say the prayer acting as if the problem has already been solved, we do so with mucho gratitude and then we let it go!

I hope you find this helpful and also helpful to know that we all go through stressful times in life. You are not alone.

In Love & Light

Maggie 🙂


“A grateful heart opens the gateway to peace”.

Maggie Holbik.com

Life Purpose, Numerology, see333, Self-Discovery

What Is Numerology

When I first learned of this ancient science, my life truly changed for the better. I remember the moment distinctly. Someone sent me this:

“Those on the 30/3 life path are here to work through issues of expression and sensitivity, overcoming self-doubt to express themselves and use their inner gifts to encourage, uplift, and inspire others.”

It comes from Dan Millman’s book “THE LIFE YOU WERE BORN TO LIVE”:  A Guide to Finding Your Life Purpose, and I happen to be a Lifepath 30/3.

When I read that passage my whole life made sense! I understood myself and I really ‘got who I was’. It was like my life flashing before my eyes. 😊

Anyhow, from that moment on I became fascinated with numerology and I began to study it. To this day I resonate with this art form involving the frequency of numbers. Everything has an energetic frequency and so do numbers.  Each number has a unique vibration, giving it certain properties. These properties can shed light onto a person’s behavior or predict whether romantic partners are compatible. Numerological analysis can determine a person’s soul urgings and tendencies. Recurring numbers can offer clues into how the world works or the significance of people and events. There are so many people today seeing recurring number frequencies on a daily basis. For example 11 11, 333, 444, etc.

Pythagorus, the mathematician born in 570 BC, developed the Pythagorean theorem and that is what most people know him for, but he also developed and taught a system for numerology.

If you would like to explore your own numbers and what they might mean I do offer numerology reports.  There are 3 to choose from:

  • Life Path Overview
  • Yearly Forecast
  • Relationship Compatibility Report

You can learn more at www.MaggiesNumbers.com

I love using tools like numerology to help myself and others to discover more personal insight into what moves their soul and why.

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Board Certified Nutritionist who loves to use her inner gifts to encourage, uplift, and inspire others. 🙂

compassion, Don's Poems, kindness

The Mirror

A Poem by Don, year unknown

The Mirror

When I look at my neighbor, what do I see?

I see a person looking back at me.

Is the person I see compassionate and kind?

Are these the thoughts that go through my mind?

Do I see anger, loneliness and despair?

Does his life seem empty and full of fear?

Do I see Love, Beauty, and JOY?

Do I feel compassion and I don’t know why?

The thoughts that I have are who I must be…

Because the person I see, is a mirror of me.

Don Perry

compassion, kindness, Poems by Don, poetry

Kindness

A Poem by my Spouse and Friend, Don Perry

Kindness

In goodness and kindness, God made us like him,

So we can make a difference in this world we are in.

Be kind to the person with the different colored skin,

For he is your brother with the same feelings within.

Be kind to the beggar who begs night and day,

For we don’t know why his life is that way.

Be kind to the person who is having a bad day.

Forgive and don’t judge him for he words he might say.

Be kind with your words and things that you do,

And people will like it and duplicate you.

If we are all being kind in the things that we do and say,

We can change the world as we know it today.

Don Perry

January, 2001

Courage, Facing Adversity, Forgiving, Gratitude, inspiration

The Gift of Mistakes!

mistakes are proof

Here is another quote from the book of quotes that my daughter gave me for Valentine’s Day. I adore these quotes from the book that she made for me by hand. Each day, when I open one, it is a gift and I treasure it.

Today’s made me think about the word ‘mistake’. I have come to believe that there are no mistakes in life, or at least I try not to look at them that way anymore. I see all experiences as stepping stones or as what I call “the contrast”. The contrast simply means an experience that I have had that shows me what I really, really, want verses “the contrast”, which is what I don’t want or no longer want to bring into my life and my life’s experiences.

A simple example could be a relationship that one has had.  If you left a marriage or relationship of any kind, instead of seeing it as bad or wasted time, why not see it as the gift of showing you what you DO want in a relationship. Because of your past experience, you are much clearer on what is important for you to create in your life now.

The other day I wrote a blog post, also inspired by my daughter’s quote book, from that blog post I will quote myself here in reference to me saying No to an opportunity to be interviewed on a TV show about my overcoming adversity in health and life. I will put the link  later in this blog post to read the full post but for now here  is me quoting me: 🙂

‘”I see all of my past experiences as stepping stones that have gotten me to where I am today. The hardships and challenges have made me who I am so I see them as GIFTS! I did not feel I could properly convey myself to share the hardship piece because I don’t feel that way.  I see everything as if it was perfect! It was the contrast I needed to show me what I do want. 🙂 I don’t want to talk about painful stuff. It does not serve me. I am too focused on where I am now and en-JOY-ing the next phase.  I hope this makes sense cause I feel I am having a hard time conveying it for some reason…. but that’s okay, no perfection here. 🙂”

Here is the link to that prior blog post if you would like to read the entire piece. Maggie’s Prior Blog Post

The cool thing about that prior blog post was that I got great responses from people and I could tell that it really helped them to shift the way they saw their past. For example here is one private message that I received:

“Love the blog post and Sivanna’s book. Wow ! Lots of love in that. So I’m thinking or it hit me as I read , I need to change how I think of my marriage and my ex. I think of it as lost time. Wasted years. Years of sadness and lack that I beat myself up for tolerating.”

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I was very happy to see this message from this is a client of mine that I know well,  It was an awesome moment for me to see her willing to let go of holding onto thinking of her past in a painful way. This does not serve us. It only robs us of the JOY we can have right now. I often say that the past already caused us pain, why let it cause you more pain today all over again? That’s like a double whammy!

I hope you too can start to think of so called mistakes as stepping stones to creating the life that you DO want and that will bring you more JOY, Love, Happiness and Magical relationships of all  kinds! When we let go of that which no longer serves us, we can be FREE! 🙂

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach, Speaker, Nutritionist and Workshop Facilitator who is learning that she loves to blog too! 🙂 JOY, JOY, JOY!

Butterfly Magic

 

Happiness, health, inspiration

Smile Power!

smile change

The second quote in my new quote book made for me by my daughter Sivanna, is this:

“Let your smile change the world but don’t let the world change your smile.”

Perfect. 🙂

I don’t think there is much I need to say about this one, other than I love it and I’m smiling right now 🙂

 

Family, love

Happy Valentine’s Sivanna

sivanna roses.jpg

This is a picture of my daughter Sivanna on Valentine’s Day. Her Dad calls her “Sivanna Roses” and here she is with a rose and also a rose she made me, her Mom, for Valentine’s Day. 🙂

Sivanna’s Dad wrote her the following poem this year for Valentine’s Day.

Happy Valentine’s Sivanna

You light up my life. You shine like a star wherever you go.

I love spending time with you.

I love our special time together when you make your

special desserts before bedtime.

You will always be my special Valentine and I

will be yours until you find your own special Valentine.

Happy Valentines

Love All Ways,

Dad

February 14, 2019

 

sivanna and dad thyme

Happiness, health, inspiration, Life's Challenges

The Gift of Inspiration

On Valentine’s Day my daughter gave me the most beautiful gift. She made both her Dad and I a handmade book full of inspirational quotes. We are to open one a day. She spent a lot of time making these books and we absolutely love them, of course.

This was the back of my book… and she used my proper name so this is an official real book. 🙂

margaret

I thought these quotes will be great to give me ideas for blog posts too. Here is today’s.  I am sure you can figure out that there is a little spelling error and the word should be stronger, not stoner :-). This makes it even more adorable to me. As long as we know what she meant, it’s perfect! I have learned that imperfection is perfect, and if we focus on perfection we will never be the artists of the world… something to ponder on. 😉

strongerhand

 

I love this quote because it is a great example of life. It’s not a matter of if we will fall or fail, we will! But it’s more important that we keep trying and that we get back up and that we become stronger from the falls and the fails.

Recently someone asked me to be a guest on their TV show sharing my personal story of struggle and hardship through to wellness because they knew I had a story.  I thought about it, listened to my gut, and declined.

I see all of my past experiences as stepping stones that have gotten me to where I am today. The hardships and challenges have made me who I am so I see them as GIFTS! I did not feel I could properly convey myself to share the hardship piece because I don’t feel that way.  I see everything as if it was perfect! It was the contrast I needed to show me what I do want. 🙂 I don’t want to talk about painful stuff. It does not serve me. I am too focused on where I am now and en-JOY-ing the next phase.  I hope this makes sense cause I feel I am having a hard time conveying it for some reason…. but that’s okay, no perfection here. 🙂

Anyhow, I am so looking forward to opening these quotes up everyday. What a delight and what a thoughtful gift… the BEST!

Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Registered Nutritional Therapist who loves to both inspire and to be inspired.

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